Because she isn't listening to a word I say! oh dear this is long ....
Colleague (41) has boyfriend she met in an online gaming forum, he's 42. He's never been in a relationship before, never had sex before meeting her, still lives at home with him mum and dad (mum still cleans his bedroom and takes no 'keep' from him either). He works 10 hours a week (2 hours per morning) in the local sorting office. This is enough to pay his petrol and car running costs. He doesnt actually seem to like full time work.
He lives up country and comes to visit every Friday night through Sunday afternoon.
As you can imagine, their sex life is dire, he's very enthusiastic, but its very lights off under the duvet. He's embarassed about nudity, foreplay, the whole caboodle and definitely wont DTD if her children (19 and 15) are in the house. Nor would he when they stayed at his parents for a few nights over Christmas.
I have suggested talking about needs and desires, books, mirrors, mutual masterbation, tinned fruit 
(ok that was a joke on my part), leaping on top and giving him the ride of his life. Any mention of sex causes him acute embarassment. He apparently doesnt ever have the need to masterbate on his own either, let alone have mags - because his mother cleans his room and generally tidies up after him he can't have any private things.
He lives up country and comes to visit every Friday night through Sunday afternoon.
She's had this brilliant idea to sort out their sex life and issued him with an ultimatum. >rolls eyes< He has 6 weeks to hand in his notice and move in with her, 3 months after that to get a job or she is packing him back to his mothers. He can't come any sooner because his car tax is due.
I have pointed out the following - at 42, with 25 years 'work' behind him, living at home with no board to pay, he should be loaded, or at very least be able to pay his car tax without saving. He cant because he spends all his money on fishing equipment.
I have also pointed out that by resigning, he won't qualify for any benefits, and with the 3 month time frame she has given him, she will effectively be keeping him as he has no other source of income nor savings to use and will probably have to pay for a tank of petrol to send him back to his mothers.
I fail to see how their sex life is going to sort its self out if (a) he cant talk about it (b) wont try anything (c) her children will be in the house all week
His good points? He is 'nice' and 'sweet'. Which he is, I've met him, and wet 'nice' describes him perfectly. He's very passive, likes housework.
She on the other hand is very outgoing, loud, giggly, works like trojan at 2 jobs to keep food on the table and also does some volunteer work.
I asked flat out 'so what are you getting from this relationship?' - "he's nice and I look forward to seeing him"
Have I missed anything out that would convince her that this is A. Bad. Idea ?