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AIBU?

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To be annoyed at the meat consumed this week.

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IceBergJam · 17/03/2013 12:11

I did the shopping, protein to last two weeks. I was away for four days. Im cooking a roast today.

DH and DSS x 2 have gotten through

Two large packs of bacon
2kg chicken breast
600g mince
1 chorizo sausage
And today a roast chicken

DSS wont eat meals without meat protein, and wont fill up on veg and carbs. Had enough of the money spent out on food shopping.

I suggested cheap meal ideas, but they chomped through it for breakfast, packed lunch and dinner, plus pizzas and various crap potato products.

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IceBergJam · 17/03/2013 12:54

We are trying to sell my negative equalty house left over from 8 years ago, so we need to keep control of finaces. It isn't going well.

I'm happy for them to eat whenever they are hungry, there is bread, cereal, noodles, cakes, bicsuits, fruit, ham, cheese, veg , bagels, pizzas. They don't have to go hungry.

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Theas18 · 17/03/2013 12:54

The 16 yr old is probably "so pale" because his diet is actually very poor in quality nutrition!

I'm off now. Fat too much drip feed and martyrdom now.change things our put up.your choice.

Fairylea · 17/03/2013 12:57

I'd also just not buy any more meat until you would normally and go vegetarian for a week.

Also set a rule that no one moans about what is put in front of them... you either eat the family meal or not. If you're on a budget it's not fair otherwise.

ihearsounds · 17/03/2013 13:04

Its time to stop pandering. Their diets are shit, and long term it's not doing the family any favours.. Cook a meal, reduce the amount of meat and add veg. You are eating as a family, and you aren't prepared to live on shit. This is how you move forward by taking a firm stance to it.

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IceBergJam · 17/03/2013 13:04

I do try to conpromise and make things like meat balls, chicken wraps, bacon carbonara which can all be done cheaply, but im running out of ideas.

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ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 17/03/2013 13:08

Don't buy any more meat. Make whatever you want, and if they don't want it they can feed themselves.

Have a look at some of the fussy eating toddler threads on here, teenagers aren't that different...

MummyNoName · 17/03/2013 13:10

I would definitely make just one meal. Fill with beans/lentils and veg with some meat too.

If try don't like it then they can make themselves some toast.

You don't want to hear any moaning. It is what it is. You're a family. You don't have the money to pander to everyone's 'wants'. A healthy meal will not make them combust on the spot.

Like it or lump it. I'm cooking one meal and that's that-that's what I'd say.

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IceBergJam · 17/03/2013 13:13

I have popped over to the fussy threads. Ill take another look.

Im worried that if we stand firm then it will make them feel uncomfatable with us. I want to do it in a way that isnt confrontational. I think perhaps ill gather meal ideas or see what their mother does.

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MajaBiene · 17/03/2013 13:18

Pandering to teenage fussy eaters is ridiculous! My 2 year old has similar amounts of things he won't eat, but I just cook normal, tasty dinners and if he doesn't want it he can have a piece of toast or cereal.

AmberSocks · 17/03/2013 13:22

just read your other post,just cook what you want,if i am maknig something i know one of mine isnt keen on i put extra bread/salad/veg on the table.

PeachActiviaMinge · 17/03/2013 13:23

Freddie I'm amazed by the amount of meat your lot eat! We use 300g mince for a meal for 3 greedy people with leftovers 1lb of Chicken Breast 300g stewing steak etc. Not being picky or bitchy but doesn't it cost you a fortune?

Ice We have a rule in this house, You can eat what you're given or you know where the fruit/toaster is. I listen to everyones preferences and try to serve up their favourite meals but we all compromise. We're having stew and dumplings today made with 300g mince and lots of veg if you don't like one of the types of veg in the stew then you're welcome to ignore it.

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IceBergJam · 17/03/2013 13:23

Maja, I do the same for my daughter.

I am happy with being tough on the 18 year.old, but the 16 year old seems a different kind of fussy eating, but im not sure that makes sense. Perhaps I have two issues, the meat DH cooked in four days, and then the teens eating habits. This second issue is perhaps not for aibu but for the fussy eating topics.

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IneedAsockamnesty · 17/03/2013 13:30

They are being gluttons and are being enabled to.

But seen as you are the only person who has a problem with their eating beliefs then the only thing you an do is either put up with it or make dh both provide and cater totally to it.

ivanapoo · 17/03/2013 13:32

Try Mexican style wraps with refried beans, fried pepper and onion, grated raw carrot, salsa, bit of grated cheese. If they must have meat slice some chicken breast thinly, marinate & fry. It takes about 15 mins to prep, max.

TheSecondComing · 17/03/2013 13:33

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flippinada · 17/03/2013 13:44

That is an awful lot and given the cost of meat I'm not surprised you're cross.

However, some people seem to think teenage boys "need" to eat shedloads of meat or they'll wither away to nothing, so lots of people will say yabu.

Eating such a huge amount of food without thought for others in the family, and with no regard to the effort involved in getting to the shops and buying the stuff, at their age - it's selfish and thoughtless.

What about sending them to the supermarket to replace some of the stuff they've eaten? Is that doable?

flippinada · 17/03/2013 13:45

Reread and I see it's DH and DS, I thought it was two teens, sorry.

DH should certainly know better.

flippinada · 17/03/2013 13:58

I see they also have ludicrously fussy eating habits.

The older one who's working should be contributing to the food bill if he eats that much, and if he doesn't want to eat what is kindly provided for him then he can make his own food.

flippinada · 17/03/2013 13:59

Also, sixteen is not too young to be cooking (at the very least) basic meals.

ElliesWellies · 17/03/2013 13:59

YANBU. Far too much meat for their health, but the real point is, you told them you were saving some for meals and they just went ahead and ate it. How bloody rude.

Wishihadabs · 17/03/2013 13:59

Just checking I've got this right. Your dss is basically an adult (18) earning his own money ? He should be contributing towards the family. The 16 year old is different if still at school/college. I agree with the poster who said that this is your DH' s problem. They are his son's and he enabled them to eat that food.

As an aside how do you eat mince without it being sloppy ? Burgers I guess

flippinada · 17/03/2013 14:09

I suspect the real problem is DH enabling these unhealthy eating habits and ignoring your attempts to economise.

Why didn't he stop and think hang on, IceBerg told us this stuff needs to last us for two weeks?

specialsubject · 17/03/2013 14:12

stop cooking and shopping except for what you eat, in sufficient quantities to share.

house, not restaurant.

Wishihadabs · 17/03/2013 14:14

I agree send the three of them out to replace what they have eaten.

lashingsofbingeinghere · 17/03/2013 14:22

I would get your DSS to cook for themselves using the food you can afford to provide. Get them a couple of easy cook books and leave them to it.

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