to be irritated by the workmen using my loo?

[cozietoesie]

A (sort of joint) job of work, but arranged by next door neighbours, required workmen to go up into my loft on to the roof through our private bathroom. This is my special place - bath, bath cream, soaking and so on.

Anyway - the roofers came back down, muddy and dishevelled (fine - to be expected) and I was about to escort them down when the chief roofer said 'give me a minute - I want a pee'. And proceeded to close the door and use our private (and nighttime) loo.

I was so taken aback I didn't say anything. There's a loo by the front door for guests (which he had been told about) but no-one but family (and close family at that) uses the top one. I felt real irritated. He's a decent enough guy but I just don't feel happy about men that I don't really know using my toilet.

Please tell me. Am I being unreasonable or should I get some perspective? The sky isn't going to fall because someone peed in my loo - it just feels icky!

[cozietoesie]

Well it may have been. The point was that they were told that they could use the downstairs loo but the chiefie chose to use my private bathroom which was full of personal lotions, makeup, bath essence, flowers, towels etc etc.

It made me uncomfortable.

[piprabbit]

OP - you have made me laugh .
I would love a private, nighttime loo, to complement my public daytime loo and my private daytime loo. I would also like a cleaner to spruce them all.

[cozietoesie]

But the sky's still up there so Hey Ho! Anyone tries to break in tonight or key my car and I'll just phone my roofie! (What goes around here comes around with bells and whistles.)

[sukysue]

no it was not a piss take, it's time we all stood up for ourselves, it was an invasion of her privacy and against her wishes and instructions in her own home. Where is he to totally ignore her requests, you nor I would dare do that, the more I think about it the worse it seems.

[cozietoesie]

I'd love a cleaner as well, pip.

I'd also like to be free of the needs which make loos on each level necessary.

[Creamtea1]

It could have been much worse. He could have had a dump.
And not flushed.

[cozietoesie]

He could have. But that would have been less bad to me - I wonder why?

[ApocalypseThen]

What do you think he did with your personal lotions? Notice them? Ignore them? Breathe on them? Inhale the magic out of them? Use them? Is he looking younger?

[apostropheuse]

Oh cozietoesie perhaps you smell so divine that he wanted to check out your private, personal bathroom so that he can go out and buy the same smellies as you have

As you read this post he is probably languishing in a beautiful en-suite bathroom with candles and flowers and YOUR smell is wafting out into his beautiful master bedroom with petals strewn across the bed...

as he waits your arrival with anticipation.

Probably.

[Creamtea1]

Can't believe a dump would have been less offensive cosie! I would find that the ultimate insult - you can always hold a poo in but when you need a wee, you need a wee. I'm concerned over use of the lotions now too..

[cozietoesie]

Well I couldn't say, Apocalypse. He was pretty muddy to start off with and pretty muddy to end up with.

Not a good advertisement for any if he used then I fear.

[cozietoesie]

I shall take note of your worries and squirrel all the lotions away when they come back tomorrow.

Oh - did I mention that?

[apostropheuse]

You can't always hold a poo in if you've got IBS though creamtea

[apostropheuse]

cosietoes Are you going to tell him you were discussing his bodily functions on t'internet?

[Pandemoniaa]

which was full of personal lotions, makeup, bath essence, flowers, towels etc etc.

OMG. They must feel utterly violated. I'd throw the whole lot out now they've shared the same air as a tradesperson.

YABU. But then I think you may already suspect this.

[cozietoesie]

You've all cheered me up so much and given me perspective. I'm not good with such things.

Many thanks everyone. I'll be relaxed tomorrow.

[FreePeaceSweet]

apostropheuse I did wonder if that gentle bit of comedy would be well received. :o

Sukysue Sheesh... it was a fella answering the call of nature not a masked intruder hiding with his cock out ready to flash.

[apostropheuse]

Great cozietoes

[CoolaSchmoola]

Sorry but I can't help giggling at Sukysue's utter OUTRAGE at workmen.

Here's a thought Suky if you hate workment that much - go to B&Q, buy a copy of their twee-ly named book "You Can Do It", and do everything yourself.

Then those "bastarding arrogant workmen" hope I got the names in the right order won't have to enter and therefore violate your very personal space.

Whilst there they sell grips in aisle five....

[CoolaSchmoola]

*workmen

[TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub]

Timidviper, you've never seen a thread on MN about unreasonable loo use? My dear, you haven't lived.

[ArielThePiraticalMermaid]

which was full of personal lotions, makeup, bath essence, flowers, towels etc etc

Did he use them?

[TheDoctrineOfSciAndNatureClub]

Here you go, timidviper. You may lose an hour of your life and control of your pelvic floor, I warn you..
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1321219-AIBU-to-not-want-a-workman-to-poo-in-my-toilet

[Creamtea1]

cozie I think tomorrow you should elaborate more on rules re toilet usage to him - and his team - differentiate between wee's, poo's, ibs induced poo's (ensure he had adjusted his diet to try and prevent these at all costs), lotion usage etc. I would also refuse all cups of tea until the rules are agreed; everyone knows a morning cuppa often gets things moving too - and you don't want that.

[sukysue]

I wouldn't put it past him.