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To judge people who use could of/should of/would of?

184 replies

sneezingwakesthebaby · 09/02/2013 18:59

Am I being unreasonable?

I suppose I am a bit because someone could have any form of difficulty which affects their grammar.

But generally, I still form an opinion about someone and what type of person they are just based on their use of "of" instead of "have". I don't decide to do this. It just automatically happens when I read it.

Hmmm.

OP posts:
PickledInAPearTree · 09/02/2013 19:45

Sooty you make it sound like a heinous crime!

SHE PUT COULD OF.... ON PURPOSE!

Argh!

maddening · 09/02/2013 19:46

Tis a silly thing to get judgemental about - think what you like of course as long as the individuals you judge aren't aware of your thoughts then no one is hurt.

OutragedFromLeeds · 09/02/2013 19:46

Sorry pickled I just assumed that when you said 'I just type on my phone on here with my thumb. If I get the odd typo I'm not going to get worked up over it, it's a chat forum.' it was in relation to the OP! IME that's how it works, someone posts an OP and then the comments are usually in relation to that. My mistake though if it was a random, unconnected comment.

LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/02/2013 19:46

Why wouldn't you write 'of' instead of 'have'? Confused

As I say, I wouldn't as in my accent they don't sound the same, but for lots of people they are homophones, so easily confused.

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 19:48

I feel like writing could of on purpose all over mn when ever this thread crops up.Which is fairly often.

PickledInAPearTree · 09/02/2013 19:48

Alright outraged don't be outraged.

ilovesooty · 09/02/2013 19:48

I'm not talking about "heinous crimes". I'm considering the different processes that go on when people write/type. I wasn't judging how that process takes place or the people in question. You would type "could of" and make a conscious decision to do so if you were unaware that it is incorrect.

hermioneweasley · 09/02/2013 19:48

It grates on me too. When accompanied by a long rambling post with "yeah but no but yeah" I picture vicky pollard.....and judge.

OutragedFromLeeds · 09/02/2013 19:49

because they're completely different!

They sound similar spoken, but they don't look similar written down, the letters are not close together on the keyboard. I don't think it can be a typo.

OutragedFromLeeds · 09/02/2013 19:50

pickled I was apologising. You can't be outraged and apologetic at the same time Grin

LRDtheFeministDragon · 09/02/2013 19:50

But some typos are homophone confusions, aren't they? Like 'two' and 'too' - those letters aren't close together either.

I think it would depend whether you are strong aural, or strongly visual, in the way you learn spellings.

Flisspaps · 09/02/2013 19:50

YANBU. DH did it the other day Hmm

ShellyBoobs · 09/02/2013 19:51

Your not been unreasonable.

Wink
PickledInAPearTree · 09/02/2013 19:52

Well it's not something I do. But I can see how it happens, I don't take massive care what I type on here and if someone genuinely gets a bit confused as speaking you would say could've which can sound very much like could of, I'm not going to judge them.

That was a long old sentence.

DreamsTurnToGoldDust · 09/02/2013 19:52

I judge people who judge people because of their grammar and spelling, and I sneer at their sneering.

PickledInAPearTree · 09/02/2013 19:53

Oh yes!

Sorry it's all this talk of grammar it makes me twitchy.

aftermay · 09/02/2013 19:55

Should ov, could ov...

Bought and brought used wrongly...

I've only noticed this these past couple of years. What's happening? Standards, eh?

MrsDeVere · 09/02/2013 19:55

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PickledInAPearTree · 09/02/2013 19:55

I was taught hardly any grammar at school. I had to learn on the mean streetz.

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 19:56

I would say could ov.

kerala · 09/02/2013 19:56

Our headteacher got the lesser/fewer thing wrong in his newsletter. I was Shock but even worse I was the only one that was Shock.

OutragedFromLeeds · 09/02/2013 19:56

'I think it would depend whether you are strong aural, or strongly visual, in the way you learn spellings. '

That could be true.

When I see posters use 'should of' though, they use it consistently throughout the post/s so it's not a case of being a typo in the majority of cases I've seen.

If you always use two instead of too, I don't consider that a typo.

aftermay · 09/02/2013 19:56

Having said the above, even my own children have started doing this. Aargh! I should of known it'd happen.

BumpingFuglies · 09/02/2013 19:59

You can't be outraged and apologetic at the same time
Nah but you can be enraged and apopleptic - I do love that word

usualsuspect · 09/02/2013 19:59

I only notice it on MN because I imagine all the itching.twitching grating and judging going on.