To be utterly pissed off about people of short stature being used in Peter Kay's thing

[Verycold]

Yes yes they didn't have to do it. But they probably needed the money. As the mother of a boy with dwarfism it just makes me so cross.

the wife thing was just really weird I used to like Peter kay but i am not getting his humour anymore,

I totally agree with you OP. The sketch wasn't even funny.

MrsDeVere rather aggressive there I think. I have at no point mentioned that I am in a better position to comment than the OP and have said that I did not see the sketch as I hate the whole Comic Relief thing with a passion. I just think that screeching 'disablist' because YOU didn't like it could be seen as little patronising. That's all I was saying.

This sketch was offensive but like most of comic relief it was poor. I mean to show videos of people sick and suffering and having tough times and then to show dwarves for laughs is just very wrong. Many of those born with dwarfism encounter serious medical problems with life threatening complications. I speak from experience as my nephew died two weeks after his 1st birthday due to medical complications of dwarfism. I wish I could show Peter Kay a video of this beautiful angels suffering and the effect his death had on our family, maybe he and others would look at dwarfism in a different way.

DS2 died of a form of dwarfism, which made his ribcage too small (thanatophoric dysplasia). DS2 and DD1 were aged 6 and 4 at the time and we taught them to say "thanatophoric dysplasia" because we were afraid that if they ever said that their late brother had been a dwarf, people would have laughed at them. We didn't tell them that that's another name for dwarfism till they were in their teens.

I can't think of any other medical condition which can result in the death of a precious baby, and yet people make jokes about it.

Namechangeabc my deepest sympathies. When ds was still in the womb we were told his condition might not be compatible with life. We feel so blessed to have him with us, even though he struggles healthwise - his lungs are permanently damaged from frequent chest infections.

We were told while I was pregnant that he was unlikely to live, Verycold. DH and I had no problem with the term "dwarf" but we felt we just couldn't risk DS1 and DD knowing it in case people found it funny, or thought they were joking. Even a well-meaning adult might have thought that a brother who was a dwarf was an "imaginary friend."

I don't think there's any comparable condition, where it's a reasonable concern that children might encounter people thinking their brother's cause of death was "funny."

namechange - That must have been so awful for you. Not being able to just name your son's condition and have people understand. To worry that they might think it is a joke or funny is just an unimaginable extra pain to what is already unimaginable pain (to those of us fortunate enough not to have walked that path).

I dont miss comic relief. torture torture

What do you mean you don't miss it?

Oh, , you have moved abroad?

That's rather drastic. We put on a DVD.

op, yanbu.

I agree with what mrs devere has said on this thread.

There is just no way anyone else with a disability or genetic disorder would be portrayed on tv in this way. The bbc should be ashamed.

I can only hope that some of the people who posted on this thread come back and stop and think for a minute when reading namechange's posts

I thought the correct term was PORG?
Person of Restricted Growth?

I have used this term - but I noticed people on here saying dwarfism?

Can good Mn enlighten me so I dont cause offence.

I think (but might be wrong) that dwarfism is used to make it easily understandable. Dwarf is accepatable, though person of restricted growth is certainly preferable. Never ever ever use midget.

oh no i would never do that - use word midget.

thanks very, i thought the whole thing was distastul, but then seeing styles crying at someones shack - doesnt sit easily with me either.

im glad it has raises loads of money - but i suppose its the way some people are able to go about it.

Dont see the problem. I worked with someone with the same condition. He used to love the sketches and dance along. It wasnt a one of sketch either. They are actors and were all in peter kays phoenix nights. Your child has lots of opportunities but if you pass on your ideas that he may be limited he way well start to believe it.

Well thanks for that, I finally see the light, I am my child's biggest problem

[signs off]

LilQueenie that was incredibly insensitive and rude! Surely you can see that

Thanks since

which part. Same as any other child you start stating they may have limited opportunities in life then the catch on to that way of thinking.

I guess I thought you were extremely patronising to the OP who has probably thought long and hard about her own child's future a lot more than you have