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to be upset/embarrassed that colleague took a photo of my receipt?

103 replies

HarlequinSequin · 08/03/2013 15:28

I work in a chain supermarket, but in quite a small store (30 of us work there, some just weekend staff, some morning and some evenings - but we all know each other.)

One girl (think shes about 19/20) only works at the weekends. I finished work last weekend and did my shopping, I was having a movie night and did end up buying a lot of snacks (£20ish worth)

Anyway I paid for it and went home. Came into work today and a colleague told me that the girl had taken a photo on her phone of my receipt (just of the items bought) and she had overheard her laughing and joking about it with another girl at work (roughly the same age) - the girl who didn't take the photo was daring her to put it on facebook and tag me in it (she obviously didn't though)

I am a large woman but aibu to be upset by this?

OP posts:
FakePlasticLobsters · 08/03/2013 15:59

She's a nasty piece of work.

Report her to your manager and ask your colleague to back you up.

And don't let the nasty little cow get to you.

Floggingmolly · 08/03/2013 16:06

Complain to your manager. Please don't let the odious little ratbag think this is an ok thing to do.

ENormaSnob · 08/03/2013 16:07

I would be taking it way further.

JohnBender88 · 08/03/2013 16:08

Cheeky bitch! I'd confront her and ask her exactly what she gained from upsetting and trying to publicly humiliate someone!

candyandyoga · 08/03/2013 16:12

Please complain about her - what a nasty little mind she has.

akaemmafrost · 08/03/2013 16:15

I'd ask her straight out. Go in hard. Not aggressive but firm and straight, while throwing phrases such as "data protection" "bullying" and "what a strange thing to do!" around.

KindleMum · 08/03/2013 16:15

I'd report it.

Blu · 08/03/2013 16:19

If she was a member of my staff she's be on a discipliniary for this, no doubt about it.

Not just the workplace bullying, but because the implications of a retail worker a)mocking a customer's purchases and b) betraying a customer's privacy and publishing a named custmer's purchases could be construed as bringing the company into disrepute.

She needs to know that - and behave like the paid grown up she is supposed to be.

Crinkle77 · 08/03/2013 16:24

I would confront her myself rather than make a formal complaint to the management at this point. If it continues then I would complain but it would just give her more ammunition to bully you if it looked like you went running to the boss.

TheChaoGoesMu · 08/03/2013 16:25

I wouldn't ignore it. It will end up making you feel worse if you do nothing about it. Report it.

PleasePudding · 08/03/2013 16:26

Jesus how unpleasant and weird.

Can you raise an eyebrow? I can't but if I could and I were you, I would go up to her and say something along the lines of "I hear you took a photo of my receipt but I can't quite believe it as it seems a little odd" small smile on your lips an a raised eyebrow. And then just give her all of your receipts (that you don't mind sharing) forever and ever.

Don't get angry or seem hurt, make her feel like a dick.

OBface · 08/03/2013 16:27

Utter bitch. Please report her.

LaalRatty · 08/03/2013 16:30

it would just give her more ammunition to bully you if it looked like you went running to the boss. No it wouldn't?! It would show that the OP is deadly serious about not being bullied in the first place. I wouldn't care what people thought about me running to the boss if I was unlucky enough to be in this situation with such a nasty bitch. Silence makes things worse. Jeez its a workplace with blimmin' adults. Not high school.

moominmarvellous · 08/03/2013 16:30

YANBU. She sounds sneaky, bitchy and immature. Although I bet she sees herself as hilarious.

I'd report her.

Tryharder · 08/03/2013 16:31

How odd. Do you mean you bought a load of junk food and she photographed it as evidence that you ate a lot? How did she know the junk food was all for you? My trolley is always full of cakes etc tat I never touch (DH).

How weird and bizarre that she would find that funny. I cant imagine anything more boring and pointless than seeing someone's receipt making a judgement about their eating habits on that basis. I would ask her about it and she what she says and would also consider reporting.

YANBU by the way.

angelos02 · 08/03/2013 16:35

I would definately report her. Hopefully she'll get the sack and will learn not to treat fellow human beings in such a way. I wouldn't usually be so extreme but I've been bullied at work & didn't do anything. I ended up leaving and wish I'd said something now.

grrrrrrrrrrrrrr · 08/03/2013 16:37

How awful, yes I would report too.

quoteunquote · 08/03/2013 16:38

Report it, bullies rarely pick on just one person, she needs to be stopped.

yaimee · 08/03/2013 16:42

Go to your manager straight away.
In fact, I'd go to her an tell her what a pathetic excuse for a human being she is.
I'm raging on your behalf.
How dare she!

LayMizzRarb · 08/03/2013 16:42

I would complain, in writing, and state how you are concerned that a customer in the store is being photographed by checkout staff on duty.
I would emphasise the potential damage this would have on the reputation of your shop if a wider audience were aware that such behaviour was taking place.
What a childish silly nasty little girl she sounds.

ChasedByBees · 08/03/2013 16:45

Awful woman. Definitely complain.

squiddle · 08/03/2013 16:49

I would tell your manager that x colleague has told you this about y and z colleagues, and ask them to investigate. You don't know for sure that this is true - you only know that x colleague has said it happened. Perhaps x colleague is playing a spiteful joke on you.

Mintyy · 08/03/2013 16:52

I don't see how you can report it - its all heresay isn't it? You have no evidence. Really, the best thing you can do is calmly and quietly confront her with it. Make a little plan of what you are going to say, what you will say if she denies it, how you will end the conversation. But if I were you I'd be tempted to make her really think about what a childish and immature thing it was to do.

Original poster
HarlequinSequin · 08/03/2013 16:53

Thank you, I think I will mention it to her and hopefully she will show some remorse and apologise.

If not then I will probably take it further.

I thought I might be missing what could be a funny joke. Glad I'm not.

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Cuddlydragon · 08/03/2013 16:56

Gosh, I'm sorry she's been such a cow. Hope you had a great night in. I'd report this as bullying tbh.