... to decline Easter Eggs for DCs?

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I think I am being totally reasonable and sane, but the reaction I got made me wonder.

As I left the house for the school run earlier, an elderly widowed neighbour asked if it would be ok if she bought my DCs Easter eggs.

They already get so much chocolate at Easter, despite our repeated represehtations to well meaning family, that we don't get them any, and still end up melting some down for rice crispy cakes.

So I thanked her profusely for thinking of us so kindly, but firmly said that they are already overprovided, so please don't bother.

She looked quite put out.

I've gone over the conversation and I know I wasn't rude - in fact I made a point of thanking her for her generosity at least three times.

WIBU?

yes, you were being unreasonable, if you have too many eggs why not drop them at the local food bank, im sure there will be hard up families out there who would be grateful for them. Also, the poor old dear was probably lonely and reaching out.

And another thing - you can NEVER have too much chocolate

Couldn't you have just kept it for the summer holidays or Christmas? Seems like she was just trying to do a nice thing.

Yes, YABU.

Not in a particularly bad though...I'd just say thanks and scoff them myself.

Sometimes its kinder to just let folk do things for us, even if it is a bit annoying! :) IMO .

Aww YWBU. Poor soul, you could always donate or melt the eggs and use in baking?

It really wouldn't have hurt to make her feel better by letting her buy them eggs would it?

Food banks or re-gifting would be the way to go if you really don't want to melt down the minuscule amount of chocolate most easter eggs contain.

It may be that she has nobody to buy for and so, although you weren't being unreasonable, she may still have been disappointed. Maybe you could get the children to make her an Easter card or something so she knows you were not being "off" with her

Yes YABU. Shes just being nice.

Easter eggs in the cupboard to use through the year hurts noone.

But you have hurt that ladies feelings.

I'm sure your logic is entirely reasonable but suggesting to your neighbour that she "didn't bother" to buy Easter eggs for your dcs comes across as very hurtful. Moral superiority is all very well but not at the expense of being unnecessarily unkind.

Why turn it down?

This year i will accept all offers of eggs and then hide a few for myself. No one turns down chocolate!

I agree with the others.

An elderly friend of my parents has got an Easter egg for DS. He doesn't need more, they will last him for months or until I eat them but for her buying them makes her feel good so why would anyone take that away from someone?

Agree. I would accept graciously and eat them myself.

Send them to me . Seriously though, everyone else has said it. YABU. You could have graciously accepted and given them to me a food bank or similar.

Think you've inadvertently hurt her feelings, I'd have accepted tbh & just shoved in the cupboard-they last for ages unless I go on a chocolate binge

FFS No you weren't being unreasonable. People on here are weird. Not obliged to accept any chocolate from anyone if you don't want to.

Oh, ok, IABU. I am not good at neighbour things, possibly. We haven't lived here for long, and I grew up hundreds of miles away where possibly the customs are different.

I think she probably bore the brunt of my frustrations with family not bloody listening when we ask them not to inundate the DCs with crap stuff they don't need so when she said could she buy for them or were they already over-provided for I jumped at the chance to head it off in advance IYSWIM.

If she had just turned up with them we would have thanked her and put them away safely - in fact I've already had to do this.

But I shall bear your comments in mind.

Would "Oh that would be very kind but there's really no need" have been a better response?

Yes. Much better response.

I second whoever said you should get the DCs to make her an easter card.

You could have said that.

Better would have been "Thanks so much" :)

Would "Oh that would be very kind but there's really no need" have been a better response?

Do you really need to ask?
Of course it would have been a better response!

You can never have too many easter eggs, I like to hide some and eat them on my day off when no one knows what I am doing

Seriously though - I don't have to buy treats for the DCs until the summer hols after easter. They just have a little bit of the chocolate as and when, they last for ages anyway.

Someone who I work with brings her children's surplus eggs in to work for us to eat instead. Yum Yum. Hope she does the same this year!

I had a similar situation with a neighbour who would buy second hand books for my DS who was 3 at the time. It started with a couple of books and then became a small pile every week. My DP wanted me to refuse them after a while as we lived in a 2 bedroom flat that was filling up fast with piles of books. I didn't refuse them as it felt incredibly cruel to do so, he got a lot of joy out of seeing DS receive them with great enthusiasm. I did say to him by the end that it was very kind of him but there might be some other children that would appreciate some books but it didn't work, he was just lonely and wanted company. Sometimes he would come in and watch the tennis as he said his tv was broken and he didn't want to miss a match.

I would accept them and ration them out. We are still making our way through the chocolate we got at Christmas. Our Easter Eggs normally keep us going till the summer.

I don't see why everything has to be accepted tbh.

I also don't think that there's much point in accepting with the intention of giving away.

The neighbour wants to buy specifically for OP's children.

If she wants to buy some to give away, she can do so!

If you say there's no need-wouldn't she go ahead anyway?