To not understand it when women go on about men's bodies?

[Ducklings45]

I never understand it when women go about Looking men's bodies on tv and finding them attractive.

I look at then and think 'they're good looking' but I don't fancy them or have any feeling for them.

Am I the only one?!

LadyBeagle...see...he's hot...I don't know if it's how softly spoken he is or if it's how he looks a bit stiff upper lipped...or if it's the lovely walk he does like he's moseying on without a care in the world and how he always seems to get his point across in a BRILLIANT manner...but man...he's lovely!! I actually blush a wee bit when he's on the telly, so much so that my DP has said "you SOOOOOOOO FANCY HIM"
I do though..
He's quite possibly my ideal man...

Ducklings- i'm also the same about girls..I don't know if I fancy them or if I want to just BE them. I always find myself attracted to girls who are a much better looking version of myself.. and perhaps more exaggerated version of myself. Plus a great personality really does add heaps on to someones attractiveness!!

I totally understand...I feel the same. The only man in the world I find attractive and really have the hots for is my husband. Oh - apart from Richard Armitage but that is just because my husband is the image of him.

I never see another man and think anything other than 'meh' thoughts.

I have never been attracted to a man for his body. It's completely alien to me. A Facebook friend of mine posts semi named pics of me from the attractively-named "ladies' wank bank" and I can honestly say they do nothing for me. It's like looking at the cover of an American romance novel!

I'm the same - but I am bisexual and I do feel like that about certain women I'm married to a man, but men attract me with personalities (adam sandler, Simon from the inbetweeners ) not their looks. But I do find women really attractive physically in a way that I'm not with men!

I need the character/personality thing to feel attraction to someone - then I will suddenly find their body something to drool over!

I can appreciate a man who is very pleasing on the eye in the same way I can with another woman without feeling attraction specifically.

I've never really thought about it but I presume women who do find random images a true turn on probably equate it with someone they do actually fancy.

So if you don't find men on tv attractive, what about those you pass in the street?

I have to say that a 6 pack is a real turn off for me. I like a man with a bit of a belly

Sasha - I agree with the OP as I said in my post, but I'm bisexual so don't know if it's the same. However I do sometimes find RL men attractive, like in the queue for a coffee shop if they smell nice, have a nice smile etc but not necessarily because of how they look.

Yes I totally get you OP.

And it's definitely not an asexual thing - I love sex. With my DH.

Just cannot get excited about men's bodies. I find women's bodies much more of a visual turn on.

But I only want sex with my DH. Not with any other man or with a woman. When we're doing it, I do love the feel and look of him. It's the rest of the time I don't see it, in any man.

SashaSashays - I might think they're good looking maybe but I don't fancy them!

I usually look at women as apposed to men

I think the same as you OP, but then I'm over the hill, but even when younger never drooled over a man's body. More of a 'ooh he looks lovely'. It's the face I fall for.

I think I must be a pervert of the highest order. I do notice beautiful women but more often I while I away my time looking at fit men.

Dcs are always saying I'm so embarrassing peeving men half my age, and I have to say I do really fancy them. My god at the gym I'm sometimes a bit overcome by how much I fancy them I start leering.

Well if you lot can keep a secret, I had to observe some school classes the other day, and sit behind one of the finest male arses I had seen in a very long while. I was having Very Naughty Thoughts Indeed for the whole duration of the observation.

Perhaps you can fancy them based on generalisations on their body type.

I couldn't fancy Beckham ever despite knowing he has the brilliant body because it appears that all he does have. The tats, the voice, the football are just off putting. Luckily he seems happy without me.

I have a thing for ginger blokes with white blonde eyebrows. Doesn't matter to me that I don't know them but a fittish bloke with said features will spark my interest regardless of being on TV, photo, RL whatever.

I do think that women have much more beautiful/attractive bodies and I love looking at beautiful women. Christy Turlington and Claudia Lynx are just incredible, for instance, whereas my husband is the ONLY man I would ever think that about....it is however, his personality, his humour, his kindness, his strength etc. as well as his looks that make him amazing to me. I would find it difficult to fancy a man based on looks alone.

I wouldn't say I go on about them, but yes I do like men's bodies very much.

I like them big and hairy, real working muscles rather than gym sculpted and I am not thinking about what they are like I am thinking about how much I would like to run my hands over those big muscles. Nothing wrong with that.

I find tall, muscular women attractive and have thought the same thing a couple of times. Nothing wrong with that either.

When you say fancy, do you mean fancy doing the deed with them or just feeling attracted/interested in them?

This thread has made me feel filthy, I'm always having smutty thoughts about what I'd do to the man I notice in Costa.

I agree with you OP. I don't look at people in that light

I'm the same OP. Always have been. I remember people assuming I'd be drooling over such and such TV/film star and me not having really noticed them.

For example I love watching Grey's Anatomy, but honestly NONE of the men do it for me at all; (some of the women are pretty to look at though).

And I never "fancy" random people in the street either.

If I get to know someone I might entertain a few dirty thoughts about them or get a bit of a crush.

I'm not asexual and am V. attracted to my DH.

I do see your point about personality being important, but I don't think that rules out fancying People Off Of The Telly. I find quite often that I fancy fictional characters but not (out of role) the actors who play them, even though (obviously) they look the same. In fact for some actors I fancy several different characters they play, but not the actor in isolation.

I don't tend to fancy actors, but I do quite often fancy characters. For example dd and I were watching Green Wing the other day, and there are some very sexually charged moments, when I would totally go for Mac. However Julian Rhind-Tutt is completely not my type (I generally like tall, dark, bearded sort of guys and they need to be soulful/broody/tragic too in general).

Generally though I don't tend to fancy other people much because I'm just not that observant.

Totally agree. I'm far more likely to find a skinny, clever man attractive than some vain, muscle-bound 'hunk'. I've always been mystified by it.

I never lust after someone just based on his looks.

I have to know what kind of sense of humour he has and if he's kind.

I can appreciate a good looking guy, on an aesthetic level, - symmetrical and having a good shape- but I'd never just go for looks.

I had a friend who adored good looking guys - IMO she was very visual, and Wasn't interested in their personality. She just went for their looks, and they could be as dull as ditchwater, and she'd still fancy them. I found that very strange: I've never had a type, apart from being smart, funny and kind, and she just had a physical type. Maybe she was a bit of a bloke in her outlook?