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to ask anyone to just talk to me for half an hour, don't want to be alone

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newcommer · 09/02/2013 14:01

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 09/02/2013 14:34

Don't go to the 'World In Minature' (sp) it was utter rubbish. I'm not sure what I was expecting but it was literally the wonders of the world...in minature, and that was it and it was about £7 a ticket Newquay zoo is nice.

pippop1 · 09/02/2013 14:36

Does your Mum live near the sea? I've only ever been to Cornwall on holiday but it's all so pretty! You are also not making your DD change schools as she is so young so there won't be that trauma for her either.

The weather will be good in Cornwall thanks to the Gulf Stream (I think that's what they said in geography lessons). Lots of plus points.

whattodoo · 09/02/2013 14:36

What have you got planned for when DD gets back?

elfycat · 09/02/2013 14:37

I keep meaning to get down to Cornwall on a holiday, and to visit a friend who moved down there.

Last years holiday was to Lowestoft, Suffolk. I live in Mid-Suffolk and go to Africa Alive at Lowestoft for a day trip. It was a good holiday mind you.

ArielThePiraticalMermaid · 09/02/2013 14:43

I imagine living in Cornwall will be like being on holiday every day!

Er....Grin And the weather's dramatic rather than always good.

Nevertheless, compared to most places, people are genuine and refreshingly non-consumerist and friendly. I think you will like it, and it will be a good place to lick your wounds, newcommer. Can you say where you'll be?

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newcommer · 09/02/2013 14:46

not really feeling better, but I have DF with me now, so loneliness is gone, got to get my head straight. Will come back on later, this has helped thank you.

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GwendolineMaryLacey · 09/02/2013 14:46

I love Cornwall, we've just booked our annual may half term holiday there. Healey's here we come!

I can't think of a better place to recover. Sea air to blow out the cobwebs....

FishfingersAreOK · 09/02/2013 15:49

When I went to the Lost Gardens of Heligan there was the most gorgeous, gorgeous gardener there. Oh he was amazing. Wow. Has just made my heart beat a little faster thinking of him. This shows how luffly he was as this was over 10 years ago and I didn't even speak to him...just admired him from a bench...{dreamy sigh emoticon}..

Sunnywithshowers · 09/02/2013 15:51

Big hugs OP.

mrsbunnylove · 09/02/2013 16:20

hugs, op.

when that man and i split up, we'd been together nearly eleven years. i was nearly 28, daughter was 4. daughter and i would often sit on the stairs and howl, for months afterwards, maybe years. sometimes you just have to.

howl when you need to. there will come a day when you don't need it any more.

more hugs to you, your dd, your parents.

Dominodonkey · 09/02/2013 16:27

Wishing you all the best, Cornwall is absolutely lovely and will help to heal you.

xx

MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 09/02/2013 22:13

How are you doing?

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newcommer · 09/02/2013 22:34

thank you everyone for the distraction earlier. Missy, I am pretty sure that World of miniature has closed down, I was actually upset about it, boyfriend like you hated it there, so maybe we weren't a good match after all.

I'm still not great, but my DM has traveled here to stay with me until I go back with her on Thursday.

I'm moving to just outside Padstow, I do know the area and some people down there too, so that will make it easier, but I am still sad for the loss of my relationship.

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 09/02/2013 22:59

I'm not surprised the shocking excuse for a lovely tourist attraction shut down Grin

I'm glad your dm is able to stay with you until you head down on thursday. Its good that you know some people already. It might be a good thing that you are moving somewhere new for a fresh start, its always hard if you are going to the same places and bumping in to your ex unexpectedly.

Are you all organised for moving? Its sometimes a welcome distraction to have practical things to be getting on with.

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newcommer · 09/02/2013 23:33

Far from organised, but Thursday is a long way away so hopefully plenty of time to get on with it, and I guess anything I forget to take Ex can bring with him when he visits.

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 09/02/2013 23:37

Stupud question but are you feeling any different (I won't say better as thats pretty much impossible at this stage) than you did earlier?

Hows your dd?

Apileofballyhoo · 09/02/2013 23:47

I'm sorry things didn't work out the way you hoped they would OP. Very very sad to face break up with DP of such a long time. And with a DC and everything. But DCs are happiest when they have happy parents so am sure you are doing the right thing. Spilt with ex after 7 years, no DCs, and it was really dreadful, though staying together would have been worse. (and I never would have met my DH) My heart goes out to you. Be really kind to yourself.

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newcommer · 09/02/2013 23:48

Different erm no, I feel very scared about the future, haven't been single for a very long time, and I'm at a disadvantage at the moment as even though ex has treated me badly I can't stop loving him just like that, and he knows that he only has to say then I would come running back.

DD is fine, I don't think it's sunk in yet, though I'm sure it will after she's gone a few weeks with out seeing her daddy.

I'm pretending to be upbeat, I'm lucky that no abuse or other persons involved in break up, so easier to keep it amicable, but almost harder to see it end in a way.

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newcommer · 10/02/2013 00:02

Apile you are giving me hope that my love life may not be over just yet, but only time will tell.

If Ex isn't happy with me after so long, it would be wrong of us to waste our lives together if he could find happiness else where, it wouldn't be fair to me or him.

It's just difficult to believe that right now, as I thought everything was ok ish on Friday, and now my life has imploded. But hey, I will survive :).

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MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel · 13/02/2013 17:29

Just thought I would pop back and wish you luck with the move tomorrow, I hope you are doing a bit better now.

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