to be really pi**ed DH is 'secretly' smoking....again

[cakebaby]

All, well some credit to him, he's tried to give up 4 times in the last year, but clearly has no will power & has succumbed each time. He's tried the tablets from GP, stopped taking them when he thought he'd cracked it, you can guess the rest.
More recently he's tried pharmacy stuff, still fell off the wagon. Before Xmas he tried again, I was all supportive, we kept a tally of dates & £'s saved as encouragement. Except after 5 weeks I could smell smoke on his clothes & after much challenging him - he protested his abstinence - he admitted being back on the fags. I admit i was freakin furious & probably over reacted.
He's been off them again for 3 weeks as we've been on hols, back to work a few days ago. I've asked how he's getting on without the fags, apparently all has been great. However, I've recognized the cough he's got & this morning could smell something stale on his coat, then found a lighter in his pocket. I am absolutely LIVID. I am so SO ANGRY with him for being such a pathetic liar with no will power. I feel like packing his stuff. What an absolute SHIT.
Accept I could be over reacting again, so AIBU?

Cake - He wont be lining anyones pockets - Allen Carr died as a result of being a heavy smoker !

Pretty - yes I know that! Humour, anyone?

Scottish...again hyperbole....(not a typo, this is an actual literary term!), I was never going to chuck him out.

No, thankfully smoking is and had always been totally banned at home for other reasons.

Yes I've heard of hyperbole but even thinking he's pathetic will no will power and an absolute shit because he's struggling with his addiction makes you come across as hard hearted and dismissive of his efforts.

Perhaps a little more empathy and understanding instead of smugness that you achieved what he hasn't yet managed to do?

Agree with lolli - I decided not to drink for the first 6 months as I thought the temptation would be too much.

Allen Carr never worked for me, it made me so cross I threw the book across the room.
He didn't make me think about smoking differently, he said nothing that I didn't know already.
And repeated it and repeated it and repeated it over and over again.
I know it has helped many people, unfortunately I wasn't one of them.

I don't think your being unreasonable about the lying, but maybe a bit unreasonable in expecting him to just quit. Smoking is an addiction.

When I met my dh he was a smoker I smoked but not very often (stupid I know) I can stop smoking anytime I want I find it easy to quit however hubby has smoked from around the age of 13 so 15 years.

When We found out I was pregnant he said he'd quit but he struggled, I knew he'd still have the odd one at work then come home and shower etc and he was honest about it.

What wound me up was when he said he quit totally and a few days later he came home saying how easy he was finding not smoking then hugged me. I could instantly smell the smoke so asked him outright if he'd had one, his answer? No but he'd accepted a lift off a girl at work who smokes. I told him there was no way I believed that and I could smell it on his breath so either work colleague had, had her tongue down his throat or he'd smoked whilst in her car ... Turns out they'd shared a tab ( ill point out I know nothing else happened I just wanted him to realise that lying has consequences) he's never lied since and will tell me if he's had one or not

I feel for you tho it's awful,having to smell the smoke etc, I couldn't stand the smell and I think as ex smokers it's worse

Another vote for Alan Carr easyway, I downloaded it after it was mentioned on a thread here.
Read it in two days and I will never smoke again.
It changes the way you think about smoking and it's not heavy about the health stuff, he assumes you know that anyway.
Tell him Carr encourages you not to quit while reading it, that lessens the pressure, good luck.