To think their is NOTHING wrong with extended breastfeeding or wet nursing?

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I was researching extended breastfeeding and came across this.
I see nothing wrong with this, I wouldn't be 'scared' for life if I could remember being breast fed or found out I was given someone else's milk.
I think the only 'scarring' would come from going from the natural environment of being fed from something to then finding out a large majority find it sexual, not the actual feeding itself.

I have no idea what a school would say. Its a moot point as most chikdren happily go that long without a feed. Ds2 went to pre-school from 9-3 and didnt need fed as i wasnt there. He did feed once he got home etc. As he got older it waa just at bedtime. I know two chikdren who were still bfeeding once at school it was just part of bedtime routine snd wasnt mentioned otherwise. Both at high school now and normal pre-teen boys.

I think the point is that its seen as normal to drink cows milk, but abnormal to drink human milk!!!

No worries it is a confusing way to word it, especially if you leave off the 'or beyond' bit which a lot of journos do, then it sounds as if you should quit at two years.

'Up to' makes it sound like a limit and that stopping before that is desirable.

I'm very interested in when they stop of their own accord, the whole "adult teeth" thing and everything.

DS is 6.7, he's lost his 2 lower front teeth only, and I was thinking earlier that I don't think he's bf for a week or so and I wonder whether he ever will again? It has tailed off very, very slowly over 18m or so, just the odd slurp in the morning but not every morning and bigger gaps between as time goes on. I haven't offered it for years now, except once or twice when he was poorly.

Nope, ignore that. I read your question wrong.

Also, Ive never had a negative look or comment from anyone. Although Im not looking for them or expectinb it either. If Im feeding DS it feels as though it becomes just me and him. I just dont notice others. Although as hes getting older, Im becoming much more aware that I have to make effort to not notice people around us now.

Im pretty sure no one gives a shit though.

I've just read that back. I'm not asking whether he ever will again, obviously

That's something only he knows and I'm not going to ask him!

Yes.

Sounds like he is weaning naturally fred i assume you dont pop up to school at lunchtime to feed him?

Well, I don't know if I'd describe it as "being bf" exactly, but he does have the odd slurp.

5madthings, now there's an image!

Has odd image of a mum sticking boobs through the school fence...its a healthier lunch than many kids get...

God, yes, a variation on the jamie Oliver/McD's fiasco.

startail if your still here re feeding your daughter until 9 was that just at home? what did your extended family think? and did she discuss with her friends ... I significantly remember feeling v grown up at 9 first love etc. I was thinking of stopping bf at 6mths to try for baby no. 2 but that's another story!

you can breast feed the first through pregnancy of the second?

Yes you can zcos i did that twicevand then tandem fed ds2 abd ds3 and then ds3 and ds4. :)

Tandem feeding is a great experience if you can do it. Never could really pull that one off in public though as just too awkward to do and much less discreet. Thankfully by then DD1 didn't feed in public.

At home it can be a peacemaker for jealous siblings or a battleground when they try to pull each other's hair or poke eyes out.

I feel stuck in the middle sometimes and literally am.

Though of course you can tandem seperately, as most people seem to do.

5madthings - please feel free not to respond but I didn't think it was possible ... and am interested in the practicalities ... did you always feed the youngest baby first ...what was the smallest age gap between them... did you feed them both at the same time.
my dd is 9 wks and I'm new to all this I don't want a big gap but thought I.would have to stop to TTC next lo and that hormones would change milk taste so dd would/ could reject it?

Lmao it would be classed as boobygate! Zcos I remember being nine too, the thought of bf at that age knocks me sick! I was hanging out at youth club, making dances up.

The odd slurp? Seriously how would u feel if he got to 8 then 9 then 10 just slurping away slowly creeping in to high school? At what point is enough is enough? Is there even milk there?! I find that its getting disturbing at that age.

I can't imagine it coming up in conversation with DS's friends.

I mean it's not exactly Power Rangers, is it?

zcos am in bed and posting from phone which is a pita but will come back tomorrow and answer :)

I find it really bizarre that so many people think it is weird and of no benefit to the child to BF them beyond a year or so but to feed those same children milk which is designed for calves is often seen as essential for healthy development until much later in childhood.

Do people really think that bovine milk is really better for human children than human milk?

fredworms maybe it would if he was a little older and a girl like startails lo ... probably sounds sexist but I believe that there are studies that woman talk more and on a larger range of subjects.
I think I would be worried if my lo did discuss the potential for bullying?
again I would ask whether your extended family know or comment on it.
I am assuming you also have supportive partner?

5madthings I look forward to hearing more assumed your phone is not a pita though?