alcolohic mother relapsed - should I be angry or supportive?

[funnymummy9]

Okay so here's the story, I'm 16 (& before you ask, this aint my account - just didn't know where to turn to)

So my mum's been a heavy alcoholic for about 5 years, we fought, we argued everything imaginable and 3 weeks ago she went through a detox, everything had been going well, we were happy & smiling and saving up for a holiday. I knew it was very early days but nothing could have prepared me for this today.

She came in today and she was steaming and had a bottle of bacardi and I didn't know how to react so I shouted, swore and screamed at her in floods of tears and poured her alcohol down the drain.

She's told me she hates me but I hope she'll thank me in the morning.

I just didn't know how to react, I'm heartbroken, I don't know whether to be angry or support her and I feel like it's all my fault:( someone help me? Your opinions would be appreciated...

No it isn't fair!!

Oh you poor love, what a horrible situation for you. I wish I could tell you what to do but I have no experience. Well done for taking care of your siblings so well, but that's not your job someone should be taking care of you.

I'd like to send you a PM (private message) but that will go to the real funnymummy9's email address, which isn't good...

Would you like to set up your own mn account?

Ummm, how do I do that?

Hello there

Thanks for all the reports about this thread; we are looking into it.

Your mothers an addactit and your surprised she relapsed

I think you maybe feel mad with your self for beliveing her this time

Domjolly - she's 16 and although she has lived with this for a good while by the sounds of it she's very young and will be tormenting herself and confused about what to do for the best. I don't think berating her for being surprised that her mum has relapsed will help.

I agree that a detox alone will not usually stop an addict, it has to go along with other treatment. AA is one way but not the only way. There are other more modern treatments available and also medication.

How are you doing Funny ?

You'll need your own email address. That's all really. Log right out of mumsnet, then come back in and follow the prompts. Then come back to this thread with your own nickname and tell us who you are IYSWIM.

An organisation which is out there for families with addiction problems like alcohol is addaction.org.uk (they help both the children, partner and person drinking the alcohol). They are fantastic with the children and keep everything said confidential.

Another organisation is www.smartrecovery.org.uk I have found these people are excellent with addiction when people are recovering.