to be judgy pants about people that have tattoos and keep getting more, especially women??

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I hate tattoos. Whilst I appreciate everyone has a right to their own taste and choices I still cannot get over the fact that people have them in places where they are visible.

A colleague of mine has just returned to work after M leave with a horrific tattoo from her wrist to her elbow. How can she go out and meet clients looking like that?? It can be seen through tops and obviously below short sleeved tops.

What I really don't like is seeing lovely brides on their wedding days, strapless dresses and tattoos on their upper arms and backs..... urgh!!!!!!

Anyone else with me??

Has anyone seen the pictures of Peaches Geldof on the beach in The Mail today? I suppose they illustrate why I hate tattoos so much. She has a naturaly attactive body ( like us all, in our 20's) lovely skin. What on earth made her think that ink daisy patterns all over her front and leg would make her look better - how can crass ink patterns enhance the beauty of a natural body? Fast forward a bit and she is 50 I'm even more sure they won't improve her looks. Of course she has the choice, but it seems so sad to mark forever the beauty nature has given us.

I saw those pictures Higgle and agree with you. As someone said earlier, it looks like toddler doodles done at random when she was a bit bored! Interesting that her dp doesn't have any at all!

Re peaches geldof - attractive woman but her skin reminds me of a teenagers school exercise book. The human body is both fascinating and/or beautiful hence the reason I fail to understand why folk feel that "dermatological graffiti" enhances it.

I think Peaches Geldof's tattoo is beautiful, as is she.

I have tattoos, all have sentimental meanings and all in places that cant be seen unless I wear certain clothes. I plan on getting more one day. Yet my OH hasn't got any and he really likes mine.

Its all about personal taste, nothing more nothing less.

I think peaches tattoos look gorgeous.

I doubt she will give a shit what people think when she is elderly.

As my dh says he will care more about whether he can go for a pee himself or move out of a chair than what his tattoos look like. :)

I hate this misconception that people who have tattoos do them to fit in with a trend. Most of us don't. Tattoos and ear stretching (dh has both) have been done since the dawn of time.

Most people get tattoos for personal reasons for example I have a winding trail of daisies all around my lower leg and ankle . It's very big. I chose daisies because I used to make daisy chains with my grandad as a small child while my mum was in mental hospital and it was the peace I had. He died of cancer when I was 6 and I got it to remember that time, him, and that there is always a way to inner peace.

Sure some people look at it and think it's a weed. (I've had good and bad comments). Do I care? No.

I'm also an ex senior marketing manager, I like to think fairly intelligent, I hope so anyway!

My dh has a pocket watch on his heart with the time we got married on. Which I think is lovely, and nicer than names (but that is purely my opinion).

I don't have a problem with people not liking tattoos. Each to their own. But to assume anything of the person because of them is nothing short of ignorance.

I've often wondered this, but do tattoos on the stomach go back ok again after pregnancy or can they become stretched out of shape?

I have a couple of small tattoos. Each one represents a certain time/place in my life that I look upon with fondness.

They were all drawn freehand and personal to me - one was drawn by a friend (not a tattoo artist) who was coming to the end of his life (Cancer). He called his illness "That dragon on his back" - he drew me a dragon with his initials incorporated into its spine. This was a framed picture he expected me to hang on my wall. Instead I asked a tattoo artist to copy it onto my back - and I was able to show my friend what I had done before he died.

I'm glad I was able to share that with him, and superstitiously I figure that if I've already got a "dragon on my back", maybe I won't suffer the same fate...My friend believed the same.

So frankly, if someone wanted to judge me harshly for my tattoos I wouldn't give a damn. I'm sucessful, professional and tbh probably a darn sight nicer (well less judgemental at least) than them

Fairylea, that pocket watch tattoo sounds beautiful.

I don't see why people would get all judgy about tattoos. Seems a very odd thing to make a snap judgement about, and makes you seem shallow and narrow minded.

