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To think this bra doesn't fit?

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StuntNun · 23/02/2013 18:30

I went to John Lewis for a bra fitting last week as I have changed size post-pregnancy. The sales assistant sized me as a 34G which I was surprised at because I have been wearing a 36 on the second set of hooks so I'm not convinced a 34 would do up. Anyway she brought me three size 36F bras to try on as they didn't have any in 34G. I bought one because I really needed a new bra but I feel a bit squished in it - my boobs are pushed together at the front.

AIBU to think this bra doesn't fit and I should just order in size 36G from the Internet?

OP posts:
StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 15:15

Is it cutting in to the actual breast tissue? Are your breasts quite close together (i.e. top picture or bottom)

FrankSpenser · 27/02/2013 15:17

Right-o!

Rib area 28"
Hanging bust measurement 36"

I'm off to Debenhams tomorrow, might have a gander around the linger-ee department with my new measurements. See what they got and how it fits. Smile

FrankSpenser · 27/02/2013 15:18

Your very busy StatisticallyChallenged. We all need your help!

Angiefernackerpan · 27/02/2013 15:19

Just found this thread, I don't think I've ever had a bra that fitted. I'm 34 inches under the bust, and 43 inches when bent over (ooh-er missus!). My current bras are 42b I think, though the labels are faded and I can't remember!

At the moment the straps cut into my shoulders, and the wires dig in under my arms.

Greenkit · 27/02/2013 15:20

Boobs are in the cups and there is a triangle of materiel in the middle where the wires come up, its that piece which cuts in..

and all under the boobs

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 15:20

I'm supposed to be studying, lol!

Try a 28FF as a start point, but read this for guidance so you know what to look for:

Most women who are wearing the wrong bra are wearing one which is too big in the back but it isn't always entirely obvious that this is what is wrong. When the back is too big, the bra moves more than it should and the cups fall forward, which can actually make the bra feel like it is cutting in. Also, if the cups are no big enough then they will "steal" fabric from the back to try and give the breasts enough space.

Here's some info on judging a good bra, with thanks to Sorrel and Hazlenutt too

Testing the band and cup
To test the band size, put the bra (in this example a 30 back) on back to front on the loosest hooks. If you can breathe but if feels tight and you can only fit two fingers underneath the wire at the front, then that's the correct back size for you. If it's so tight it's unbearable then go up a size.

The cup will differ much more between brands and styles than the back. Put the bra round the correct way, lean forward then take your right hand and put it inside your left cup. Reach right round under your armpit/towards your back and scoop all the backfat/escapage forward in to the cup of the bra. This may require vigour!

Repeat on the other side.

Then put the shoulder straps up and adjust as necessary (not too tight as it's the back that should be doing most of the supporting work). If for example, you've started with a 30D, you will probably find that after scooping, you have some bulging over the cup and four-boobage going on! This means you need to go up one or more cup sizes. Keep going up through the cup sizes until all your breast tissue is firmly in place. Once you have put your bra straps up you may well need to repeat the scooping described above but with the straps in place.

Bra myths and D+ denial
There are thousands of women who should be wearing 32 back or smaller and a D+ cup or bigger but:

?They went to M&S for fitting
?They haven't seen anything smaller than a 32 back in the shops
?Have read that [insert a really slim big-boobed celebrity] wears a 36DD and therefore cannot imagine they could need a smaller back/bigger cup (the celebrity in question is of course in a wildly wrong size as well, or the papers just made it up).

So the next time a tiny woman claims to be a 34 bra, you know what to do..

A good fitting bra?
If your bra is a good fit after doing this it should:

?Be worn on the loosest hook (when new). If you can fasten it on the tightest hook then try a back size lower.

?The band should be completely horizontal

?You should only be able to fit a couple of fingers under the front of the bra. If you can get more than that, or you can pull it more than an inch or so away from your body at the back, it is TOO BIG!

?If you raise your arms, the back should not really move - no riding up

?The wires should be entirely encasing your breast tissue - breast tissue goes surprisingly far back and a lot of people don't realise this. If you feel where the wire is sitting under your arm then it should be sitting on a fairly firm surface.

?The central gore (where the wires meet) should sit flat between your boobs. if it is being pushed away, then the cup is probably too small (and the back possibly too big as well)

?There should be absolutely no lumps over the top of the cup. Take a fitted t shirt with you to put over the top of the bra and stand side on to a mirror and watch as you breathe in. If you have a bit of a bulge only when you breathe in, you probably need to go up 1 cup. If it is visible when breathing out then it's probably more like two cups or more.

