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To be this shaken up over it?

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Flojobunny · 04/03/2013 15:22

This is not a thread about a thread, I don't think, but someone linked a story on Sophie Hook (a girl who was kidnapped and murdered) and there was no warning and it was very graphic and I was physically sick and have been unusually traumatised and shakey today.
Does anyone else get like this? Am I losing my mind?
The James Bulger case is the one that if I think too much about I get quite ill over but this one has left me in tatters, I couldn't sleep last night and feel so shakey today.

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BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack · 04/03/2013 15:35

Terrible as it is I think it is quite strange for you to be physically sick and still shakey about it.

Do you have anxiety problems anyway?

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 04/03/2013 15:47

I second anxiety problems, in my opinion it is not a usual reaction.

Sugarice · 04/03/2013 15:48

I remember Sophie Hook, such a terrible story.

I don't think it's entirely normal to be as affected as you describe, do you have an anxiety disorder as Betty asked?

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Flojobunny · 04/03/2013 15:49

Oh no I was dreading you saying that. I'm losing my mind aren't I.

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Dannilion · 04/03/2013 15:49

See your GP if you usually get this worked up about things, it is not rational or healthy.

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Flojobunny · 04/03/2013 15:50

I do get somewhat anxious but not so it effects my life, just stuff like I tend to worry a bit more than usual, and take other peoples problems on.

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ToeCap · 04/03/2013 15:52

It is perfectly normal to read something horrific and feel sick. It is not quite so usual for it to continue in as much, that you have been unable to sleep and still feel shaky today.

I too, think it is related to an underlying anxiety issue you may have.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 04/03/2013 15:52

No, not losing your mind but you might need help with your anxiety. Getting help might lead to a more comfortable life for you.

BertieBotts · 04/03/2013 15:53

I had this once with a news story, it was a one off though and I am not overly anxious normally. It passed within a few days.

I think if you're a worrier and tend to take on other's problems it wouldn't hurt to see your GP - it doesn't mean you're losing your mind at all! They might be able to refer you for something like CBT or counselling which could help you take people's stuff on board less.

HumphreyCobbler · 04/03/2013 15:53

having excessive anxiety does not mean you are losing your mind - I suffer with anxiety and different things can trigger it. It is often health related but I can focus on different stuff.

If you are shaking and feeling sick over reading a distressing story then I think seeing your GP wouldn't be a bad idea. It is lovely to be free of excessive anxiety, there are lots of things that can help, from medication to counselling.

bulletwithbutterflywings · 04/03/2013 15:56

I feel like this sometimes too, its OK to be sensitive about awful things! When I read what had happened to that poor woman who was raped in India I felt physically sick and my blood ran cold every time I heard mention of the incident.

MikeLitoris · 04/03/2013 16:03

I felt a bit like this over something once. My arse xp decided to watch the video of Ken biggley being beheaded. I didnt watch but heard the screams. I wasnt sick but i did cry on and off for a few days. I had probs getting to sleep that night too.

I think the fact you have other anxiety issues makes this different though. I think you need to see someone about it.

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Flojobunny · 04/03/2013 16:03

I don't know if its because this girl was same age as my DC or what but I keep getting flashes of what was described and have to concentrate to push the bile building in my throat.
I read it last night, and had to go and sit in my DC room, if he had been awake I would have held him tight.

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Flojobunny · 04/03/2013 16:05

I never used too be this sensitive, I find myself crying at films these days, especially if they involve kids and are true stories.

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Sugarice · 04/03/2013 16:07

Don't read upsetting stories online!

Sugarice · 04/03/2013 16:09

Mike no wonder he's your ex, what possessed him to want to watch that?

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 04/03/2013 16:11

Did you stop reading once you realised it was upsetting you so much?

SashaSashays · 04/03/2013 16:11

I think you're massively overreacting, I was on the other thread last night, and I ignored your posts about being sick etc because I thought it was totally bizarre and you were being a bit weird (I'm sorry if that sounds rude but its what I thought).

I did read the Wikipedia page and it wasn't pleasant but I haven't paid it any thought since, I can't remember how old the girl was and I haven't projected it onto my life or children. However I am not sentimental.

If its a one off I wouldn't worry, maybe your a bit hormonal, or its just this one that got to you. If its regular for you to feel like this I would think about taking a step back from such things until I learnt to deal with them.

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Flojobunny · 04/03/2013 16:15

You read it and never gave it a second thought Shock

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SashaSashays · 04/03/2013 16:23

I read it and thought, what a sick fucker. I finished reading, closed the page and I haven't thought about it since. Well not until this thread.

hellhasnofurylikeahungrywoman · 04/03/2013 16:29

Dwelling on it doesn't do anyone any good not you, not Sophie, no-one. I've said it before, two of my children's friends were murdered but dwelling on it doesn't help, it doesn't change what happened, it doesn't bring the children back and it doesn't do our mental health any good.

Trills · 04/03/2013 16:29

I don't know if you are being unreasonable, but you are definitely reacting unusually.

SolidGoldBrass · 04/03/2013 16:31

This is an excessive reaction and it's worth having a chat with your GP.

MikeLitoris · 04/03/2013 16:33

sugarice i have no idea what he was thinking but it was honestly part of the reason he is an ex.

HeySoulSister · 04/03/2013 16:38

I get it .... But that's cos I personally worked on a child murder case and was 'there' at the very beginning. Saw too much and even now have difficulty when each of my dc have been around that age .... We are all different and handle these things differently I guess

I was a tough ish cop back then, handled it. I'm a mother now and relive it ( and google it) far too often

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