to want a spirit at my home at night

[Any14T]

I feel so lonely night after night nearly 10 years even a spirit or ghost would be great company!

This is what the internet is for. Never alone with a forum.

Oh - that kind of spirit

all my friends in RL asleep by 9pm not insomniac like me

Agent i have given up spirits of that kind for Lent hence the weekend nights even LONGER

What about a dog or a cat? Their appearance is far less likely to be accompanied by a sudden chill, moans etc.

i have asthma with pets:(

cant think of anything else for company

There are less allergenic pets. Iguana?

MrsT I'd be to terrified of one of those....I could teach my spirit to turn lights and TV on and off and save energy

Be careful what you wish for - have you seen Paranormal Activity?

Since you've given somethiing up for lent perhaps you could ask the spirit of Jesus to join you - he'd have some tales to regale you with I'm sure

No have not seen Paranormal Activity....but wouldn't mind Ryan off Paranormal State coming here to exercise exorsise

Just so lonely I'm desperate :(

Feel better?

Seriously sorry you feel so low.

Aww I hate to think of someone as being lonely

You need to dislike people a bit more like I do then you can revel in being free from the fuckers

What kind of contact do you have with other people in the week?

Have you ever had something that you got absorbed in and got a bit of escapism with that you could resurrect? Like a hobby or an intellectual pursuit? (that sounds so poncey I apologise)

Agent I would love a hobby :)

I haven't left my house much sadly for several months think I have agrophobia/PTSD? It's my home I'm frightened of leaving and coming home! Lots of DV happened here and I am frightened of my ex returning to finish me off...hence prefer something less evil here!

OK, intervention! CBT for the PTSD/agoraphobia. Baby steps, do a little more each day. Stay with the fear and feelings a little more each time. Do something that makes you uncomfortable each day. Volunteer. Better than a hobby because you feel obliged to turn up.

No wonder you're feeling the strain! If you're not able to go out, have you been able to get any professional support for it?

Does it put the kibosh on you being able to move somewhere else? It sounds so awful to be trapped in that catch 22 situation, can't live there but can't leave.

Is the instigator of the DV still in the picture at all? Are your fears well founded?

Just thinking of the underfunding that's notorious in that kind of area MrsT, do you think there would be some kind of outreach (?) programme to help people who can't get in to a session?

They must provide something for people in that situation surely?

I've got no idea, but you'd hope there was.

Thanks MrsT:)

waiting for the ADs to kick in will return to GP and ask for CBT and I would love to Volunteer/work in DV and/or MH! But yes baby steps first your right.

I think there may still be online CBT if you can get your GP to refer you. I actually think that self-administered CBT type behaviours can be really useful. So, if it freaks you out a bit, do it. If it is a bit scary, do it. If you have some behaviours (checking for example) ration yourself. If you checked yesterday 5 times, today it has to be four times.

I found I became a bit phobic when I moved countries and couldn't work. Didn't like to leave the house. Not like me at all. So, I made myself. I had to work out every day, I had to get out every day. I also started to volunteer.

Agent I did have some counselling at WA that helped then life fell apart several months ago with a couple big triggers. But Catch 22 how you just described it is how it has been for a few years...wanna leave but the anxiety is so crippling now can't!

No the instigator doesn't attack us any more but has been known to park outside/drive past (when I notice as I don't like to even look out anymore) my birthday was the last time 3 months ago when I last noticed.

Ghosh online would be perfect Mrs T as don't think I could get to all the CBT sessions. Yeah trying to leave the house every day but won't walk in my area it's to dangerous (not the area that is nice it's just incase the psycho is parked around the corner like in past).

I was making the assumption that the OP couldn't get out at all, which of course it'd have different degrees the same as everything else.

But yeah, if CBT is just giving you alternative ways of thinking about yourself and that, I can imagine that if you've taken the decision to try and leave whatever it is you have a problem with behind, you'd be motivated enough to keep accepting the help from a nice safe distance of behind a computer.

Agent I can go out if I got another person with me so I do get out 1-2 times a week thankfully! Going out on my own results in severe panick attacks.....ok once I am out away from my home...it's the leaving/returning and living here is the problem so ? agrophobia of my home??

hence wanted a spirit here to keep me company as hate the nights alone....sorry not making sense now

I don't mean this to be pushy, but it's not that you can't leave, you just haven't found the way you're going to leave yet Any1

Which you have to believe is the truth.

Why the fuck have the police allowed this dickhead to imprison you? Just going on the couple of people I've known to have been harassed by inadequate men, I thought they were getting a bit more on the ball about stalking. Have you not found that to be the case?

You've done amazingly to make it to this point intact, it is possible get out the other side a happy and content person, no matter how swamped you might feel right now.