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To be fed up when people have an opinion on how many children you have or want

471 replies

brummiegirl1 · 09/02/2013 20:58

I have 2 young boys aged 2 and 7 months and would like 4 children if i'm lucky enough as i was an only child and knew i wanted a big family. Before i went off on maternity leave with my youngest a woman at work said are you done now and i said i would like more children in the future and she said im mad.

Other people have also asked the same thing. Is it me? I wouldn't dream commenting on how many children someone wants or has as it's up to them, when im asked now i feel all defensive about it and don't want to tell them like im a naughty teenager not a 33 year old married woman!

OP posts:
ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 21:59

Eh? What's your eye colour got to do with environmental impact?

Someone called you thick and ugly? Well dismiss them as an idiot and think about the actual topic then

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:00

Tas the world has to be about quality not merely quantity. You seem to be hugely utilitarian and dull.

Annunziata · 17/02/2013 22:02

But Tasmania my DC are already here- what's the use of moaning about it to me? Short of shooting four of them what do you want me to do?

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:02

I'm thinking of seventy years hence when your many grandchildren will be adults. What kind of planet will they live on if the population keeps on rocketing? It's all too easy to blame the Africans, but eight children each is more than the Africans.

Tasmania · 17/02/2013 22:03

Yellow? Ehm... wrong choice of sentence. Completely agree that the world has to be about quality and not quantity. I'm not the one who wanted multiple kids though, and hence put quantity before quality?!?

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:04

I've thought about it Tas. I think you seem limited and dull. Eye colour is relevant to ugliness, which someone brought up. Eye colour is as shallow as the reference to ugliness, no more but no less.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:04

Do honestly think there will be quality if the quantity is so astronomical? When people are fighting over fresh water, space for a home, the oil is gone and food is in short supply. This is not me being alarmist. These are projections.

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:06

It is you being alarmist Ariel. It's you being hysterical.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:08

Really? I'm not remotely hysterical I can assure you. Hysterical assumes a loss of control. It's not me who is lacking control.

Tasmania · 17/02/2013 22:09

Yellow Huh?!? I never asked you for your eye color??

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:09

And yellowtip please can you tell us about the studies you have done which makes you sure that the descendents of your children will have plenty of everything, despite dropping water tables and crop yields and peak oil?

Tasmania · 17/02/2013 22:13

Yellow And you're the one who keeps on telling me that I am limited and dull. I haven't said anything like that to you??? Is this a case of mistaken identity? I merely told you that I do put quality before quantity - while you don't... despite what you said.

JaquelineHyde · 17/02/2013 22:14

Hahahahahaha this thread just gets more and more ridiculous!

Everythings going to be gone...gone I tell you and it's all the ugly thick ones fault!

Won't somebody think of the children!!...But only the pretty children from families of two or less the others should be taken out and shot to save the world!

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:15

I've done no studies Ariel I simply declined contraception and abortion and have lived a pretty frugal life, environmentally speaking, but have managed to produce (with a lot of hard work) eight DC who I tend to think will add to the sum of human happiness and not subtract. And even with my own pretty self-effacing make-up I'm not prepared to say I'm either thick or ugly, since both would be a lie.

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:20

What the hell is peak oil btw?

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:23

Also don't be ridiculous, popping a pill or scrabbling about for the equivalent is no more in control than what I did. How absurd, to imply I was insatiable somehow, or desperate. Sad really.

Tasmania · 17/02/2013 22:24

Yellow Wikipedia is your friend Peak Oil ...

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:24

Jacqueline, you make yourself look daft with comments like that. You don't look as though you actually understand any of the issues. If you don't think over exploitation of rescources and over population are serious issues, you're either not very bright or wilfully ignorant.

I have never once said you are either thick or ugly, yellowtip. What you look like is irrelevant. However it has been said at length that it's not your frugality which is necessarily the issue here, yet you keep going on about it. And yes, I'm sure it is hard work.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:25

"What the hell is peak oil?"

Tasmania · 17/02/2013 22:25

Yellow - are you reading a completely different thread to me? Who asked you about your form of birth control? Confused

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:28

I think she's reading what she,wants to into a comment I made in order to take the maximum offence.

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:28

Ok checked it out, obviously we're clean on peak oil.

Tas someone made a comment about 'lack of control'.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:29

Which was not directed at you. You assumed it was.

Yellowtip · 17/02/2013 22:31

Oops cross posts. Well you weren't exactly subtle Ariel, were you. And I don't think it would be possible for me to take serious offence; I'm a very long way from it yet :)

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 17/02/2013 22:33

So what do you think of peak oil, then seeing as you asked? :)