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To think this is a mark of ownership, not a sign of love??

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BertieBotts · 01/02/2013 09:46

news.bme.com/2013/01/30/lesya-and-rouslan/

(Warning for nudity and also blood - not safe for work or children!)

So after a month of knowing this guy she gets married to him. A week later he's tattooed his name on her face. This is the same guy who "accidentally" tattooed 56 stars on a woman's face when she wanted 3 (which was apparently a language issue, but why on earth wouldn't you just draw out the design or something, I have no idea.)

I personally have no problem with tattoos and if someone wants to get their entire body tattooed then fair enough. But why start with the name? On the FACE? FIVE WEEKS. Shock

And the picture of the tattoo in progress makes me feel a little ill. It's almost like the point of the photo was to show it in it's most horrific state, why would you want that publicised?

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HecateWhoopass · 01/02/2013 12:45

Horrible picture of them naked.

re the face tattoo. From what I can see of her body. which is, well, most of it! She doesn't appear to have any other tattoos.

I would not have thought it ethical to make someone's first tattoo - their face.

Yes. It does seem more about branding her.

I wonder if this was her free choice. REALLY her free choice.

MrsBucketxx · 01/02/2013 12:50

it reminds me of an episode of dont tell the bride where a young pretty girl was going to marry her rocker fiance,

the before pics of their relationship bore no resemblance of her now. its like they are so taken over by this man they have nothing of themselves left, what happens if the relationship doesn't work. what is she left with except a constant reminder of what was.

lovetomoan · 01/02/2013 12:56

If you read the comments on the website, you will see that most of them do not agree with the tattoo, they say a 1st tattoo on her face is something that no respectable tattoo artist would do.

I see control issues here, the second photo says it all. It's disgusting.

And she is not the first girl he has branded with his name, there is a link in one of the coments about an ex girlfriend of his with a tatto on her face.

I feel sorry for her.

shesariver · 01/02/2013 13:03

Why would you want to tattoo your face, I just dont get it?
I have one on my shoulder, my DH has my name on his arm and often remarks that I have my favourite popstar on me but refuse to get his name! Grin

lovetomoan · 01/02/2013 13:30

This is the link with the ex-girlfriend picture i47.tinypic.com/3ekw3.jpg

It's his name in Russian I think (or at least Cyrillic alphabet) tattoed on her face and head.

I also hate how they describe her skin as a 'canvas'. But it might be the regular term in tattoing. I am not familiar with the tattoo world.

NotSoNervous · 01/02/2013 13:33

Shock Bloody hell! It's not even small writing it covers half her face! She will live to regret that

TheFallenNinja · 01/02/2013 13:36

Ill bet mum and dad are so proud.

TeeBee · 01/02/2013 13:37

She looks like Darth Maul. Silly girl.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives · 01/02/2013 13:43

I like tattoos I only have one so far though.

I hate this one. Possibly because its so big and ugly and across her beautiful face Sad she looks stunning in the other pictures before she had it done. That man clearly has a very high opinion of himself to basically put his signiture on his girlfriends face like that. With a tattoo needle Hmm

plummyjam · 01/02/2013 13:46

Lovely face ruined by a fucking awful tattoo. Sad

plummyjam · 01/02/2013 13:49

Wow apparently this was what she looked like before the tatt! Such a shame.
here

Startail · 01/02/2013 14:02

That's horrible,
DH and I got engaged after six weeks, but honestly.

No man with any respect would do that to his GF!

WordOfTheDay · 01/02/2013 23:50

Very disturbing pattern of behaviour by this tattoo artist. The ex-GF looks really young, younger than the new one.

ike1 · 01/02/2013 23:58

oh god....

BattlingFanjos · 02/02/2013 00:17

I LOVE tattoos. I think when they are done well they can be beautiful and artistic. I am in the process of having a partial sleeve done and am having a back piece designed too. I also have several others. I consider myself to be very open-minded.

This made me want to cry Sad what a silly, silly girl. Why, why, WHY would you do this to yourself?! I am genuinely gutted for her future self Sad

BattlingFanjos · 02/02/2013 00:20

I am seriously shocked at how much this has upset me irrationally wish I hadn't have looked. I'm so not superficial but my god she was a beautiful girl Sad

SolidSnake · 02/02/2013 00:20

Battling Done properly, sleeves can be so beautiful Smile

and Sad at the whole article, poor poor girl

EduCated · 02/02/2013 00:38

God, when I clicked I didn't expect it to be so big. Agree the naked photo is horribly possessive, the way he's covering her body rather than the woman herself. Also agree with whoever up thread was uncomfortable about her being described as a canvas. Is that a normal tattooing phrase? It just seems to completely dehumanise her, like the fact she is a person is totally irrelevant.

Longdistance · 02/02/2013 00:43

I can't see any other tattoos on her.

I find this really disturbing.

StuntGirl · 02/02/2013 01:06

Where did you come across this particular article OP? I would probably never link BME on this forum, it's asking for open critisism of body modification culture, especially on such a contentious subject matter.

For the posters who were asking, yes, describing the body as a canvas is very common in body modification. It's not got any more sinister meaning in terms if tattooing in general.

StuntGirl · 02/02/2013 01:15

Oh, and describing those with extreme piercings and tattoos is "mentally ill" is not on.

mirai · 02/02/2013 01:29

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WhatNow2013 · 02/02/2013 01:30

I'm not against extreme body modification but I do think this is abusive.

I have just come out of an emotionally abusive relationship with a man who wanted me to have 'property of... ' and his name tattooed on me. We weren't even properly together and he was chronically untrustworthy.

I told him if he married me I'd get his initials.

I got rid of him from my life today (not because of the tattoo thing!). It is like branding, it is abuse, it is seeing a woman as property and not normal loving behaviour. It is saying 'I own you and nobody else will want you now you're labelled with my name'.

StuntGirl · 02/02/2013 01:32

Yes they are. In most cases they are not. Ascribing mental illness to someone because they have tattoos or piercings is a stupid and narrowminded thing to say.

WhatNow2013 · 02/02/2013 01:38

Agree Stuntgirl.