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AIBU?

To think this is a mark of ownership, not a sign of love??

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BertieBotts · 01/02/2013 09:46

news.bme.com/2013/01/30/lesya-and-rouslan/

(Warning for nudity and also blood - not safe for work or children!)

So after a month of knowing this guy she gets married to him. A week later he's tattooed his name on her face. This is the same guy who "accidentally" tattooed 56 stars on a woman's face when she wanted 3 (which was apparently a language issue, but why on earth wouldn't you just draw out the design or something, I have no idea.)

I personally have no problem with tattoos and if someone wants to get their entire body tattooed then fair enough. But why start with the name? On the FACE? FIVE WEEKS.

And the picture of the tattoo in progress makes me feel a little ill. It's almost like the point of the photo was to show it in it's most horrific state, why would you want that publicised?

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HilaryClinton · 02/02/2013 13:00

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pinkyredrose · 02/02/2013 13:21

oh fuck off hilary

Booyhoo · 02/02/2013 13:30

lets see your evidence hilary

StuntGirl · 02/02/2013 13:43

It's impossible to quantify because your definition of extreme is not someone else's definition of extreme.

Any tattoo or piercing is extreme to someone who neither has nor wants one.

People with tattoos and piercings, extreme or not, may have mental illnesses like any other section of the population. They do not have modifications because they're mentally ill, and to say so is insulting and narow minded.

YorkshireDeb · 02/02/2013 13:48

Maybe there is hilary, but that doesn't mean you have to be mentally ill to get a tattoo. Maybe, if you checked out all of the mentally ill people in the world there would be more blonde than brown haired - would that mean that blonde haired people were more prone to mental illness or could it just possibly be a coincidence? X

Pandemoniaa · 02/02/2013 13:49

I think there is evidence that tattoos are more common among those with mental health problems.

Goady fuckery alert.

StuntGirl · 02/02/2013 13:50

Pandemoniaa We need an emoticon for goady fuckers...

shesariver · 02/02/2013 13:50

Hilary I think you are making that up.

Cherriesarelovely · 02/02/2013 14:14

Oh god how absolutely horrible. When you see what she looked like before it is even worse. I cannot see this in any other way than controlling and abusive. So dreadful.

Back2Two · 02/02/2013 14:20

Any tattoo or piercing is extreme to someone who neither has nor wants one.

I don't see what evidence you have for stating that.

People with tattoos and piercings, extreme or not, may have mental illnesses like any other section of the population. They do not have modifications because they're mentally ill

And, in the same way that you don't agree that I say they may have more modifications because of their mental health issues....Equally then, we can't state that people do not have modifications because of their mental health issues.

I am not talking about paranoid, psychotic illnesses or mood disorders (necessarily) I'm talking about personality issues (I won't call them disorders as it's a fairly offensive term). Extreme behaviours include drug abuse, alcohol abuse, eating disorders etc. All totally normal behaviours that can be considered extreme/dangerous/harmful/abusive in certain situations with certain individuals. I've got nothing against people choosing piercings or tattoos if that floats their boat.

I have no tattoos and have only ever had pretty standard piercings. I don't wear some of them any more.

Every individual has to be seen as an individual case of course. I'm not just looking at his mods and saying "he is mentally unstable". There is context and other evidence. He has tattooed two women with his name across their face (within days of knowing one of them). This is, I believe, fairly extreme behaviour.

LouMae · 02/02/2013 14:28

I'm actually a member of a body mod site and have talked to a lot of people more interested in extreme modifications like suspensions and tongue splitting and the vast majority are very nice, normal, interesting, peaceful people. I have a few on facebook and know people in real life too. I'm no mentally ill deviant, and neither are they. Their motivations for doing so are very varied and often very interesting.

It's hypocritical that in this country we accept people mutilating their bodies in the name having bigger boobs or a smaller nose, or injecting toxins into their face and lips, yet we decry those who appreciate a more alternative form of beauty.

LadyMargolotta · 02/02/2013 14:30

LouMae - dare I ask - what are suspensions? You're right about the plastic surgery.

Back2Two · 02/02/2013 14:32

Good point about plastic surgery loumae.
There's a thread about the human Barbie and Ken on mumsnet today. Also interesting.

blueemerald · 02/02/2013 14:43

Her facebook photos seem to suggest she works in a nursery or kindergarten... I wonder how much longer for....or she'll ever get a job in one again. She's not only gambled her love life (going out with someone with a different name will be tricky) but she's gambled her career.....

MurderOfGoths · 02/02/2013 15:02

"what are suspensions?"

Where you hang from rope attached to your piercings.

DoctorAnge · 02/02/2013 15:16

I actually want to cry for that young girl.

I don't believe for a second that her relationship has equal power play. I also think its very unlikely she looks in the mirror and feels great about what he has done to her face.

thebody · 02/02/2013 15:21

She's an adult.. A daft one in my opinion but her choice.

TheOriginalLadyFT · 02/02/2013 15:32

Revolting - the pic of them together is particularly vile, the way he's holding her and his expression

Melpomene · 02/02/2013 15:39

Aesthetically, it is an interesting effect. It reminds me of Maori face art. It would look good as a temporary effect done with facepaint/henna.

BUT it is an extremely poor choice to have a partner's name tattooed so prominently, especially after knowing each other for such a short time. Even if it was all her idea and she really wanted it, he shouldn't have agreed to it so early in their relationship. Quite apart from the issue of what happens if (when) they split up, such a prominent face tattoo is going to utterly alter people's reactions to her in public. There will be stares and whispers almost everywhere she goes for the rest of her life. Is she really prepared for that, I wonder?

LadyMargolotta · 02/02/2013 15:45

Seeing as they have been together such a short time, I suspect they both wanted to do this, and 'found' each other on the internet.

WordOfTheDay · 02/02/2013 16:53

New pic: www.spi0n.com/lesya-tattoo-visage-rouslan-toumaniantz/

ike1 · 02/02/2013 19:12

oh god....

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Pixel · 02/02/2013 20:12

Just vile and you won't persuade me otherwise. What has she got tattooed above her eyebrow? I can't make it out.

WordOfTheDay · 02/02/2013 20:23

Above her eyebrow, she has a tattoo that says "allforlove". This is a tattoo that she already had on her face before this RUSLAN venture.

NomNomDePlumPudding · 02/02/2013 20:41

have no problem with body mod/art, but this is a pretty egregious piece of livestock branding, and i think this woman will regret allowing it.

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