To think that it's actually easier being single

[InNeedOfBrandy]

Yes ok hugs are nice and so is a shag but having to cook properly every night, clean up more and not have a blah not doing anything night, having to make plans around someone else, clear up after someone else and not have a poo when you need one (because you don't want them to hear/smell) and not pick your chin hairs out while watching telly makes being single best IMO. I can't see the point of living with someone right now...

Being a single parent is lonely.
I can't pop to the shops at 10 pm when I fancy a bottle of wine. I can't pop out when the kids are in bed to do anything. As soon as 7pm getting here that's it, I'm stuck in til morning. It can feel like being locked in a prison cell at times (not that this has ever happened to me)
But I have dated and its bloody hard and for me usually quite soul destroying too.

I believe the problem lies with the kind of men you end up with, Brandy, as well as the IDEA of a DH you have in your head. My DH cooks most nights, prepares my breakfast in the morning (he gets up first), we do things together but we also do things separately. If I feel like doing something he does not, I do it with my friends or on my own, and so does he. I can't stand ironing, so he does it. I love the computer, so I do all the house admin, paying cards, managing mortgages, etc. None of us clears around the other... we are grown-ups who can clear after ourselves. From your description, it sounds more like you are living with a teenage son, instead of a husband!

To be honest, if the only men available were the ones you were describing in your relationships, I would also prefer to be single. If you like mothering people, you will get immature childish men as partners. Try looking for an equal instead, you will be surprised!

I have never felt quite so lonely as when I've been in a bad relationship.
And I really enjoyed a lot of my single years. Staying in bed all day of a weekend, reading, travelling and answering to no one. Bliss.

Now I've a DD, a DP and I never get to lie in/read a book/sit in silence. But that's more down to my child than partner..

The best thing about being single however, is having a double bed all to yourself. Sigh..

Oh and... not being able to have a poo when you feel like to? Are you serious??

No pooing and holding in the trumps. Doesn't everybody?

I have always been in long term relationships but am currently on my own, having separated and done some dating and, god, I love it.

I hate having a bed to myself. The guy I am dating stayed over last night and I love sleeping snuggled up with him, and waking up with his arms round me and him holding my hand. Sleeping on my own is pretty rubbish compared to that!

Op I'm afraid that doesn't sound anything like my dh either

Whoever is home first generally cooks, if we are both home we both cook. We both do everything 50/50 really. We ask we the other might like/ prefer to eat/ do/ go to but more so we both come up with good ideas, not because we have to.

I don't ask for permission to do something but would say what plans are incase he had something too ( ie il say a friends lunch is planned for Sunday, is he around for the children. If he suddenly says oh I forgot I'm supposed to be doing xyz then between us we would arrange childcare)

I too hate sharing a bed,can't sleep with anyone touching me and I love the space.

my dp makes life easier rather than harder! I love my relationship. When I
was single I was happy, now I'm with 'the right person' I'm happy. I
believe what you describe could be two people in a not-so-good
relationship.