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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think bringing an 18 month old to an evening baby shower

59 replies

FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2013 21:46

Is not on and also smacks of not wanting anyone to get more attention than your little darling?
This person wants to bring her child to every event going no matter how unsuitable and it just smacks of attention seeking. AIBU

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iloveeverton · 01/02/2013 21:49

YABU a baby shower is not going to be a piss up.

What is with people wanting to exclude kids from everything.

Xmasbaby11 · 01/02/2013 21:49

YANBU - 18 month olds should be in bed in the evening. Poor baby!

Sirzy · 01/02/2013 21:50

Had she asked the person who was hosting it first?

as long as she had and didn't let the child run riot whats the problem? If an 18 month old gets tired they can sleep in a pram, or on a seat, or in someones bed.

gordyslovesheep · 01/02/2013 21:50

I am very excited to see another Evertonian !

anyway I think YABU and a bit odd - it's a baby shower not a hen weekend in Blackpool

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FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2013 21:51

Wtf everton?
What is the need to include kids in utterly EVERYTHING? Especially when its a chance to indulge the mum to be, not an opportunity for you to showcase Tarquin and his wonderfulness yet again and fill the evening with self centred conversation like 'when I was pregnant..when I was in labour' ffs it irritates me

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FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2013 21:53

Im not sure why its odd to think babies shouldnt be included in grown ups evening events but thats the contrary way of AIBU I guess...

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gordyslovesheep · 01/02/2013 21:54

you sound like such a good friend - don't worry about a child stealing your the limelight I am sure your sunny personality will make everyone feel relaxed and it will be fun fun fun Grin

HollyBerryBush · 01/02/2013 21:54

First of all I dont see the point of baby showers . grabby, grasping

Secondly I dont see the point of dragging babies/toddles/children everythere with you anyway.

So it all sounds like an utterly revolting evening all round TBH

webwiz · 01/02/2013 21:55

What happens at a baby shower then? (they weren't invented in my day) I would presume there would be a lot of talk about when people were pregnant and when they were in labour.

Xmasbaby11 · 01/02/2013 21:55

Unless the mother has no choice, it seems selfish to bring the baby along at a time he should be in bed. And if he's asleep, why bring him in the first place?

I agree it's for the mum to be, so it should be cleared with her.

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FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2013 21:55

Nice try- not my baby shower

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FutTheShuckUp · 01/02/2013 21:57

Hollyberry thats exactly how I feel. But that makes me odd and a shit friend seemingly [shrug]

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TuftyFinch · 01/02/2013 21:59

Having am evening to celebrate the arrival of one friend's baby but excluding other friend's existing baby is a little bit ironic.

Peacocklady · 01/02/2013 22:02

Wouldn't bother me, I love kids.

FlorriesDragons · 01/02/2013 22:04

YANBU, children belong in bed of an evening.

Adult time is sacred. Grin

pigletmania · 01/02/2013 22:04

I agree Tuftyfinch bit stupid to exclude a child from an event celebrating the upcoming arrival of a friends baby

DonderandBlitzen · 01/02/2013 22:04

If she is on her own then maybe she doesn't have anyone she can leave the child with. If the child's dad is at home then yes i think it would have been better to leave the child at home.

OddBoots · 01/02/2013 22:06

I really couldn't work out how you would finish the title of your thread before I opened it. Baby showers are such a new thing here that I'm not sure there are particular rules for them.

N0tinmylife · 01/02/2013 22:06

YABU, maybe she just likes taking her DC with her. Did he ruin the evening? How?

claraschu · 01/02/2013 22:16

Babies don't need to sleep at certain times. Not all parents believe in the importance of routine and scheduling. If babies want to sleep, they just go to sleep where ever they are (if they have been brought up this way).

The problem isn't the baby's presence, but the mother turning him into a centre of attention. Not all babies and mothers do this.

Maybe the problem is that the mother is annoying, or maybe the problem is that you don't really like babies. It's hard to tell.

ThedementedPenguin · 01/02/2013 22:18

YABRU (really unreasonable)

ThedementedPenguin · 01/02/2013 22:18

Oh one more thing do you have kids op?

FeckOffCup · 01/02/2013 22:45

So what type of baby shower was it, I've been to 2, the first was very baby orientated, there were babies/toddlers there and it was stuff like guess the pending arrival's weight/length, tea and cakes. The second was adult orientated, there was wine for the non upduffed and games were pinning sperm on eggs etc. The first one would be fine for a toddler to be there, the second maybe not so appropriate but it wouldn't bother me as such, I don't know if the toddler's mum deliberately brought him to attention seek, maybe she just wanted to go and had no childcare?

IneedAsockamnesty · 01/02/2013 23:03

Yabu.

Baby showers ( if you like that sort of thing) and things like that are fairly acceptable things to find children at. Unless any invite says " no kids"

Lyrasilvertongued · 01/02/2013 23:41

I actually think some baby showers can be a nice opportunity for people to catch up with the mother to be before baby comes on the scene as well as celebrating the arrival of the baby. I also agree that it depends on the nature of the baby shower itself as to whether other babies are suitable/welcome. I also don't understand the attitudes that babies should come to every social event mothers are invited to. People are perfectly entitled to choose to have a party/outing without children if they choose, and mum's entitled to choose whether to attend on that basis.