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To judge people who use could of/should of/would of?

184 replies

sneezingwakesthebaby · 09/02/2013 18:59

Am I being unreasonable?

I suppose I am a bit because someone could have any form of difficulty which affects their grammar.

But generally, I still form an opinion about someone and what type of person they are just based on their use of "of" instead of "have". I don't decide to do this. It just automatically happens when I read it.

Hmmm.

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PickledInAPearTree · 09/02/2013 21:13

And I got net flix and mn on it.

If it could make me a cup of tea I'd marry it!

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 21:14

I start reading a book on mine,then keep checking MN.

TackyChristmastreedelivery · 09/02/2013 21:15

I think yabu to judge any one person on their grammar. Assuming the judgement is a negative assumption about a person you don't actually know.

I'd say the same to someone who judged a person on their origin, weight, accent, clothing, where they live etc. etc. In my view, it just isn't ok to assume 'things' about people. None of these features are essential parts of being a good and kind person, imo. It is, for example, perfectly possible to be a useful member of society whilst having awful grammar, a much ridiculed accent, be obese and the child of an immigrant. I know because I am Grin

I'd also be very upset if my dd decided someone at school was worthy of being judged because they spoke in a certain way. I would actively discourage it.

That said, making observations about standards of literacy seems perfectly reasonable and much more useful. However, as the average reading age in the UK is 9, I think this one area of grammar is the least of the problem society faces!

LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/02/2013 21:15

I dunno. I don't like the way the screen looks. And I spend enough time hunched over a screen, my posture shifts a bit when I read a book and that's a good thing. DH really wants one though.

mrsjay · 09/02/2013 21:16

do you get the internet on kindles ?

LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/02/2013 21:17

I do genuinely think it's interesting how you can tell how far though a book you are by how it feels in your hands. I'm not making grand claims for that, but it is interesting. Mind you, I expect back in the day I was the cavewoman who was muttering about how nice it was back when we all hunter-gathered, and this new-fangled farming was crappy and boring.

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 21:17

You do on kindle fires,I'm on mine now.

mrsjay · 09/02/2013 21:18

You do on kindle fires,I'm on mine now

feck the books I am getting a kindle Grin

PickledInAPearTree · 09/02/2013 21:18

Kindle fire mrs jay - books, Internet you can stream films, bloody loves it!

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 21:18

Which is why my typing is even worse than usual.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/02/2013 21:19

Films I would like. I love having films on my laptop.

BluelightsAndSirens · 09/02/2013 21:21

I don't understand it when people blame iPad/iPhone auto correct because it doesn't auto correct you're to your if you type y o u r e same applies to their and there and they're.

If you type whether it doesn't auto correct to weather and the same with of off.

MarianneM · 09/02/2013 21:25

YANBU

And a house without books is a Sad one.

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 21:25

I get to and too mixed up all the time

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 21:27

A house with loads of books isn't necessary a happy one either.

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LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/02/2013 21:29

There's muscle memory too, isn't there? The other day I kept typing god instead of dog.

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 21:29

Necessarily see that was a bloody auto correct

LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/02/2013 21:30

mrsdevere - yeah, yeah, but it's not the same!

I am still angry my new car does not have a nice circular dial to tell me how much petrol and instead has a set of nine bars. I am obviously shite at translating between one mode of presenting information and another.

Veritate · 09/02/2013 23:57

YANBU. It's hateful. It's not a matter of homophones, nor can it be attributed to a poor education - no teacher tells pupils to write "could of". Surely it's not hard to work out that the word can't possibly be "of"? You don't ever seen that construction in any reasonably literate writing. You'd never write "he of done that" so why write "he could of done that"? It's just bad manners not to try to write in a way that is reasonably easy to understand and read.

PessaryPam · 10/02/2013 00:58

TheOneAndOnlyAlpha I say it and I have 3 degrees.

Ha ha and none of them in English I would suggest.

Tee2072 · 10/02/2013 05:54

Having a kindle doesn't mean you can never buy another book again, you realise that, right?

And I keep threatening to leave my husband for my Fire. :o