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Sweets as classroom treats

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Carmody · 22/02/2013 14:52

Twice this week, my 8 year old has exited her classroom at the end of the day chewing a sweet that she has been rewarded for good work/behaviour. Today was the third and final straw for me when, at home, she pulled out a Curly Wurly from her book bag and told me that it was her prize for doing well in a spelling test. Dd added that they sometimes receive hardboiled sweets during the day too. My husband* jokes that it's a way for the teachers to easily spot the hardworking kids: they are all overweight with bad teeth.

I'm particularly annoyed as we parents frequently receive reminder letters about providing healthy lunch packs and snacks! I wouldn't have any problems with stickers, stamps and/or cheap/tacky stationery as rewards (or even just a "Well done!" and an old-fashioned pat on the back) and can't understand why the children are being inundated with sweets as treats.

Anyways...I was in the process of writing a letter to the headteacher about my dissatisfaction with the school's reward scheme when I paused, mid-rant, to wonder whether it would be a better idea to talk to other parents of the school first and get some kind of a "Save our Kids Teeth" campaign going. It just struck me as slightly self-serving if I simply secure an opt-out for my dd (which she would hate as her friends chow down).

What do you think? Have you had similar experiences? Would other parents care?

Carmody

  • Oops...should that be "dh"? Where's the mumsnet glossary for these acronyms? Everytime I see "dh", I read "Department of Health". And "DD" were the initials of an enemy of mine at secondary school who ripped my skirt off during a scuffle (over a pencil case!) and ran off with it, laughing.
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missmapp · 22/02/2013 18:01

As a teacher , I give out certificates, stickers and pencils alongside with the school rewards systems, I also have a food tin, but sadly, mine is full of breakfast items for the kids who come in starving.

There is nothing wrong with a sweetie tin IMO, but this sounds like it is being overused, which is wrong, as it would be for any reward system.

Coconutty · 22/02/2013 18:27

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INeedThatForkOff · 22/02/2013 18:44

I don't use the treats as rewards either but just for something nice at end of a term etc.

I do too. A treat at the end of term and a regular bribe to negotiate discipline are not the same.

babyfirefly1980 · 22/02/2013 21:37

The teachers in our school occasionally give treats eg:Easter, Christmas, rewards etc.
The last day of half term they all got a little chocolate because a trainee teacher was leaving, not a big deal IMO.

mrsbunnylove · 22/02/2013 21:40

i'm off to asda tomorrow to buy lovely chocolate novelties as prizes for the Easter competition.

i'd better send a letter home reminding parents to complain...

mrsbunnylove · 22/02/2013 21:40

ooh, thanks for that - i'll get some diabetic treats as well...

someoftheabove · 22/02/2013 21:43

Class 3 drugs? Are they the ones only class 3 get?
I think sweets are fine but should be given at the end of the school day. My kids never ate them because they were always haribo and therefore not ok for vegetarians.

stealthsquiggle · 22/02/2013 21:51

DD gets (and treasures) stickers. Sweets at the end of term occasionally. This continues up to Y3. Y4 and above the school seems to decide that they are no longer motivated by stickers, and switches to sweets. It's still not every day, or even close, though - winning teams at the end of term, or individual finalists in something, typically get a Mars bar each - and today's French test took the form of a game, where the winner of each round got a chewy sweet. I have got used to it, and it doesn't seem to have affected DS's sweet eating habits - I still end up throwing out the uneaten remains of Christmas and Easter sweets.

GreenPetal94 · 23/02/2013 13:18

The thing is sweets are treats for nine year old boys, but little rubbers or certificates are not treats. I think you just make sure your child is cleaning their teeth and accept that they are outwith your full time care once they start school.

Hulababy · 23/02/2013 13:46

Why the need for so much angst and going to the top?? They're a couple of sweets not illegal substances. If you don't want your child to have them then speak to the teacher for goodness sake!!!

It amazes me what some people of MN would go straight to the head or Governors about!

Hulababy · 23/02/2013 13:54

Oh and yes, I'm one of the bad ones, though a ta now not a teacher. But yes, I give sweets or chocolate as a treat at the end of term to each child in my class, and in my birthday too. Noone has complained yet ... Must not have had any MNetters as parents yet...

Our daily treat is non food based - stickers, little plastic toys, bouncy balls, etc. Any child doing some thing over and above gets a ticket with their name on in a pot. End of day one is pulled out. That child chooses from the reward box. But these are 6-7yo so easily satisfied with a bouncy ball, stretchy man, pretend bug from HH magazine, etc. BTW - all paid for by teaching staff in the room

LizzieVereker · 23/02/2013 14:00

Why not buy a a couple of packs of stickers and some rubbers and give them to the teacher, saying "It's really nice of you to buy the children rewards but I don't want you to have to keep doing so out of your own money, so I thought I'd chip in. And some parents can be funny about too many sweets, can't they?"

They might help without being too confrontational.

Or see if you can get a meeting with Michael Wilshaw and Jamie Oliver, whatever you think is necessary...

insanityscratching · 23/02/2013 14:11

Sweets handed out regularly at dd's school and dips in the treat box, doesn't bother me tbh. Dd doesn't eat sweets at all (her choice) so her teacher buys, pencils and rubbers for the treat box especially for her which I appreciate.

Cuddlyrunner · 23/02/2013 15:15

I have to confess to giving them sweets at Xmas! The last few years I've bought them each a propelling pencil and wrapped that up with a Xmas lolly and a little packet of sweets. I also usually buy a Creme egg for each of them at Easter.

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