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to be irritated by the workmen using my loo?

88 replies

cozietoesie · 30/01/2013 22:09

A (sort of joint) job of work, but arranged by next door neighbours, required workmen to go up into my loft on to the roof through our private bathroom. This is my special place - bath, bath cream, soaking and so on.

Anyway - the roofers came back down, muddy and dishevelled (fine - to be expected) and I was about to escort them down when the chief roofer said 'give me a minute - I want a pee'. And proceeded to close the door and use our private (and nighttime) loo.

I was so taken aback I didn't say anything. There's a loo by the front door for guests (which he had been told about) but no-one but family (and close family at that) uses the top one. I felt real irritated. He's a decent enough guy but I just don't feel happy about men that I don't really know using my toilet.

Please tell me. Am I being unreasonable or should I get some perspective? The sky isn't going to fall because someone peed in my loo - it just feels icky!

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cozietoesie · 30/01/2013 23:05

I was just off to bed - but I thought I would add. Men who you don't know well peeing in your personal space without invitation. There are times (and past times don't help) when that is both unwelcome and threatening. Don't make too much light of it.

Anyway - the sky is still up there and I've made a banana cream pudding for supper tomorrow.

Smile
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Pandemoniaa · 30/01/2013 23:06

Have we mentioned poo bugs yet?

apostropheuse · 30/01/2013 23:07

yes creamtea and definitely no pishing on the roof.

Pourquoimoi · 30/01/2013 23:08

YABU - it was a toilet in the room where all the workmen had to go through. It wasn't as if he went past the guest toilet and invaded your personal space. Sorry but I think you're being ridiculous.

apostropheuse · 30/01/2013 23:10

cozietosie You made a banana cream pudding for supper?

You're definitely not playing hard to get with your builder are you?

Creamtea1 · 30/01/2013 23:13

I think she is risking it with the cream in the banana cream, that could well cause an ibs flare up

MildredIsMyAlterEgo · 30/01/2013 23:19

OP - They're coming back tomorrow you say....you do realise that they will all use that loo tomorrow Grin

maddening · 30/01/2013 23:26

It's all wipe down cleanable surfaces.

Pop your creams and lotions away and clean it after they've gone.

It could be far worse - I've watched rogue traders so I know of these things Grin

grovel · 30/01/2013 23:27

YANBU.

gimmecakeandcandy · 30/01/2013 23:28

Yes yabu but I would feel just like you so I would be U too!

gimmecakeandcandy · 30/01/2013 23:29

Put a bit of tape over it and say its broken Smile

Creamtea1 · 30/01/2013 23:32

Ooh good idea - put tape all around it saying 'crime scene - do not cross'

kissmyheathenass · 30/01/2013 23:39

OP, I would have been pissed off too. A few years ago a man came to clear the garden. He asked to use the toilet (only one in house, upstairs). He left it dirty and skiddy. Shock AngryFilthy bastard. I made dh clean it. Scarred me for life it did.

BerthaKitt · 31/01/2013 00:01

"Anyway - the roofers came back down, muddy and dishevelled (fine - to be expected)"

What the hell have you been doing to get mud on your roof?

ComposHat · 31/01/2013 00:34

Ugh. Workman wee is the WORST

And you piss Chanel No 5 I suppose?

Arthurfowlersallotment · 31/01/2013 00:37

I keep thinking of that dreadful film The Help.

frustratedashell · 31/01/2013 00:39

this is seriously funny! Made me laugh. Thank you.
By the way I had 2 workmen in yesterday and one asked if he could use the loo and I said yes of course. I went out and came back to find someone had used the loo (only a pee) and not flushed. I did think that was a bit eww!

YellowTulips · 31/01/2013 01:56

YANBU - tell him to have a pissing contest from the roof tomorrow with his workmates.

Longest reach gets to shit in your toilet. Hmm

LesBOFerables · 31/01/2013 02:10

It's a bit weird, just because most workmen I know would feel very conscious of invading your space and hate to impose, not to mention protect themselves from accusations of theft etc.

I'm surprised he didn't avail himself of the guest loo you have pointed out, which would be usual. That said, I've seen a thread on here which complained about noticing a workman next door peeing outdoors when they thought they couldn't be overlooked. So they can't win.

andubelievedthat · 31/01/2013 03:26

so if you did not hear his pee hit the water he obviously pissed in your personal sink, not for one second am i suggesting you meet and greet outside your own toilet door ??

fuckadoodlepoopoo · 31/01/2013 07:36

By the way I had 2 workmen in yesterday and one asked if he could use the loo and I said yes of course. I went out and came back to find someone had used the loo (only a pee) and not flushed. I did think that was a bit eww!

Perhaps he was reluctant to waste water for just a wee!

atacareercrossroads · 31/01/2013 07:49

What are these potions you are so worried about? Lube for 'those dry days'? If not get over yourself. He probably couldn't give a squirt what your bathroom has in it. Good grief do people really get the clench over stuff like this?!

ZillionChocolate · 31/01/2013 07:57

YABU. For me, personal space is where I am. He was already in your bathroom, so I wouldn't expect him to go looking for the "guest loo". I would have thought it's fairly unusual to have a "private bathroom".

TheCraicDealer · 31/01/2013 09:42

I just don't feel happy about men that I don't really know using my toilet

But, why?! Maybe this comes from only having one loo which all family members, visitors, tradesmen and assorted randomers use, but it's just wee. I doubt he's getting some kick out of refolding your decorative towels or judging your choice of dried flowers. To most people it's just a toilet.

More than likely he was just desperate for a widdle after being up on your roof and didn't want to wait for you all to trudge down the stairs before being able to go.