Mummy: "It's time to leave the park now DS/DD, I did say 20 minutes and you've had 25, and we have to go to Tesco on the way home to buy yummy food for dinner, so please get in the buggy, you can see Millie/Billy tomorrow, say bye bye now etc etc ......."
DS/DD: "Waaaaaaaaa waaaaaaaa waaaaaaaa while rolling on the ground or doing that running on the spot thing
Mummy, in weird uber-controlled voice: I understand you're tired and playing in the park is lots of fun but we do want lovely dinner don't we, so please get in the buggy etc etc on and on..........
DS/DD: Waaaaaa waaaaaa waaaaaaa
I see it all the time, it's hilarious. I'm all for talking properly to children and explaining things etc, but seriously when they're in that state it won't go in! Just pick them up, quick cuddle, plonk them in the buggy and go!
AIBU?
to laugh at parents who try to reason with a toddler having a tantrum?
stradbally · 10/02/2013 15:15
Oh I love a good toddler tantrum! When DS kicks off I do the whole "come on DS, we're going to do this now", it never works so I always have to grab him and wrestle him in to the pushchair. I'm actually quite skilled at it now, DP says its a work of art how I get him in and buckled up, then walk off with him with a big smile on my face 
Bless her Phil 
My DD is 4 now, so its much easier to explain things, but she has always been very good at making choices. Although my mum thought it was weird that i would allow my DD to make her own choices 
Oh, just realised it wasn't a typo 
Still made me laugh.
The DP bit. I thought you had put it by accident and it was supposed to be DS, but on closer inspection it transpired that im a tit
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We don't have a buggy, stopped using it when DS1 was about 6mo, and DS2 (18mo) has never been in one. I do use slings but there's no fecking way I'm wrapping a tantrumming toddler on my back so he can kick me in the ribs all the way home! So what would you suggest I do OP?
Love the Sarah joke
puds
LaQueen Absolutely. I tend to reason for my own sake and sanity rather than fror the ds's. It's my way of saying something out loud to make sure I'm not BU IYKWIM.
But, for me, the issue with this thread and the OP is not how you choose to handle tantrums and the like, but that someone was smug enough to post about how they laugh at it.
Rude, judgemental and nasty IMO.
op you clearly have a different sense of humour to me - when I see a tantrumming toddler with a parent desperately trying to communicate with them I wince with recognition. Talking through what you are doing and why is natural surely? I would have gone insane al2ays having to silently drag my screaming or sobbing child out of a park/ back into a shop/ away from a toy etc. for the benefit of judgemental witnesses. My children learned that I was in charge and that there was a reason for doing things and it is part of a process, toddlers understand more than they can express as they grow up they can be reasoned with.
As far as teaching children that their behaviour effects the emotions of others - Surely as young children are not blessed with much empathy, part of the parents role is helping children to understand that for e, g. breaking little Johnny's toy will make him sad 
??? Knowing that your actions effect the feelings of others is important, teaching children that is not abusive or am I missing something?
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