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Please help me calm down, I am very angry right now.

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Poppet48 · 15/03/2013 21:20

I am 20 weeks pregnant, I was sitting on the sofa and my friend tripped as she was walking towards me and completely fell on me, elbowed my belly with all her weight.

I am very paranoid this pregnancy due to bleeding and complications.

I haven't felt the baby move yet so I can't even drink a cold sugary drink to make sure.

I am freaking out, What should I do?

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maddening · 15/03/2013 21:37

Go to a&e - sure everything's fine but you won't rest till you can be checked out.

If you want an appt call out of hours gp - usually located by a&e so if you needed treatment then you are right there - the gp will be able to listen to the hb and if there are ultrasound resources available could have a look. Saves sitting in a&e on a Friday night when you're already there.

The out of hours will call you and do a triage over the phone so should be able to let them know you are coming in to a&e if that's the correct course of action.

Smooshy · 15/03/2013 21:39

I can totally understand you being angry even though it was an accident. Sometimes I get so cross when things accidentally happen, even more so when hormonal.

I fell flat on my stomach when I was about 20 weeks pg with my twins and spent the rest of the day in bed desperately trying to feel them moving. They were fine, as others have pointed out there is lots of padding there.

If you do feel worried then phone your MW or maternity unit.

maddening · 15/03/2013 21:39

Hardly helpful whimsical Hmm

Softlysoftly · 15/03/2013 21:43

Why can't you drink a cold sugary drink because baby hasn't moved? Ice cold drink is to make Baby move Confused.

I fell on my tmy at about 16wks (in a posh place taking the waitress with me Blush)all was fine by I did nip into the maternity unit to get checked out. I would call them for peace of mind.

Original poster
Poppet48 · 15/03/2013 21:46

I'm not angry at my friend, It was an accident and I'm aware of that I just freak out due to my previous complications and I get angry because it was so preventable.

I have rung NHS direct and was told that the baby is well cushioned, I don't know how this is supposed to help me though.

I haven't felt my baby move at all this pregnancy so I said that a sugary drink wouldn't make a difference because of this.

I'm not bleeding but I still have pain :( I'm so worried.

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chroniclackofimagination · 15/03/2013 21:48

Think OP meant she hasn't felt baby move yet at 20 weeks so sugary or cold drink unlikely to help.

Baby will be fine I'm sure, my toddler used to kick me in the bump all the time and there was no impact on baby. Call your midwife for reassurance.

SneakyNinja · 15/03/2013 21:48

How did your friend react OP? If she was apologetic then yes yabu to be angry as it was an accident.

Obviously, AIBU aside it is completely normal to worry like crazy and I'm sure everyone will understand your reaction. Babies are very hardy little creatures we are designed to withstand much more than what you have described. Book yourself in ASAP with the Midwife. Not because I feel anything would be wrong but because you will not get a decent night sleep till you do! Oh and tell your friend it's ok she probably feels like shit Smile

whimsicalmess · 15/03/2013 21:48

I'm not the only person who said it don't bother getting arsy with me. I'm obviously not being nasty I'm just saying the op seemed a bit overtly hostile. And would it be better to get ur mate to run you to a n e , make you both feel better.

sneezingwakesthebaby · 15/03/2013 21:49

Go to the hospital and get checked out if you are worried. Please don't sit at home worrying when there are facilities to check you and baby right now. If you are hurting its better safe than sorry.

SneakyNinja · 15/03/2013 21:51

x posted sorry. As it's the evening OP, maybe it will ease your mind to call NHS direct so you can speak to someone now?

SneakyNinja · 15/03/2013 21:53

oh bloody hell seen you've done that already. I'm going to stop posting now as I'm obviously too tired to read posts properly! Angry

Sorry OP have a Brew for all the good it can do

Softlysoftly · 15/03/2013 21:56

Oh sorry tired brain I totally misunderstood that. Do you have your notes? ?

At the front there will be a phone number for the midwife unit at the local hospital, or epu. Call them, weep, say you can't settle until monitored. I'm sure you will be fine but I was like you sure to previous mmc and would have driven myself nuts. The mws were always saying it was better to check!

NHS direct aren't really there for pg related stuff.

Shellywelly1973 · 15/03/2013 21:56

Take yourself to a&e. Until you've heard the heartbeat or had a scan, your going to worry.

Im sure everything will be fine!

LizzieVereker · 15/03/2013 22:00

Go to OOH if you can, just so you'll get reassurance.

I fell flat onto my belly, with great force, at 22 weeks with DS 1 and all was fine, but I remember how scared I was, so please go and get checked out.

ConfuzzledMummy · 15/03/2013 22:05

Instead of sitting on here saying your worried to death go to A & E and get checked, im sure you'll be fine but as pp said you won't stop worrying until you hear baby's heartbeat.

CommanderShepard · 15/03/2013 22:08

Go to the hospital, just to put your mind at rest.

Coconutty · 15/03/2013 22:10

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Greensleeves · 15/03/2013 22:15

Go to A&E, you need to have your mind put at rest. It's important that your stress level is kept to a minimum.

I agree that your baby will be fine though. The womb walls are tough and there is lots of fluid, it's designed to protect your baby.

Try not to worry too much x

Finola1step · 15/03/2013 22:37

Another vote here for going along to a&e so that they can tell you that all is ok and then you can get some sleep. With both of mine, I didn't feel anything until well beyond the 21 week mark, so I can understand what you mean about a cold drink being of no use. Take care OP

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