AIBU to expect my 16yod not to destroy bathroom with hair dye?

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This isn't just once it's several times and she's been talked to, shouted at and virtually thrown out for her destruction and lack of respect to property, she is lucky to have her own bathroom, over the years there's been all sorts of mess and just before we put house up for sale we replaced her broken bath panel and put new flooring down and decorated, looked great, she has now stained the wall, the white work top and the white flooring with fing pink hair dye in vast quantities, we have just sold house and survey done last week (pre hair dye incident), I can't leave it like this for new people and will have to replace the lot.
We are bloody furious. How many times do you have to tell the little fers before they get it?
WWUD?

You don't seem to like your daughter, your daughter probably doesn't like you.

There is no mutual respect.

I don't think this is about hair dye, this is about the breakdown in your relationship with your daughter.

I think you need to seek help to try to repair it before it is beyond repair.

Its not stupid anything.

Its thoughtless, a bit clumsy. But not stupid or retarded.

I think when it happens repeatedly, it is thoughtless at best. My parents
said some vile stuff to me when I was a bratty teenager because they
were angry and frustrated, they didn't mean it (I hope).

I have a 16yr old but always dye her hair for her

The lastest this weekend was black, highlighted ends, which were then dyed blue

What is going to happen on Monday when she rocks up at school with pink hair?

I'd be more concerned with the constant use of chemicals on her head.

Hair dye, even if you don't have allergies, is pretty toxic stuff!

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The pink directions dye won't bleach out/ scrub off IME. My sealant was stained forever until I ripped it out. It's not the same as most shop dyes, it stains the follicle in a different way.

When I was her age I actually used to sit in the bath to do it, was just cleaner that way. I wedged a big mirror behind the taps.

I CBA with those colours now, it's too much mess, and stains every time you wash your hair.

I would offer to dye her hair for her, - my DS used to dye his at 16, if I hadn't lent a hand, it would have been all over the shop. hell - I get hair dye everywhere when I use it on my own- it's bloody awful stuff for going where you don't want it too, - my friend and I do each others now, - it's a two woman job IMO.

YANBU for being cross at the results of her hair dying attempt,, YABU to be so incredibly angry at your DD, "she's totally fucking up her life in all areas" - it's not really about the hair dye then is it? Sixteen year olds do make mistakes in their lives, - better to make them at 16 and learn from them than make them when they are older.

Spray bleach gets rid of it, dead easy.

Unless there is variations in the way different colours react Nagoo. But I use the purple Directions dye and have got it off various things from tiles and grouting, my enamel bath (I know bleach is not good for enamel but bath was done for anyway if left purple!), lino and my wooden toilet seat using neat bleach and a good scrub. I have had it in various places at different times and there isn't even slight staining now.

You are right to be annoyed but you sound hysterical OP.