Hand me a grip, please!

[PurplePidjin]

I have a 3mo mixed race ds (this is relevant because we live in a predominantly white British area) and, imo, he is the most beautiful creature ever brought into existence. However, whenever we go out, we get told how beautiful/gorgeous/cute/striking he is. Strangers in the street. People in shops. Other mums at baby groups. It goes above and beyond the "Oh what a lovely baby, how old?" standard chit chat.

I'm starting to believe the hype. Tell me IABU, all babies are equally amazing before I get stuck going out of the door!

People used to say that about my dd as well. Nowt to do with being mixed race.

Cant see what the relevance to mixed race is either..

Don't really get what your problem is...we get a lot of compliments about our DD because she has big beautiful bright eyes and everywhere I go I get comments.
I think you need to relax and enjoy your baby...as everyone else seems to be!!

We get stopped all the time too!

"Ooh look at his curls/big brown eyes/eyelashes/lovely smile/cheeks"

"I have a granddaughter the same colour! Don't they make the most gorgeous babies"

I do think it will go to DS' head eventually

My sons are better than yours.

I've never seen a 3mo who isn't gorgeous / cute/ beautiful.

You don't need a grip just loads of space on your camera to take photos of your handsom baby :)

People used to say my ds was very cute/exceptionally stunning when he was a newborn (and he was a lovely newborn no rashes or funny shaped head or cross eyes) but now he is 11 weeks and has got exceptionally chubby people have started saying "oh he is so strong!" or "what lovely blue eyes" we still think he's cute but not to everyone else.

Our next-door-but-one neighbours are from Ivory Coast. They have toddler twin DDs who are without doubt the most gorgeous, cutest, adorable babies ever. Apart from the really really cute white newborn across the road, my own ginger DS, 4 year Henry who belongs to my friend and every other kid around. Are their any horrible children? I don't think so .

Some people are very gushy about babies. When dd was a baby people would stop me frequently to peek at her. She was very doll like,with soft ringlet curls and big brown eyes and long eyelashes.

Now she's three and she doesn't get the same adoring looks or admiration. It seemed to make her a bit miffed for a while but I suppose chatty,snotty,grubby handed toddlers arnt as cute as wee babies.

I get told that about my 5 yr old all the time, in the hairdressers "Awwww, shes got such a pretty little face", which is true .

The race thing is only relevant because he has loads of dark hair next to his blond counterparts!

I'm worried because I'm starting to believe that he really is superior to all other babies he is and I'm in danger of becoming smug

I don't see the issue. People think you have a cute baby, and they say it, would you rather they ignored you or looked at your baby and shrugged saying they had seen better?

We used to get this with DS1 and still do now he's 5. He has the most amazing eyes/long eyelashes and is just very striking. It was fine when he was really small, but he does get a bit embarrassed now.

Some babies/children are just incredibly beautiful. Your DS sounds as if he's one of those babies and I can understand how his dark hair makes him stand out from the crowd.

I think maybe people are more atracted to looks that they consider rare, so in a room full of blondies your ds stands out. My little sister went to india when she was 6 and people would run after her and touch her blond hair and take photos with her and say how stunning she was. She is a cutie but you wouldn't pick her out of a crown in the UK.

Don't worry about thinking he is the best, it is natural, DS was ill in hospital when he was 4 weeks old and I actually took the nurse to one side and told her I was worried about the other parents trying to steal my DS because he was clearly the best baby. I put that down to post pregnancy hormones rather than me going crazy ;)

Anything out of the ordinary is commented on. I have the most active toddler in the world (seriously, she is) and as she runs screaming through the world, we get lots of 'OMG, she's so cute how do you cope?' She also has lots of blonde hair, always gets a comment.

I think you're right honeytea.

I have two redheaded DS and people would always be touching their hair when we went abroad to some countries.

Foggles I'm really hoping my so far bald DS has red hair!

An added advantage, honeytea, is that you never really lose them in a crowd!

Oh yeah, I'm allowed to be proud of his clear superiority. I just don't want to be that mum who assumes everyone else thinks so too!!

Purple I live on the southeast coast, very white area. When we visit family in London it's completely different, nobody would ever comment, because there're many more mixed race children, DS is just one in a crowd.

Go somewhere with loads of ethnic diversity for a nice trip back down to earth

We all see our own DC being beautiful. But I can look at other kids and can say they are lovely too. Op can you not see the beauty in other children?

When my gorgeous DD was tiny she got so much attention - probably because of her blonde curls. But then again, DS always 'pulled' the old ladies because of his incredibly handsome cheeky smile! I used to LOVE that feeling of other people confirming that my DCs were indeed as wonderful as I knew them to be!

DS still gets it a bit (he's a charmer and not quite 4yo), but DD is well past the age of admiring looks from supermarket shoppers .

And now I ALWAYS comment on other people's children (isn't he gorgeous, what a smile, what lovely hair!) as I know how happy it made me!! Lap it up, and enjoy it - I'm sure he's a real stunner!