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AIBU when meeting new people, to judge them by the way they speak

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PennyBrowne · 27/02/2013 20:51

When meeting new people, I tend to listen to the way in which they speak, and then make a judgement- however the judgement shows with a snobbish face which I unfortunately inherited from my mother.

This is the latest scenario:

I have recently been skiing with my DH and DC along with friends who we regularly travel with. My friend this year introduced us to her new partner, whom I instantly disliked! Firstly, upon meeting the chap he called me 'babe' 'sweet haart' (pronounced as spelt) and speaking like a cockney, I felt like I was on an eastenders set! Personally it triggered all kinds of snobbish reactions for example when he asked me 'do ya wanna drink' I sharply replied 'NO THANK YOU'. In addition he repeatedly arranged his .... and sat with his legs so far apart that when I was made to sit next to him I found my self crossing my legs so tightly that my nose and lips looked like old raisons; obvious I was disgusted.

My friend confronted me about the issue- and I told her I thought he was not good enough for her, bearing in mind DF is a solicitor and is very elegant. It did not go down very well at all- and now we're not speaking.

DH told me that it's becoming an issue, since whenever I meet new people who I dislike my Mother Snob comes out! It's so embarrassing but I cannot seem to stop!!

Am I being an unreasonable snob or am I being fair?

Advice??

OliviaKnowsBestMumsnet · 27/02/2013 21:47

Hi there OP

This is a rather puzzling thread - you appear to be asking for advice about accents and relationships and all sorts - is there anywhere else you think your thread might be better suited?
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OliviaKnowsBestMumsnet · 27/02/2013 22:59

Right then,

HERE is a link to our talk guidelines - in other words, peace and love.

And HERE is a link to the first helpful feature* I found when googling something I remember reading aeons ago about folk making judgements about others VERY quickly. (i.e. you decide if their gender/ethnicity/how educated they are)
This feature says judgements are made in a TENTH of a second
Truth is, OP, that if your raisin-face is affecting your DH, you need to rein it in.
or in other words, peace and love

HTH
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*Usual HQ disclaimers apply.

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