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AIBU?

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Sweets as classroom treats

89 replies

Carmody · 22/02/2013 14:52

Twice this week, my 8 year old has exited her classroom at the end of the day chewing a sweet that she has been rewarded for good work/behaviour. Today was the third and final straw for me when, at home, she pulled out a Curly Wurly from her book bag and told me that it was her prize for doing well in a spelling test. Dd added that they sometimes receive hardboiled sweets during the day too. My husband* jokes that it's a way for the teachers to easily spot the hardworking kids: they are all overweight with bad teeth.

I'm particularly annoyed as we parents frequently receive reminder letters about providing healthy lunch packs and snacks! I wouldn't have any problems with stickers, stamps and/or cheap/tacky stationery as rewards (or even just a "Well done!" and an old-fashioned pat on the back) and can't understand why the children are being inundated with sweets as treats.

Anyways...I was in the process of writing a letter to the headteacher about my dissatisfaction with the school's reward scheme when I paused, mid-rant, to wonder whether it would be a better idea to talk to other parents of the school first and get some kind of a "Save our Kids Teeth" campaign going. It just struck me as slightly self-serving if I simply secure an opt-out for my dd (which she would hate as her friends chow down).

What do you think? Have you had similar experiences? Would other parents care?

Carmody

  • Oops...should that be "dh"? Where's the mumsnet glossary for these acronyms? Everytime I see "dh", I read "Department of Health". And "DD" were the initials of an enemy of mine at secondary school who ripped my skirt off during a scuffle (over a pencil case!) and ran off with it, laughing.
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SarahD72 · 22/02/2013 14:56

Dont think there is any need yet to start a large group against it. The simpler way would be to either have a quiet word with the teacher and ask that you would prefer your DD not to receive sweets as a treat and maybe a word with the headteacher. Does seem odd that in the days that schools are ramming healthy eating down our throats that they issue sweets as rewards.

midastouch · 22/02/2013 14:58

YANBU id be fuming, definitly speak to the head, what happened to heallthy eating in schools, i got a sticker on a chart at school for doing something well!

Carmody · 22/02/2013 15:00

"YANBU"?

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mnistooaddictive · 22/02/2013 15:00

The teacher is spending her own money buying treats for her class and you want to complain? You go ahead, let her keep her hard earned money.

Greensleeves · 22/02/2013 15:00

not acceptable imo

i would complain

squeakytoy · 22/02/2013 15:02

for heavens sakes, your child's teeth will not rot and fall out just because of a few sweets or chocolate as a TREAT..

Carmody · 22/02/2013 15:03

mnistooaddictive, surely stickers would be just as cheap? And I've seen kids in seventh heaven at receiving them.

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GloriaPritchett · 22/02/2013 15:04

You need to relax, YABU.

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2013 15:05

What's wrong with it? If she brushes her teeth regularly, they won't fall out over the occasional treat.

At least they're teaching kids to see sweets for what they are - a 'treat'

And not the staple diet a lot of kids and parents seem to think they are.

SandStorm · 22/02/2013 15:08

I don't give sweets out because I don't want parents coming in complaining. I give little rubbers or pencils.

IslaValargeone · 22/02/2013 15:08

I knew someone would come along and say a few sweets won't make their teeth fall out blah blah blah, but that's not really the point is it?

If part of school's philosophy is policingadvising what parents should put in lunch boxes, it's not appropriate for them to dish out sweets as and when they feel like it.

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2013 15:10

Yes Isla it's exactly the point.

Healthy lunches are just that - healthy foods eaten as a meal

Sweets are a treat and the teacher is using them as such.

catus · 22/02/2013 15:11

Yabu. A sweet from time to time does no harm.
My lovely sister is a teacher and does this. One parent objected to the use of haribo, and gave her a few organic sweets especially for his dc.

Carmody · 22/02/2013 15:12

Thanks IslaValargeone, my feelings exactly!

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GreatGretzky · 22/02/2013 15:13

YABU. It's just a couple of sweets as a treat.

countrykitten · 22/02/2013 15:14

Crap food should never be viewed as a 'treat' as it is precisely the opposite. Your body does not view cheap chocolate as a treat does it? I am also very dubious about any kind of food being use as a reward.

As a teacher I have known this happen and have always thought it ludicrous - especially when I worked in a specialist Sports College!

countrykitten · 22/02/2013 15:15

Bloody hell - I would be not be impressed if anyone had given mine haribo. Disgusting stuff.

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2013 15:16

Sweets are 'treats'

It's people viewing them as part of their daily diet that causes problems

IslaValargeone · 22/02/2013 15:17

Why are sweets a treat for heavens sake?

I can't stand schools confiscating home made cake and then offering treacle pud and custard.
Not allowing a chocolate bar for break and then dishing out a curly wurly because you've got your bloody spellings right Hmm

countrykitten · 22/02/2013 15:17

I disagree that sweets are 'treats'. I think that on the whole they are crap and should be viewed as such. The whole 'crappy food' as reward thing is dodgy too.

IslaValargeone · 22/02/2013 15:18

I'm not saying all sweets are evil, but it's an issue many people feel strongly about and it is not a schools place to dish them out willy nilly.

WorraLiberty · 22/02/2013 15:18

Why are they treats?

I can't believe you need to ask that Lol

countrykitten · 22/02/2013 15:19

There are lots of better ways to motivate and reward children at school. If parents want to feed their children stuff like that the that's their right.

GloriaPritchett · 22/02/2013 15:20

You'd think they were issuing class 3 drugs.

IslaValargeone · 22/02/2013 15:20

They're full of shite.