To want to come back as a man in the next life

[shebird]

Don't want to turn this into a moany old man bashing thread but I've come to the conclusion that in general females get a raw deal in life and as mum to two DDs this makes me sad. We have been duped into working hard at school in the belief that the world is our oyster and we can 'have it all'. But as a working mum what this really means is 'doing it all'. In the next life (if there is such a thing) I want to come back as a man.

Why not just stop "doing it all" now? I agree women are in a difficult position wrt work and family. But in a lot of cases, they don't put their foot down and insist that their DP does their share. So if you are "doing it all", then stop. The world won't stop turning!

I like being a woman - you can keep the penis OP I don't want one in the next life

I agree with amum yes women do have the sticky end of the stick most time but you can help yourself by refusing to do stuff you don't want to

Swap you. I'm a man and I definitely want to come back as a woman next time.

I wouldn't mind a winkie for a day. I'd like to try it out first though. Men die sooner than women though...is that a good enough balance? Meh...I think I'll be a woman again,

Yes, if I could have a day as a man, I'd definitely want to see what sex was like from the other side. Snag is, with whom?

I would like to come back as a bad smell

I am planning on coming back as a Labrador belonging to someone who has comfy sofas.

Scone that sounds lovely. I've sometimes wondered about being an adored pet cat.

But as a working mum what this really means is 'doing it all'.

Not in our house it doesn't.

We (OH and I) both work very full time. I think he probably does more than me in all honesty - certainly more of the cooking, at least half of the ironing and takes care of any DIY that needs doing.

We do have a cleaner, though.

I'd just make sure you aren't 'doing it all', OP.

YABVU. Come back as a cat. That's what I'm planning to do. My DH works 70 hour weeks on a flaming building site and is totally knackered. I wouldn't fancy being him at all. And yes, I work too. And do most of the housework/running around with kids. But he is out the house from 5.00am - 7.00pm in all bloody weathers. And last year he took 9 days off. (Self employed).

A cat. That's my request when I'm asking about re-incarnation for the next time round.

I'm coming back as a cat!
After a morning working, coming back to devastation at home, no jobs done & breakfast stuff still out at midday
Visitors ( DH's friends) turn up.
I cook a big dinner, no help... Too busy watching rugby. Then they all bugger off to the pub without as much as clearing the table. To top it all the downstairs loo is awash with their pee!
Didn't even ask if I was OK to stay behind, clear up & look after the kids.
Yes a cat....love, affection, food put infront of you, can go out whenever you fancy & no housework, and if you get hacked off you can scratch the crap out of all the furniture. Yep defiantly coming back as a cat

I dont think most women in this age have to do it all. The vast majority of dads are very hands on.

Don't do it all, I often have days where I achieve nothing more than the school run. My husband is also very capable of spending most of the day in bed when the mood takes - I don't think it's a gender issue... To be honest if my husband did it all and gave me the opportunity to sit on my arse all day, I'd take it!

Besides as a bloke in this house I'd have to unblock the loo, walk the dog, work full time, remove spiders, tidy the garden and buy my lazy arsed wife wine on a regular basis

You need to sort this OP.
If you are 'doing it all' it means you are in an unequal relationship.
You would be doing all of your family a great service if you stopped.
DH needs to understand that both of you are entitled to equal leisure time. Work from that premise and if you have a parent-child marriage, sort that out as it's very vulnerable.

DH works long hours and and often works Saturdays he gets home just as DDs are going to bed. With the best will in the world he can't do as much housework and childcare as he is just not here. He works very hard we both do its just that sometimes from my perspective it looks easier to have one job rather than multiple jobs and a nasty gene that makes me see dirt and want to clean and tidy up.

I don't 'do it all' and I'm a SAHM (well, I was a WOHM until recently, now I'm a SAH but also do a bit of contract work M). I don't have the clean and tidy gene.

Well, I don't think barely seeing your children makes for that great a life personally. And I think many men feel as trapped in the role of "breadwinner" as many women do of "housewife".

So in an ideal world we would job share at home and at work but in the real world that just doesn't work

I would love to be a man just to have no breasts. No groping, ogling, bouncing or having to wear a bra. It would be lovely.

The idea is that no matter about long hours etc, you are both entitled to the same amount of leisure time. So if he works 10 hour days, so do you. If you work - paid or housework - 10 hour days and he is out at work for 9 hours, he does 1/2 hour housework and so do you. That way, you get more equal leisure time

Yabu!

The penis has 2000 nerve endings spread over the whole thing

The clitoris, 5000!

No contest