Family changing rooms (PETTY)

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Perfectly happy to be told AIBU if I am, 36 weeks pregnant so my grip on reality and reasonableness is possibly a little loose

Had a run in with the water babies brigade at my local pool yesterday. Had a lovely swim with DD (22 months) and played with another mum and toddler boy who we had never met before. DD and the wee boy played beautifully. Stayed in a bit longer as they were having so much fun then we all got out and grabbed a family cubicle each (there are 3)

I strapped DD into the toddler chair and was getting changed when someone bangs on the door. Ignored it and 2 mins later it happens again. Open door to find 2 irritate mothers standing holding small babies (3/4 months) saying they need to use the changing table (also in cubicle) to change their babies as lesson was due to start in 15 mins and more mums would be there soon. I explained I needed to change DD on the table & finish getting myself changed, said would be as quick as possible and shut door.

So carried on to audible mutterings from outside cubicles. In the
end just took my time and changed at usual speed (15 mins for both of us) and left as quickly as possible, was pretty quick as mum and toddler boy were still changing in next cubicle. Came out to find lesson had started & 3 mums were still stood there which surprised me, there are 2 tables in the toilets!

Petty I know but curious AIBU? Should I have given them the cubicle? I figured being 36 weeks pregnant and toddler in tow gave me just as much 'right' to use family cubicles or should they be for smaller babies?

bollocks to them.

I think you had the right to use the changing room. They should come earlier if they want to guarantee themselves use of the changing table

You were using it and you were there first.

They were being self-entitled and stupid. Good for you not budging.

Do you need a changing table for a toddler?

I go swimming every week with my 8 month old. If the family cubicles are busy I just make do in a normal one. How did they know you weren't using the changing bit when they knocked on? I think they were being very cheeky.

YANBU, first come first served!

Anyone has the right to use any part of the changing room! Balls to them. And weren't there any other flat surfaces they could have used? We didn't have a single changing table in our changing rooms for 30-odd babies in the swimming class. Everyone just laid the babies on the bench and changed them there.

Worra probably not although it makes the nappy (not quite yet trained) much easier it does have a very neat little chair though to contain the toddler while you change to stop them running around. DD sits in it and has a snack while I change :)

I would imagine it's more that there's a seat to strap the toddler into than the table, Worra. It's a case of tough luck for hem really. Everyone has equal right to use the facilities and it's first come first served.

Yanbu they were being cheeky.

Tbf trying to fit a 36week bump and a toddler in a standard changing room would be impossible so of course you would need the larger space.

Oh right, so the table can't be moved out of the cubicle?

The ones here are sort of like a weird plastic 'bucket' type thing that can be moved in and out IYSWIM?

I thought they were knocking to ask you to pass it out to them if you didn't intend to use it.

No grey plastic thing attached to wall. That you pull down. Know exactly what you mean by the red plastic bucket thing though.

Yanbu though 15 mins is excessive!

Ahh right I see.

In that case YANBU

And they could have managed to change their babies on the bench or across their knees, surely.

I think 15 minutes is fine for a pregnant woman and toddler. If my 4 year old decides to have a shower, wash her hair and dry it after swimming, we're in the changing rooms for up to 25 minutes and that's just for her.

Filly do you let your 4 year old decide these things?

I have to say, all the showering, conditioning and faffing in changing rooms winds me up.

Go home and do it I always think!

YANBU to use the changing room and to think that it's first come first served but 15 minutes is quite a long time to take it up for, I can change myself and 2 year old DD in 5-10 minutes depending on how co-operative she is but then I'm not pregnant so that probably helps. It's their responsibility to leave enough time to get themselves and babies ready in time for the lesson not to demand priority over the changing rooms.

I agree...being pregnant DOES slow one down somewhat.

I let her decide if we don't have to get somewhere afterwards for a specific time. And it does save time then not having to bath her for the next couple of days or so.

YANBU.

Can we slag off water babies types now pleeeease? Can we can we please??? most some of them get right on my nerves.

mrsmushroom I agree! Who in their right mind washes, conditions and then blow drys their hair in a changing room. Thats what houses are for.

Rude & entitled! YANBU

YANBU but 15 mins when you know there's people waiting is a lot

Definitely not being unreasonable... With a 22 m/o myself i always use the change table if it's free. There have been times i have had to change her on a table/bench/floor... That's life! If someone (with children) are using it first then i would never bang on the door! Lol... Total loons!