To consider sleeping with this man, just once?

[squishee]

Evening all.

I appear to be in the "shagging one's way over a bad break-up" phase. I'm seeking an upgrade from a first fuckbuddy.

I have been propositioned on that basis by a man who has extreme hotness and red flags in equal measures. Both reminiscent of my ex (a seductive, charming, scheming, bullshitting manipulator).

This man -claims to be- is in an open relationship.

I'm worried that I might get ensnared / attached (which I do way too easily) and end up getting hurt. But the temptation is great indeed.

So. Do I steer clear, or go there and get the what if out of my system?

Is it better to regret something I do, or something I don't do?

I've decided to just ignore, and forget his existence. Onwards and upwards.

There's nothing like MN to help one get a grip

Another vote for don't! Not worth the potential heartache! :(

I don't think there's anything wrong with casual sex, but not if you're questioning yourself about it beforehand. Better to not sleep with someone you suspect isn't a great person.

Thanks Haggis and Binks for backing up my resolve to steer clear.

Only have a casual encounter with someone who you would want a relationship with.

If there are red flags, he doesn't deserve to be your fuck buddy.

get one of these

Agree with the majority: nowt wrong with sex with whoever and when and how you want it, but if you can't stop yourself getting involved, and particularly with the Red Flag Brigade, then fuckbuddying is not for you.

If you can have sex without feelings, do it. I had a similar arrangement after a break up too. What kept me sane was disliking him a little bit. Great in bed, fancied the pants of him, but knew he was a knob - so never fell in love.

Theres nothing wrong with an open relationship, but I'd be careful. He's already stated his position, and if you like him, which I suspect you do, you may end up feeling really rubbish about yourself.