to be upset at not being able to give our DC my favourite baby name.

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I have a favourite boys name and and a favourite girls name that I have loved for ages and always thought that I would name my DC these names.
However, our family name is a difficult one and neither name sounds good with it and potentially the combination could lead to our DC being teased for their name.

I've only just realised how bad they sound together and it's really thrown me.
Out of the blue, we've (I've) have had to start thinking up some new names for our baby due in a couple of months and it's thrown me! I know its not a massive problem in the scheme of things but know that our DC will never have the names I though he or she would have and I'm very sad about this.

Does everyone elses DC have their favourite names? Does it matter? Please feel free to tell me I'm being unreasonable but do it gently :)

I loved loved Jasper and Cecily. But DH didn't. And we didn't have a girl in the end anyway. I also don't really like DS1's second name but it's in honour of DH's father so I agreed to it - it's unlikely DS1 will ever use it.

If it's grating on your ears now, chances are it always will, so yes, look for other options - but YANBU to be a little upset that your dream names aren't going to happen.

Dh completely vetoed me being allowed to call our son Matthew. He'd had an employee who'd had a son called Matthew but whom dad called mafew. It completely put dh off the name.

Ds suits the name he has but I get a pang of regret when I meet Matthew's.

I have a Matthew. He's either Matt, Matty or Matthew but never mafew.

I always loved Bronwyn but my partner has a million percent vetoed it. We do not agree on names at all haha.

Tell me about it. A year on I'm just about coming to terms with dd2 not having the name I always loved. She has it as a middle name but it's not the same. Best I was going to get though. The whole naming shenanigans is the main reason that I will never have another child. I couldn't bear the nine months of debate.

Cecily was my Nan's name, I love it and Cecilia too, I didn't have girls though and dh would have disliked those names anyway.

OP not coming back to reveal the name in question?

We always had the perfect set of names for both boy and girl from long before the first child came along. No problem there. DC1 was DS1 and got his name all fine and dandy. When DC2 turned out to be another boy on scan we were stumped completely. Nothing either of us ever suggested was agreeable to the other. We eventually came up with a grudging shortlist of acceptable names but it was only on holding DS2 after the birth that we agreed on one.

Now, of course, you couldn't imagine him being anything other than that but it was never a frontrunner during pregnancy, more of a fallback. I got to give him his second name though (which is the one I would have used as a first had I got my way )

Our girls name will never be used.

I vetoed Ethan for the same reason as Groovee. DH's family would definitely have tended towards "Eeefun" (think Rickaaaay)

Had to ditch my favourite ever girls name for DD1 when I googled it plus surname and found many, many links to a website for an apparently very famous Eastern European porn actress of the same name. Plus links to videos, the adult movie database, the lot. I was truly gutted and just couldn't knowingly choose the same name for my lovely baby, knowing the importance of online identity, the possibility school friends may tease her etc. Picked a new name though very late in the day (in fact after she was born) and it is now genuinely my favourite name. All worked out in the end...

Bugger tiger !! Just googled DD2s name and a bikini-clad body builder appeared!!

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I struggled with DS2 and we decided on a totally different name to our short list after 2 days and now I'm really happy.

I didn't get to use my favourite name as it rhymed with ds1 name and I would have felt a nobber calling them on the park.

I once knew a Jennifer Tull. Now, her parents were clearly not thinking.

Euphemia, I just tried those two over and over and they sound quite different the way I say them (and I'm a non-rhotic speaker)

My favourite girl's name was dh's ex wife's name. When I bemoaned the fact that I couldn't use it he didn't think there would be any problem as "she wouldn't mind". Ummmm I would. Luckily we had three boys - problem solved.

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it took me a few goes saying that out loud....I got gentle and wondered what the problem was.
Then it hit me!
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at jenny tull! It has to be a joint decision I think, with vetoes on each side. DH and I had no problem with a boys name but when DD came along second, her name was the only one we both mostly liked, I vetoed his favourites and he vetoed mine. In a random convo with MIL I mentioned what we would have called DD had she been a boy and she pulled a face, so now I want a third just to piss her off

I couldn't use the names I had loved for years either as I married someone with the same surname as a us president, the combination would have brought another JFK into the world (yes really!) so discretion was the better part of valour.

Still I love his name now and it suits him.

I couldnt call DD my long held favourite girls name either, as it couldnt be translated into DH's language without some very unfortunate connotations. But now I cannot imagine her as anything other than her name. OP, you will get over it.. you will.

I also always liked DH's XW's name too. But yes, no way..

Yeah I would say (it took a few times saying them to know what I do say!)

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Law (stop) and (stop) order or more commonly law-n-order

My DC was going to be Paddy - but my surname is Maguire and bloody Shameless had just come out and was all over the papers!!

I had favourite name for DD but DH wasn't keen. DD and Dsil named DGD my favourite name. DH now loves name. !!! Yeah