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AIBU?

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to feel upset a close friend didn't say happy birthday?

32 replies

FreyaBea · 09/02/2013 14:19

I have been friends with her for years - and we see each other probably every week and are good friends.

I went over to her house for tea on Tuesday and she gave me a present and a card.

My birthday was yesterday and she gave me the present early as she couldn't come to my birthday meal. She has a family member with the exact same birthday as me and it was a special birthday so I understand why she couldn't come.

But she didn't even text to just say - Happy Birthday. I felt really upset about it because I know it's not a malicious reason it's purely the fact that she forgot Friday was my birthday. How hard is it to take 10 seconds out of your day to send a text?

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SunflowersSmile · 09/02/2013 14:20

Oh, I think you are over reacting a bit.
She has given you a present etc- be grateful!

Dothraki · 09/02/2013 14:22

Happy birthday
maybe she had no credit.
Here and

aftermay · 09/02/2013 14:23

She did think about you, though. Hence the present and the card. Happy birthday. Mine was a few days ago. I mentioned it in passing on a thread at the time (it did make sense!) and not a single stranger wished me HB :)

Anniegetyourgun · 09/02/2013 14:25

I didn't even say happy birthday to my own son yesterday. Not that I'd forgotten it was his birthday, just forgot to say it. And I haven't given him a present either, as neither of us can think of anything that he particularly wants at this time. I don't think he is planning on disowning me as a result. This could be because we are both grown up people (and he knows I have a dreadfully poor memory).

nefertarii · 09/02/2013 14:26

yabu. You are an adult. People forget things and have busy lived. She happened to forget. She remembered enough to go out and get you a present so obviously cares?

What did she say when you took 10 seconds out of your day to thank her for what she bought you, when you opened it?

ShatnersBassoon · 09/02/2013 14:29

YABU and petulant. Forgetting to text on your birthday doesn't make her a bad friend.

ZillionChocolate · 09/02/2013 14:31

Yabu

Arcticdream · 09/02/2013 14:32

yabvu hope your own reaction didn't spoil your bithday
she had done your birthday ,friday she was concentrating on her family member and other things.

You are being very ungrateful to complain about this

Pandemoniaa · 09/02/2013 14:33

Heavens! You've been given a present and a card and yet still feel slighted? I fear you must be rather hard work. YA certainly BU.

BabyRoger · 09/02/2013 14:35

Jeez, really?

She gave you a card and a present but because she didn't text on your actual birthday, you are miffed? YABU and precious and childish.

Iamsparklyknickers · 09/02/2013 14:36

Sorry but yabu.

She's put the effort in early specifically because she knew she'd be busy with other things on the day.

I'm sure one of the first things she'll ask next time you see her is how your birthday went. Don't be that mardy arse who actually had a lovely time but petulantly pouts over a sodding text.

tinygreendragon · 09/02/2013 14:39

To be honest I were prefer the text or a message to the gift, however if I received a gift I wouldn't be quite so precious about not receiving a message.

You are being unreasonable.

GoingBackToSchool · 09/02/2013 14:41

This happened to me at the end of January, but I didn't get a card/present or anything. Whatsmore, a mutual friend of mine has the same birthday and she said happy birthday to him and not me (also I have a twin who is also friends with my friend so even harder to forget!).
YABU as you did get a card/present so they obviously care about you.

TheMagicMumber · 09/02/2013 14:41

Seriously?

OrangeLily · 09/02/2013 14:43

You can't be serious! She fed you, gave you a card and a present. Don't be ridiculous.

crashdoll · 09/02/2013 14:58

YABU and silly! She didn't forget, you got a pressie!

Vinomcstephens · 09/02/2013 15:02

Oh my goodness! Seriously, you're upset about not receiving a text???? your friend gave you a card, she gave you a present but oh no, the world spins off it's axis because you didn't get a text???

That seriously takes the

lurkedtoolong · 09/02/2013 15:02

Good grief, I love my birthday and I don't get the MN attitude of "you're an adult you don't need to celebrate your birthday" but this is dreadfully precious of you.

You got a present and a card. Presumably when you saw her she said have a lovely time on your birthday? Stop being ridiculous.

ErikNorseman · 09/02/2013 15:07

Get over yourself :)

Sugarice · 09/02/2013 15:23

You got a present and card, don't be so miffed at her.

She was probably busy doing something else, move on and stop being ultra sensitive!

treas · 09/02/2013 15:27

Grow up - she acknowledged your birthday with present and card, so did not forget. She's busy and probably feels she has done her bit towards your birthday and is now concentrating on her family. Family should always come before friends.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE · 09/02/2013 15:28

Are you 5?

My best friends always get my birthday wrong, and i couldn't care less.

Dominodonkey · 09/02/2013 15:30

YABU - I am amazed you have any friends at all with this sort of high maintenance attitude. Despite being busy on your birthday she remembered to get you a present and card beforehand - sounds like a good friend to me.

You must have a very charmed life if this has got you down - I have read threads on here where people's birthdays are forgotten entirely, including by their own partners and children.

Pancakeflipper · 09/02/2013 15:31

Did you send her a text to say thank you after opening the gift?

It is my friend's birthday today. I gave her the pressies and card ( well thought out pressie) on Thurs as knew not likely to see her until next week. I did not send a text this morning to say happy birthday. Not cos I am mean but because between the children's swimming classes, car in for MOT, shopping, taking 2 children to cinema party etc - I forgot.

If you received a scarf to go with your new gorgeous dress you bought a few weeks ago and your fav eye cream - then I am your friend who forgot this morning to say happy birthday.

Coconutty · 09/02/2013 15:32

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