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Please help me calm down, I am very angry right now.

44 replies

Poppet48 · 15/03/2013 21:20

I am 20 weeks pregnant, I was sitting on the sofa and my friend tripped as she was walking towards me and completely fell on me, elbowed my belly with all her weight.

I am very paranoid this pregnancy due to bleeding and complications.

I haven't felt the baby move yet so I can't even drink a cold sugary drink to make sure.

I am freaking out, What should I do?

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EuroShaggleton · 15/03/2013 21:22

The baby is well-cushioned in there. You will be fine.

MousyMouse · 15/03/2013 21:22

go to a&e just to be sure.
are you rhesus negative? if yes you might need anti-d.

whattodoo · 15/03/2013 21:22

Call out of hours doc / walk in urgent care unit.

I suspect that everything is OK, but it would out your mind at rest

howdoo · 15/03/2013 21:22

I fell over when I was 30 weeks, straight onto my bump. Ring NHS Direct and ask them, or go into A&E.

Everything will be absolutely fine BTW, but you will feel happier!

kinkyfuckery · 15/03/2013 21:23

What are you angry about?? Surely it was an accident??

If you are overly concerned, call NHS Direct and they may advise you to visit your midwife unit.

Don't worry too much though, there's a lot of padding in there!

Smartiepants79 · 15/03/2013 21:23

First breathe!
How long since it happened?
It is highly unlikely any damage has been done.
Babies are very well protected.
My 2 year was forever jumping all over my pregnant bump but I still have a healthy 12 week old.

deleted203 · 15/03/2013 21:23

Can you ring your midwife for reassurance/advice? I can understand why you are freaking out if you have had previous problems.

wannabedomesticgoddess · 15/03/2013 21:23

I agree, baby is more than likely perfectly fine, but its worth getting checked so you dont stress about it!

sweetiepie1979 · 15/03/2013 21:24

Is she heavy ? Overweight? You sound like you might be over worrying but if you think you aren't just go to a and e and get it sorted.

Lucyellensmum95 · 15/03/2013 21:24

Oh bless you - I am sure your friend didn't mean to do this. If you are worried a call to your midwife would be appropriate. But you know what, your baby is in your womb surrounded by you and lots of fluid, its there to protect him/her so im sure it will be ok xx

MoreSnowPlease · 15/03/2013 21:24

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gordyslovesheep · 15/03/2013 21:24

possibly not posting in AIBU but ringing NHS direct for adivce - not understanding why you are angry

ClippedPhoenix · 15/03/2013 21:25

I'm sure all will be totally well.

Just give NHS direct a call.

Oh, and how's your friend? bet she feels like shit.

Footface · 15/03/2013 21:26

You can pop along to you maternity department the triage should monitor the heart beat.

Try not to be too angry, try to stay calm.

I know it hard. I had a car accident at 23 weeks I was terrified but it was all fine and hospital were really helpful

cozietoesie · 15/03/2013 21:26

Anger, fright - they're very close together.

blueballoon79 · 15/03/2013 21:26

Babies are well protected within the womb so you should be fine but to settle your nerves ring your midewife or NHS Direct.

sneezingwakesthebaby · 15/03/2013 21:26

I would get in touch with your hospital and see if you can go get checked out and monitored. Ours has a unit where you ring up and arrange to be seen ASAP. Does yours have something like this you could call? I would be angry too even though it was an accident. Natural reaction to something like this I think.

whimsicalmess · 15/03/2013 21:29

I'm sure it was an accident and I'm sure she feels bad enough already without you ranting on about her elbowing you with all her weight you sound lovely. Drink so e ice cold water?

curiousgeorgie · 15/03/2013 21:30

Call the hospital for reassurance but please try not to worry, when I was about 6 months with my last pregnancy my dog jumped with his whole weight to the floor using my bump as a go between and I was terrified and didn't feel the baby move but everything was fine and they explained to me how well cushioned and protected the baby is... X

sweetiepie1979 · 15/03/2013 21:30

Also, I'm sure your friend is pretty upset about it, did you mean that your angry at her?

tazzle22 · 15/03/2013 21:32

I can understand being frightened for sure ( though doubt friend did this deliberately and is probably upset as well thinking any harm might result ?)

The baby itself will be well protected from direct physical injury and if you yourself dont hurt from the impact its prob not enough to do any significant harm to the inner workings of the uterus.

Its unreasonable to say dont worry cos you will.......... but try to keep calm for the babys sake and rest and do whatever will help you to do so.

If you are really worried you can always ring maternity and ask them to let you listen to the heartbeat as a reassurance ? .

sneezingwakesthebaby · 15/03/2013 21:33

I think its a bit harsh to be making OP feel bad about her friend being upset when she is obviously frightened for her unborn child. The friend will understand and get over it.

ChaoticisasChaoticdoes · 15/03/2013 21:35

Emotions aren't logical. Anger could be stopping the OP going into a complete panic especially if she's already having problems in pregnancy.

OP get yourself checked out if only to put your mind at rest.

whimsicalmess · 15/03/2013 21:36

Angry is a strange word though upset, scared etc. Accidents happen. Could you ask her and to take you to hospital?

Coconutty · 15/03/2013 21:36

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