I don't have any tattoos, purely because I'm not confident enough to show off the flabby bits of my body where I would want them to anyone, not even a tattoo artist.

Peaches, looked amazing. Nothing wrong with her tattoos at all.

You never see threads by a tattooed MNer saying "I am so judgemental of people with no tattoos, how boring" So why exactly do we need one of these threads every month?

To reiterate again, consciously or subconsciously everyone judges. We judge our fellow men by consciously or subconsciously making assessments about others based on how they speak/articulate themselves, to where they shop (Gregg's/maccy D's anyone?), to how they dress, to their vocation, to the type of property they own/maintain, to how they conduct themselves socially, to the type of vehicle they own, to how they raise their offspring....

So by the the same token, why would body modification be exempt from judgement?

None of us is inherently angelic... worth remembering that sometimes.

Indeed, Moistenedbint.

The OP was expressing her dislike of tattoos - she wasn't being 'vitriolic'.

Comparable with, 'I can't stand the smell of cheese and onion crisps, especially quavers. How can anyone choose to put them in a delicious packed lunch of sandwiches made with freshly - baked bread and delicious homemade fillings? Doesn't it spoil the delicious meal? Why do they think they need it?'

The judgement the OP was making was that tattoos look unprofessional and that they make brides look ugly on their wedding day. Those are actually quite nasty things to say.

The OP saying, "How can she go out and meet clients looking like that??" sounds like she is commenting on her ability to do her job professionally.

All very well not liking something and not wanting it yourself, but to suggest that it will impair someone's work?

Ahh but chocoluvva you haven't said "especially women who eat cheese and onion crisps"

and the classic

"brides who eat cheese and onion crisps... urgh"

"How can she go out and meet clients smelling of cheese and onion"

I think she's being complimentary about beautiful women who have gone to a lot of effort to be elegant/feminine/pretty - a look which she thinks is spoilt by the appearance of a tattoo.

I believe it's called a "backhanded compliment" especially when follwed with the word "...urgh"

:o at "How can she go out and meet clients smelling of cheese and onion" - hadn't thought of that! That adds to my point.

Please let's not get hung up on cheese and onion crisps.

I agree thqt "urgh" wasn't the wisest choice of language.

But she's entitled to dislike tattoos.

She absolutely is, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I think it would be a lie to say no-one is ever judgemental because I think we all can be.

However common social etiquette is to keep such judgements to yourself, bite your tongue if you like. Especially if it is something that is neither harming nor affecting you. Very much a case that if you don't like it, don't look at it.

As my granny was over-fond of saying: "If you can't say anything nice, say nothing"

I am, however going to substitute "cheese and onion crisps" for things I don't like from now on because it makes me giggle!

Have slightly skimmed but, to my surprise, in my view YANBU.

I work in a conservative professional context. If someone chose to have visible tattoos, I would judge their commitment to the workplace and our clients. I would judge that they valued individuality higher than their career. I would wonder whether they liked to flout conventions. I might consider that they had not really given the decision the thought that such a permanent decision required.

In a social context, you can do whatever you like. A workplace has its own conventions and if you choose not to follow those conventions, then judgements will be made. In many businesses, image counts for a great deal. That may not be morally right, but it is financially accurate.

NC78 probably because some people get tattoos for themselves, not for other people. I had an ex who had several text tattoos. They were quotes, lines from films/books/songs, some were from his own writing. Most weren't visible in general, bar one or two one his arms. Obviously I got to see all of them, but I don't know what any of them meant. He would never explain their significance or meaning. They were just for him. Most people didn't even know about his tattoos because they were always covered.

My colleague at work has an abstract pattern tattooed on her lower back. She designed it herself, I have no idea what it's significance is because she got the tattoo for her. If someone sees it and asks she simply says "It has personal meaning for me".

Elegant feminine pretty welcome to 1950

I definitely value individuality over career but know a lot of successful people who do