To be genuinely offended by a newspaper article for the first time in my whole life?????

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Okay, just to clarify - I'm seriously hard to offend. Frankie Boyle doesn't offend me, Jimmy Carr doesn't offend me, and even Katie Hopkins just makes me roll my eyes in fleeting irritation.

THIS article has offended the hell out of me, and I'm close to complaining to the paper- which I never, ever thought I'd do in my life....

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2291904/The-outrageous-confessions-upper-class-Lolita.html

If the link doesn't work, just google Petronella Wyatt "confessions of an upper class Lolita."

Is it just me, or is this utterly vile????????????????

Sorry if someone's already posted about this article, but I couldn't see any such post and just felt I had to share it

Young girls should be able to behave like young girls (and that may include being a bit flirty) but that doesn't give old men a right to grope them. They are the adults and they should know where the boundaries are.

If a 15 year old girl flirted with my DH there is NO WAY he would "melt" and have a grope. He would be disconcerted and probably worried that people might think he had encouraged it in some wasy

I too am shocked!! She writes:

"equally shameless was a married member of the House of Lords who invited my parents and I...."

Petronella!! It is "invited my parents and ME". I can't believe a Paulina would get that wrong (in fact I suspect the editor of the Daily Mail being the incompetent here.)

I don't know how to say what I want to say. I'm going to try and say it, but please don't flame me if I am not clear! Teenage girls do try out their flirting and charms, for want of a better word, on older men, which can be uncles, friends of their parents etc. The point is that these older men, if they are good men, do not feel the need to act on it. I'm sure I used to try to flirt with my parents' friends -the difference is these men laughed with me, were nice to me, talked to me as an adult but were not in any way inappropriate towards me. They probably helped me find my feet in the adult world, instilled in me a sense of self-worth (in that they listened to me and would, for example, argue with me and took the time to be interested in what I had to say). They did not have to grope me and my father would have been appalled if they had.

If a 15 year old girl flirted with my DH there is NO WAY he would "melt" and have a grope. He would be disconcerted and probably worried that people might think he had encouraged it in some wasy

Exactly this. My DP would be mortified if a teenager tried it on with him.

I'm not shocked that the article is in DM but I am at a loss by this woman's thinking.

She seems very needy to me and weird. Makes me wonder what her home life was really like if her father was happy to tout is own daughter out to randy old men who need a good kick in the nethers.

Yuck, that's really disturbing reading. The fact that her father seemed to encourage it makes me feel physically sick.

Yes, Poledra I totally agree. No decent man would take advantage of the situation if a young girl flirted. Yes, teenage girls do sometimes try out their attractiveness so to speak, but that doesn't make it normal for lecherous old trouts to cash in.

My mother had an ongoing issue with an older man when she was in her later teens (he was a uni lecturer and a very well known writer, as is his son) and she had to go to great lengths to repel him. In the end, it took her father who was a policeman at the time to go round and have a word. That's what this woman's father should have done, not farm her out like a prostitute.

Ridiculous article

Her parents groomed her and encouraged her to become some sort of wank-fest for their pals. She has normalised this behaviour and it's now become part of her 'internal sound track' as a positive thing.

I used to feel the same way about the scummy 38 yo I had an affair with when I was 17 - that it was empowering and no problem and a positive thing for me. It really wasn't, I was groomed by a man who sought out young (albeit over the age of consent) women so he could control them.

Difference between me and Petronella is I learned from my experience, she hasn't. She's actually a victim. - Well, she is up until the point she chose to write a victim-blaming piece for the Fail.

Name dropping all the famous men that she turned down (I'm sure there's something about that in the godfather novel). Pick on the dead ones as they can't defend themselves. Sounds like she had and still has self esteem issues. I could not imagine my father acting like hers or my dh feeling comfortable with a teenager making a pass at him.

She has a warped view in order to normalise her past.

Well said Wilson. Far better than my attempt.

She's a very odd little person. Now she's knocking 50, with not much left to say, partic not about any new 'frissons', I suppose it makes good shock fodder.

None of her relationships worked, did they. She may not be very nice IRL but I feel a bit sorry for her.

I did learn something. I learned to accept men as they are ? fallible, vain and driven by their sexual organs

What a dim, bleak view of men she has.

I didn't finish it. I pity her. She is so damaged that she thinks that we will be impressed by the fabulous famous people that have sexually abused her. Her self-esteem must be at rock bottom and she tries to build herself back up by making 'normal' people feel 'less' because they haven't been groped by someone famous. Yuk!

The last line is a corker - "After all it was Eve who tempted Adam."

So women, it IS your fault if you are sexually assaulted after all.

What a sad article. Does she value herself so little that she gains some sort of self esteem from her ability to "tempt" older men who, in reality, were predators that justified their actions by pretending that a child encouraged them.

Ugh. She lies a lot too and has been caught out in the past, so I doubt even she believes what she's written.

Horrible article. But I actually feel very sorry for the woman writing it. Her attitude is horribly skewed by the fact that her father was happy to pimp her out to his friends for a quick grope whenever they felt like it

The article is written to shock and nothing more, it's not worth your time to get upset over it and you are actually giving the daily fail a higher readership by linking to it...

I'm not saying that teenage girls are all innocent little angels, and of course they've got hormones just like teenage boys - but this article's so unbelievably creepy and horrible, words fail me. Seems to imply that if you get hassled by old perverts for sex when you're underage, you should just take it as a charming old-fashioned compliment... and if any actual abuse happens, it was your fault for leading them on. And her dad was cool with all of this happening right under his nose. Eeew. Just eeew.

I know the article's written to shock (the author strikes me as a posh version of Samantha Brick, and apparently owns the same sort of magical mirror) - but even so, the fact it's been published in a national newspaper is simply revolting. I wasn't sexually abused as a child, but if I had been, I'm pretty sure I'd be furious. What a disturbed, disturbing, smug, conceited, snobbish, strange, misogynistic, insecure, damaged and unlikeable woman.

'After all, Eve tempted Adam.'

worra load of tosh

The DM is farcical- outrage if a paedo [sic] moves in next door unless he's Sir Laurence Olivier. Allegedly.