Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Protection built in.

Meet the Other Phone.
Protection built in.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Goodbye or not goodbye

28 replies

beautyfades · 16/03/2013 17:45

Iv a 13 yr near 14 old DD, been on my own with her since birth. Anyway iv met up a couple of times with a guy, no sparks, but he works an seems quite nice. When he asked could he call in for a cuppa last night i agreed. So he comes in sits in living room(tiny terraced) with me an DD, DD says hello to him, we chat an have couple coffees. When its time to go he stood up, walked out, but didnT say goodbye to DD. Shes a young adult and even said to me mum wouldnt you of thought hed of said bye? anyway iv gone right off him! But AIBU??

OP posts:
idshagphilspencer · 16/03/2013 17:46

Really?

WorraLiberty · 16/03/2013 17:50

You must be devastated

JamieandtheMagicTorch · 16/03/2013 17:51

I'd have thought he'd have said goodbye, yes.

Original poster
beautyfades · 16/03/2013 17:54

Realy what? Well he's wanting to go out with me, so obvs that would mean coming round to where i live with DD. I thought not saying bye was just bad manners. So did DD. Not alot of effort to say goodbye to the woman you been chasing for months daughter!

OP posts:
Original poster
beautyfades · 16/03/2013 17:54

haha not devastated.

OP posts:
ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 16/03/2013 17:56

Definitely lack of manners there.

mrsstewpot · 16/03/2013 17:58

Nerves maybe?

Cassarick · 16/03/2013 18:00

I'm with Jamie - I would HAVE thought he would HAVE said goodbye.

TeamEdward · 16/03/2013 18:00

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Original poster
beautyfades · 16/03/2013 18:03

Thanks for replies. Just rude i think. And probably why he is on his own!

OP posts:
Original poster
beautyfades · 16/03/2013 18:07

TeamE, I was giving him a chance to see how he was around DD. Im not bothered, just wondering if I was BU.

OP posts:
LindyHemming · 16/03/2013 18:09

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Geeklover · 16/03/2013 18:11

Nerves maybe? I've left somewhere before and kicked myself afterwards that I haven't said goodbye to someone. I wasn't being ignorant just either possibly harassed or a bit nervous about something.

yellowbrickrd · 16/03/2013 18:15

Yes he might be nervous if not used to being around teens. All the same, perhaps you should be a bit more choosy for yourself than just someone who 'works and seems quite nice'.

Original poster
beautyfades · 16/03/2013 18:22

I agree Yellow, iv had real bad relationships and never want to go there again. Nerves, maybe? Hes a taxi driver and not short on confidence.

OP posts:
sneezingwakesthebaby · 16/03/2013 18:27

If he's been chasing you for months and only met up with you a couple of times sounds like nerves to me!

yellowbrickrd · 16/03/2013 18:45

Hmm, if you've had a few bad ones you're right to be extra-sensitive to any odd feelings you might pick up. Rely on your instincts.

metimeatlast · 16/03/2013 19:30

i would say rude, however, two questions...
1 why is he already meeting your DD? i understand that you have had a long time alone just the two of you, but your home should be yours and hers safe haven away from potential wierdos IMHO.
2 depends how / where did he say goodbye to you? was it private at the door or just a general "see ya later " all round? which would have included her too?

Lucyellensmum95 · 16/03/2013 19:33

rude - dump

lottie63 · 16/03/2013 19:36

It depends on if you're that bothered about him tbh. If he's worth the effort, then explain that it upset you. He may well be just a rude tosser - or.. He may just not know how to act around children, around teenagers. He might just need to learn, s'all.

ImperialBlether · 16/03/2013 19:37

He's rude and in your position I'd avoid him in future. I think he was probably annoyed that your daughter was there and had anticipated some private time with you.

HollyBerryBush · 16/03/2013 19:39

Anyway iv met up a couple of times with a guy, no sparks, but he works an seems quite nice.

Is it unusual in your circle that people work? Seems an odd thing to say.

difficultpickle · 16/03/2013 20:05

How did he say goodbye to you? Maybe he thought one goodbye was enough for all?

Original poster
beautyfades · 16/03/2013 21:00

Holly, not at all unusual to work in "my circle", just stuck that bit of info in.
Imp, you are right, sure he thought he was IN! There was no goodbye, i just said to him i will txt you.

OP posts:
difficultpickle · 16/03/2013 21:40

Then why are you upset that he didn't say goodbye to your dd if he didn't bother to say goodbye to you either? Confused