Well, he's a mutual friend really, but I'll call him DP's friend for ease. Let's call him Bob. Old friend, nice guy but with a history of being unreliable and late to meet up.
A few days ago DP and Bob made plans for meeting up. To put it in context, we live in a London commuter town, Bob lives and works in London, I work in London. DP was going to go to London last night for drinks, but Bob suggested that he would come to ours after work tonight, so getting in about 6.30, and he and DP would go out for dinner and drinks. DP has been looking forward to this as he's been at home with the baby for the past few days (not saying this for him to get a medal, just we all know it can be a bit lonely all day with a 1 year old).
It's now 8.30 and Bob hasn't even texted to say what train he is getting, or to apologise he is late. We are not worried he has fallen down a manhole - he'll be drinking with colleagues. He will be ignoring DP's text because he knows he's in the wrong and can't think of a suitable explanation. DP is really pissed off. If Bob had just admitted at the end of work that he was going for drinks, there would have been time for DP to head in to London and meet other friends once I got back from work. Now it's too late. So on a rare night when he could see someone (DP does shift work so it's difficult to see his friends often) he's been pissed around and let down by a supposed good friend.
DP has already sent his own text saying he feels let down. I kind of want to send one too. Yes it is petty and childish and we are all far older than this behaviour would suggest but... I feel so bad for DP. He works f/t and does the bulk of the childcare and hasn't had a chance to make friends in our new town yet, and this friend pisses him around on a rare night he could go out. Grr.
Please don't flame. I am fully aware this makes me sound like a 12 year old but 'Bob's' head in the sand approach is making me feel like a 12 year old!