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Original poster

to be a bit annoyed that nursery didnt make mothers day cards

42 replies

midastouch · 09/03/2013 18:43

im probaby being a bit pathetic but id have loved a card my DS had made but his nursery didnt do anything. A lot of people have put pics of cards there DCs have made on facebook (as you do Hmm) and i have to admit im a bit jelous!

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LadyKinbote · 09/03/2013 18:46

YANBU - DC have been through three different nurseries, all of which made something for Mothers' Day every year. I'd make one with him tomorrow and post it to FB!

marjproops · 09/03/2013 18:47

Do they do fathers day ones?

I never minded if DC didnt make one, there are too many single parents around and its sometimes hard to fathom who are single mothers or dads!

Id tell teachers at fathers day time to take dc and do something else with her as we are on our own for a very good reason and there IS no father. (sounding like the virgin Mary or Anakin Skywalkers mum!)

ATM DC thinks shes been made by midiclorians and is quite happy with that!! Grinone day.....

Pickles101 · 09/03/2013 18:47

YABU, can't your partner or you, just act surprised when it's presented sit down and make one with him?

Salmotrutta · 09/03/2013 18:48

Maybe they are being careful in case there is a child whose mother died or something?

AngelWreakinHavoc · 09/03/2013 18:49

The problem is not all children have a mother/grandmother to make a card for. A child would feel extremely left out if everyone was making cards and they could not or a parent would not be happy if a card was made at school and it was inappropriate.
It is sad, I always made cards at school but schools have to be very careful with things like that now Sad

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midastouch · 09/03/2013 18:50

Well they had a mothers day tea on tuesday which isnt a day DS is at nursery, its not that much of a big deal, just not the same if i help him make my card

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marjproops · 09/03/2013 18:51

And in this pc day and age and religious prejudice or whatever, no one knows any more about, what? easter/diwali/christmas/halloween or whatever.....?

Or am i being pedantic now?

RedHelenB · 09/03/2013 18:52

I felt so sad for the children I taught who had no mothers. You have the joy of having your children with you & when they are older they will do their own stuff for you rather than a nursery nurse doing a card for them!!! I think YABU.

WorraLiberty · 09/03/2013 18:57

Well many school's no longer make Father's day cards with the kids so I guess they had to stop Mother's day too?

My 2 Nieces used to find it particularly difficult at school when their Mum died.

They were only 8 and 9yrs old and the cruelest part?

She died on Mother's Day Sad

Groovee · 09/03/2013 18:59

There was a year that my dd's nursery was not doing mother's day cards because 2 boys didn't have mum in their lives.

Except a stupid supply person chose to ignore her instructions and one child handed Grandma a Happy Mother's Day Mummy card at the end of the session. It was very upsetting for the family and many of the other parents who knew the situation and what had tragically happened.

AngelWreakinHavoc · 09/03/2013 19:02

Worra I'm sorry your Nieces had to go throught that. That is awful Sad

willesden · 09/03/2013 19:08

Yes, OP, you are being pathetic.

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midastouch · 09/03/2013 20:16

ok i see the point about single parents etc.. shouldnt have been too suprised since they didnt do xmas cards, although they did chinese new year. Never mind maybe next year!

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midastouch · 09/03/2013 20:18

WorraLiberty im sorry to hear that, must have been awful for your nieces

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PurpleStorm · 09/03/2013 20:37

YANBU to be feeling a bit jealous about your nursery not doing Mother's Day cards if lots of your friends have received nursery made Mother's Day cards.

But if there's kids in your DS's nursery group that don't have a mother, the nursery may have decided not to do cards at all to avoid upset.

Having said that, I was a bit surprised with our nursery and Mother's Day. Dropped DS off, the staff told me that the kids would be making cakes for Mother's Day. Fine. DH picked up DS in the afternoon, came home with a slightly squashed cake and told me that DS had also made a Mother's Day card for me at nursery. I found the card, but it's not a Mother's Day card. It's a Happy Easter card. Easter is 3 weeks away. Surely it's a bit early for Easter cards? Confused

WorraLiberty · 09/03/2013 20:51

Yes it wasn't a great time for them. They're 20 and 21 now and tomorrow will be hard for them.

But I think on the whole there are far more kids without Fathers...hence the reason many schools stopped making FD cards.

I suppose it wouldn't be right to stop one day but celebrate the other?

GetWhatYouNeed · 09/03/2013 21:08

I think the nursery is probably being sensitive.

When my children were at nursery/school I was very glad that they didn't make Fathers Day cards as their father was dead and it would have been a horrible reminder of what they didn't have. There were 2 children whose mothers had died too and I was glad they didn't make Mothers Day cards either. They made lovely cards at easter and christmas which the children could give to whoever they liked.

Gottalovecosta · 09/03/2013 21:11

YANBU - I'd be upset too, PC or not. Little things like that mean a lot to me, more than anything commercialised that you can buy.

cookielove · 09/03/2013 21:16

I work in a nursery and most of the time we do usually do mother and father day cards, and Christmas cards, and Easter cards and Chinese new year cards, and lots of art work and displays and Christmas presents, and calenders, and children birthday cards, and parent birthday cards if requested and get well soon cards, and staff birthday cards, and welcome new baby cards. We also do learning journeys for all the children, and paper work and planning, lets not forget general day to day caring.

So sometimes we get a bit bogged down in all the things we have to/want to do and sometimes we forget. We do know how lovely it is for you to get them but sometimes we just don't have enough time to do all these lovely cards that you would want to receive. Smile

Agree with others when they say it may be due to a motherless child in the class Sad

Sorry you didn't get a card this year, maybe next year!!

WorraLiberty · 09/03/2013 21:19

There are 900 kids in my DS's Primary and none of them have made Mother's Day or Father's Day cards for the last 2 or 3 years.

It might be policy rather than a Motherless child in the class?

LadyKinbote · 09/03/2013 21:53

Feeling really Sad at the possibility of some of the children not having mothers. Sorry OP I've changed allegiance now to YABU!

ClaimedByMe · 09/03/2013 21:58

My dc school have always made mothers day cards but haven't this year as 2 of the pupils mum died just 3 weeks ago, it would have been so wrong for the school to make them :(

idiot55 · 09/03/2013 22:08

like some of the others, they are ususlly very sensitive to the fact some children dont have a mum this is the case in my childs class, so of course it doesnt even cross my mind that they would make cards.

janji · 09/03/2013 22:22

My dc always use their own craft (tat) supplies and make their own at home. I've been a primary school teacher for 20 yrs and have to be v careful about making cards. I always make 'thank you' cards on mothers and Father's Day, that way, children can give them to the primary carers in their life?

Icelollycraving · 09/03/2013 22:25

Yanbu. My 'd'h is absolutely crap on any of these days. I had to send pictures of me for a Mother's Day wall but no card from nursery.
My mum sent a card & my sisters sent flowers. Ds would be fairly gifted to do either as he is two. They didn't want me to recieve nothing but I think it kind of made me feel worse :(

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