to ask anyone to just talk to me for half an hour, don't want to be alone

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Here for handholding.

Have a good howl, get it out of your system x

Stick on some loud music and get it out of your system sweetie. There's a reason grief and pain makes us vocal, allow yourself to grieve a bit x

X posts, you are not pathetic, no one is strong all the time, Crying at this time is normal, you're going through a traumatic time

In my experience you need to howl as Ken says to get it out of your system. You'll feel calmer afterwards, and then enter the weepy stage x

Missy sorry, your DD being sick has made me smile, just because I can picture DD doing the same, leaving you covered in goop then disappearing back to bed.

Our children treat us like that, and we love them even more for it :)

There is nothing like a big cry with sobs wracking through your body to know that a new scary but ultimately exciting journey is about to begin.

I used to take my howling moments when my DS was away. I used to feel clean and very, very tired afterwards. Like a slate wiped clean.

Crying is good, let it all out. I can hardly cry at all, I'm emotionally constipated.

You're not pathetic - you are releasing pain, get it out of your system before your DD gets back.

A month from now things will look better

I should be happy, I'm moving to Cornwall, Cornwall's nice.

It wouldn't have been so bad if she didn't have bolognese for tea last night and I didn't have my lovely cream bedding (that now needs to be burned) on my bed. :)

Little darling that she is.

How old is your dd?

Ooooh I used to live in Cornwall, in Penzance then moved to Redruth. Nice beaches down that way.

It won't do your DD any harm to see that this is a difficult time for you, in fact as long as you're otherwise coping it'll be good for her to see that.

Would a ten minute lie-down under a duvet help? When I feel emotionally overloaded I go and get my self warm and comfortable as I find I feel chilled when upset - this is shock and treating it as medical shock works.

Sounds amazing!
You'll be there in time for spring to start, new chums, new scenery, new you.

DD is 2, it's better if you split when children are young rather than older isn't it?

Or a hot bath.

Cornwall is lovely but you still need to grieve the breakdown of your relationship and the plans you had. I would imagine you're sad, angry, and happy all at once.

Yes, I think it is better when thry're younger.
Have you got visitation and all that sorted?

To try and make you laugh a bit - I just defrosted my freezer with a hair dryer as advised on MN. I now have to wash every towel in the house due to the speed at which it defrosted. Was not expecting that.

I have a migraine hangover which is not helped by getting ds1 and ds2 to do their homework . I am secretly very pleased with ds1 as he is doing a good job. I had to go food shopping this a.m. I hate it as we are on a strict budget . Our boiler had to be replaced 2 weeks ago as the old one was leaking carbon monoxide . We have had to remortgage the house to pay for it. But we are using some of the money to pay credit cards. No snow here which I am pleased about . I have been known to have a scream let rip!

Yes. 2 is fine. My DS was almost 2 when I became a lone parent. There were nights crying for Dad but it passed and now he lives in two happier environments.

Tea, yes all of those and more!!

Good - that's normal then

Where are you moving in Cornwall? If you want any info or help or hand, PM me xxx

Feeling a bit better?

I've never been to Cornwall but my parents went and loved the Eden project and the lost gardens of heligon . I imagine living in Cornwall will be like being on holiday every day!