to ask if you take a gift

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to the evening do of a wedding? DH's friends are getting married and sent out invitation to people to come celebrate with them in the evening. I've only been to one wedding reception and I think I did take a gift along that time. I don't know if you're really just meant to buy gifts if you are invited to the actual wedding as well as the evening reception or gifts regardless. We haven't been presented with a list of gift ideas but I assume that lists are specifically for people who are invited to the wedding - just worried about what's expected.

Personally yes I would.

I would.

I'd take something small.

Nice chocolates, or wine. Something like that.

:)

think I would take a nice bottle of wine in that case.

I would take a gift - I think it would be odd not to tbh.

I would take something small too.

I would take a gift, but I wouldn't spend as much as I would have done if I had been invited all day. It would be rude to go with nothing though.

Yes, I too would take a gift. Something not too expensive such as a photo frame or a simple vase.

I would always try to find out what thecouple wanted. Always aim to take a token.

I think if nothing specified and you don't know them that well (you say DH's friends and assuming your husband would be clueless as to what they like to drink, or if they like chocolates) then I would take a Debenhams or M&S voucher or similar, doesn't have to be for much just £10 or £20

ok thank you for confirming!! I did feel something small was in order but DH hasn't a clue either! For our own wedding only one person turned up with a gift at the evening do which I thought was a really nice gesture on his behalf but that's what basically caused my confusion - never had to worry about it before now as everyone I knew (except one friend) has already been married!

x-post Bejeena!

Crikey I'm surprised only 1 evening guest bought you a gift! I always thought it was good manners to bring something to weddings, birthdays, christenings etc.

I would always give at least £25 for a gift when I attend an evening do.

I can't believe all those people came to your wedding without a gift!! How rude.

I certainly wouldn't take a gift if I was only invited to the evening. A £25 gift for a few sausage rolls and two hours of Gangnam style

It's not a payment, its a gift.

Of course!

The gift I give is not payment for entry to a sub-standard disco. It's to wish my friends well and to mark the very special occasion of their marriage.

Yup, we do. Nothing huge - wine, photo frame, voucher.

I usually do. Most of the weddings I have been to recently have asked the main guests for honeymoon vouchers so I would get them a £20 voucher. If they havent done a guest list I would get a nice photo frame or a voucher for John Lewis.

Oh yes

Yes, usually give 50 quid for daytime and 20 for just evening invite or a nice gift such as champagne, photo frame etc.

Cannot believe only 1 person bought you a gift from your evening guests. I'm gobsmacked by that!

hope, what a strange attitude its a gift, not an entrance ticket. Perhaps you were one of the ops evening guests