to be a bit annoyed that nursery didnt make mothers day cards

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im probaby being a bit pathetic but id have loved a card my DS had made but his nursery didnt do anything. A lot of people have put pics of cards there DCs have made on facebook (as you do ) and i have to admit im a bit jelous!

janji thats a good idea, thank you cards.

when I worked in a school I refused to do haloween stuff on religious grounds, and another teacher didnt do christmas stuff on HER religious grounds. both of us were respected for that, even from parents.

:) cookie we chose to make biscuits and plant pots this year and we have a couple of foster children with us this year.
Have you thought of giving your dc free reign with a craft box and seeing what you get tom?

My dc have been very busy this afternoon hiding all their offerings as school didn't do cards this year either.

YABU. Grow up.

could be wordier but it comes to the same thing.

Well, at that age the cards are from staff really, so i wouldn't have minded either way had my dcs not produced one.

Don't want to sound mean but agree with others it's 1. Not a big deal, 2. institutions have to be careful.

I have a terminal illness and I'm more concerned about how my 4 dcs will cope growing up without me than whether or not I get any cards tomorrow.

Yanbu. I got one last year but clearly this year they CBA. Am

I remember not doing them at nursery when I was on teaching placement as a wee boys Mum had just died - he would sit on all female staffs knee and sob. :(

I work in a nursery and we never do Mothers/Fathers Day, Easter, Christmas, Valentines, Halloween or any other type of cards - just because we don't tend to do cards or themes as craft activities up prefer to follow the children's interests.

giraffes thats so sad i do understand about DC who have lost mums i guess i hadnt thought of that if thats the case though they shouldnt have had mothers day tea either. I know its trivial but my DS loves doing that sort of thing, thank you cards are a good idea!

My DD didn't make a Mothers Day card at nursery either but it didn't bother me.
I have a similar situation to Worra in that my sons Dad died on Fathers Day so it would be really awkward when his school would make Fathers Day cards.

Later on his school stopped making both Fathers Day and Mothers Day cards as another childs Mother had died.

The little bit of upset for you at not receiving a card is incomparable to the upset caused to children at having to make cards and having nobody to give them to as their parents are no longer with them.

So in that respect, yes I think YABU.

YANBU - there may be all kinds of reasons why Nursery didn't do cards, but you are still allowed to feel sad that you didn't get one. DS1 wasn't really into art when he was at Nursery, so cards for Christmas and Mother's Day were the only ones I got, and I treasure them.

For all the people who are saying YABU, I disagree - you are not demanding that they make them, and upset children who have no mum. But it is a good reminder to be grateful for what we have (thinking of close friends who have not been able to have children).

GoLadyEdith - I'm so sorry for your situation, that's dreadful

Sometimes the explanation (especially in school) is the far simpler one that the timetable is just so full that there just wasn't time to make cards.

I got my class to make them, but using a technique we've been using in our D&T sessions, so I justified it that way. They were finished off during register times, when they should have been reading. I will no doubt get complaints that two groups missed their Guided Reading last week. I can't win.

When I worked as a nursery nurse we used to just make generic cards with a flower or heart on them for mother/fathers day. No words other than 'love from child's name'.

Same for Xmas just with a wintery/glittery picture and Easter had chicks/flowers. Didn't want to cause upset to motherless/fatherless children and families or people who didn't like to celebrate those holidays.

But still being considerate to those families who appreciate the gesture and do observe the holidays/occasions.

We don't do them at our school (mothers or fathers day). We do a 'Special Person' day (not on either hallmark day) where kids get to make something for any person in their life (might be parent, grandparent, best friend, coach, etc). You can't win though. Some mothers complain when thei DC make a crd for anyone but them.

YABU

I think in most of my classes, at least 10% of the children do not have a mum in their lives for various reasons. I don't know what the stats are for fathers as it is less obvious when a dad isn't around. I don't do anything to do with mother's or father's day at school or Guides - I wouldn't want to put any child in the situation where they have to explain to others why they are not making a card, or risk making a difficult time even worse for them.

Aw yanbu. The homemade cards are lovely. We made them with our y2s and I made sure the class next door did too, they almost didnt. I know that for some mums the school one is the only one they will get.

I do get that there can be issues for some children but ime all staff are aware of these in their own class and work around it. We have done most years, its not hard to plan around.