?The cup shouldn't gape. If it does, it may be too big or it may be the wrong shape of bra for you. Moulded cups are particularly bad for this as they don't adapt to your shape.

?The shoulder straps shouldn't be painful and digging in. Most of the support should come from the back. If you find that you can't get enough support without the straps being so short they hurt the bra isn't for you. Most likely it's too big in the back but it may also just be a bra that doesn't suit you.

?and on that note; not every brand works for every person. There are quite distinct differences in shape between brands which mean a particular brand may just not suit the shape of your breasts.

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 15:22

Angie...NOOOO! Pleas try a 34G to start with

Greenkit, did you look at that image? Trying to work out what is wrong for you ;)

Greenkit · 27/02/2013 15:27

I did but im confused

the panel in the middle, stands away from my body and the base cuts in

I also don't think I have a big enough cup size as the wire under my arms cuts in as well

I also have marks on my shoulders

All in all I am defo wearing the wrong size

Angiefernackerpan · 27/02/2013 15:27

Thanks! I really appreciate your help, you are a star! Going shopping tomorrow Grin

FrankSpenser · 27/02/2013 15:28

Intersting measurement SC, it's quite close to what I'm wearing now (30E Debenhams range) This bra fits fine AFAIC, comfy, stays in place, worn on the loosest setting etc, but I'll look out for your suggested size tomorrow and have a try about.

Thanks!

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 15:30

The reason I am wondering about whether you are close set is that I am. and it causes problems. I have basically no "gap" between my breasts, and it means a lot of bras don't work or cause me pain.

It does sound like you need a bigger cup though, which will help with the armpits and standing out from your body. But I am also wondering if the shape isn't working for you.

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 15:32

That doesn't entirely surprise me Frank - Debenhams Gorgeous comes up small in the back, I have just bought a 32 from them and I am a resolute 30 normally. Maybe try one cup size up though in the 30 just to check - you might find with scooping you need to go up to the 30F, which would be closer to the cup size of the 28FF. Debenhams normally stock Freya so try a 28 in those

FrankSpenser · 27/02/2013 15:42

Ahh yes, I thought of Freya for a 28. Isn't there a 'Lapel' brand and 'Fantasie' which are both similar to Freya? Bad memory! Anyhow, both kids are at nursey in the morning so guarenteed quiet time for bra shopping. Lovely!

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 15:48

Not sure of Lapel but Fantasie, Freya, Fauve and Elomi are all actually made by the same company (Eveden). Fantasie rarely do 28s and IMO both they and Fauve come up but in the cup compared to some.

ImpYCelyn · 27/02/2013 15:51

Oh, just spotted this thread. Could somebody help me please, I have a bit of a bra crisis. Mine are all either very old, 36C and far too small, or my one fitted Bravissimo one which is now too big.

The Bravissimo is 36G. It's on its tightest setting and feels big. I can get a whole hand under the strap and still pull it a fair way. And the cups are too big too.

I just measured and I'm getting 33" under bust and 43" over bust leaning forward.

So I think that should make me a 34 something, but based on how loose the 36 is I'm a bit surprised. I've had the 36 over a year, but I've not worn it much in that time as I've been pregnant and breastfeeding. It's probably had 5 months worth of use MAX.

Would be very grateful for a starting point as I really need to get some new ones.

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 15:54

impy, you probably need a 32 back. It could be that they got the fitting of the 36 wrong, could be it is one that stretched easily (some do) or could be that preg changed your shape.

I would try a 32G as a starting point and work from there

FrankSpenser · 27/02/2013 15:56

Ahh right.

ImpYCelyn · 27/02/2013 15:57

Thanks very much!

EMUZ · 27/02/2013 17:08

Am in debenhams. They offered to fit me. Was tempted for the entertainment Grin

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 17:08

NOOOOOOOOOOO

nailak · 27/02/2013 17:12

I got my bra today, normally wearing 34d or 36c/d new bra 32dd. Never in a million years thought 32 would fit me, was very sceptical, but it fits! on loosest hooks. felt uncomfortable at first, then i lengthened straps and was fine. Im gonna try 32 e and see if fits on tightest hooks next time!

EMUZ · 27/02/2013 17:13

Debenhams gorgeous range
Red one (floral) puts boobs all up front without pushing up?
Black spot floral one, says balconette but gives amazing cleavage Grin

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 17:13

nailak you want to buy new bras on loosest hooks as they stretch with wear/wash.

StatisticallyChallenged · 27/02/2013 17:14

How is the sizing EMUZ? I find Gorgeous small in the back (certainly their 30/32s are)

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