To be upset at being called a selfish cunt at a concert?

[TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon]

Just got back from a concert in town and although it was fantastic it was spoiled for us a bit. I'm sure IANBU, but perhaps need some perspective.

Friend and I had seats at the end of a row, in the back corner of the arena so looking diagonally towards the stage, next to us was a woman perhaps in her late 70s/early 80s which was a bit surprising, we'd expected more to be with our own age group but other than being mildly surprised we didn't give it a second thought.

Half way through the concert, friend and I are happily stood up dancing and cheering like the majority of people there and a woman leans over from a few seats above & behind us and yells "you do know you two are the only ones stood up in this section don't you, why don't you sit down so other people can see" in a very aggressive tone. We said we're sorry but this is a music concert, strange as it is that this particular section seems to be filled with boring old farts people not wanting to dance actually 95% of the arena are on their feet. She yelled again that this poor woman next to us couldn't see and we ended up having a row where we explained our reasons for standing and she called us various names and eventually left. We felt a bit uneasy then but not sure what to do, our enjoyment would be spoiled by having to stop dancing/waving/cheering but of course not wanting the lady next to us to have her night spoiled either. We offered her our aisle seat to sit in so she would be in front of us and our standing wouldn't get in her way but she turned it down so we tried to get over the row and enjoy ourselves.

Ten minutes later the other woman comes back, on her way to the toilet passed behind us and yelled "I hope you're having a good time you selfish pair of cunts!" before stomping off. We were and tbh a bit upset. Didn't retaliate, so hopefully retained the mythical moral high ground but still it took away from an otherwise good night.

What would you have done? We paid the same as everyone else, we went there looking forward to dancing and jumping about as is usual at concerts, almost everyone else was, if the older lady couldn't stand then there were disabled seats available but she had booked a standard seat. We did offer her ours but she turned it down and from what we could see everyone else could have stood up if they chose. We weren't allowed to move and stand anywhere else. AIBU?

[PickledInAPearTree]

The lady who called you a cunt, was she the lady you offered to swap with?

Don't worry - life's a rollercoaster, sometimes you just gotta ride it.

[EndoplasmicReticulum]

Ah, well if it was Ronan Keating Y may have BU.

I'd expect to find more "sitters" there. And old people. When you said you went to a concert I was imagining something with a bit more of a moshpit.

[MrsDoomsPatterson]

In that case, I'd have been more than happy for you to stand in front of me. Block away.

[PickledInAPearTree]

I would like to meet the type of 80 year old that goes to see ronan and says cunt.

Perhaps it was ronans nan?

[IceNoSlice]

Wallinson

OP, in light of the fact there were no standing tickets, and that you offered to swap, and the expectation you (reasonably) had when you bought the tickets, then YANBU.

I know what you mean about having your night spoiled by someone's aggression. We went to a big concert once at Wembley, had standing tickets and queued up to get as close to the front as possible. We had to sit on the dirty floor for hours waiting for the start. We got chatting to the people around us and it was good fun. Then, during the concert, a group barged through and stopped in front of us. Really obviously. People asked then to move and it got a bit heated- I hadn't said anything but one nasty, drunk woman said to me, really aggressively, 'what are you looking at, you c**t?'

I was really shaken by it. Horrible. Our new temporary concert friends saw them off after that though.

[JenaiMorris]

Who knew that Ronan attracted such foul mouthed, aggressive elderly fans ?

[diddl]

Had no idea that RK had done anything that you could dance to!

[countrykitten]

You went to see Ronan Keating who will obviously attract older folk to his gigs - he is a bit like a younger Cliff isn't he? So yes I think you were unreasonable due to the type of gig you went to - you should have expected this and been nice to them.

Rude to call you selfish cunts though - a Ronan loving OAP with attitude.

[Yddraigoldragon]

I cannot stand for long periods of time, and have had several gigs ruined because people in front of me stood up. There is generally nothing I can do, just hae to sit it out and rue the huge amount of money I have just wasted.

I always get a seat in the tiered sections, feeling that the main floor is the dancing bit - and hope that people around me feel the same way.

Where there are standing areas, then go there if you want to stand - please?

[Branleuse]

am i missing something that RK has done that would make people stand up and dance????

I like concerts. I have been to seated ones where ive stood because everyone else was. Seated ones where ive sat because everyone else was and just danced in my seat and sang along, and ones that ive gone for standing.
Ive also not bought tickets for some that i wanted to see as i knew id want to get up and dance and there were only seated tickets left, therefore i knew it would be annoying and frustrating and would rather play the CD at home

I think its much more sociable to take the people around you into consideration

[PickledInAPearTree]

I would probably just laugh if an 80 year old lady dropped the c bomb on me!

[MajesticWhine]

YABU. Unfortunately, the decent thing to do is to take your lead from those around you rather than spoil their enjoyment. at being called cunts though.... at a Ronan Keating concert of all things - emotions must have been running high.

[SwedishEdith]

Ronan ha ha I would have thought 80 year olds would be precisely his target audience.

You were still thoughtless- I hate being forced to stand because others have stood up and blocked the view.

[PickledInAPearTree]

His leather trousers can bring out the animal in folk.

[pictish]

In that case OP, you are NOT being unreasonable about this issue.

Yabu however, to go and see Ronan Keating!

I'm not surprised it was full of crumblies!

[Bobyan]

Serves you right for having such bad taste in music

[MissyMooandherBeaverofSteel]

I would think having my view blocked at a RK concert would improve it as would ear plugs

[EarlyInTheMorning]

YABU. If you go to a concern to dance then you need to get standing seats.

[Bobyan]

Maybe she was upset about the good catholic Ronan shagging his dancers...

[QuietNinjaTardis]

Sorry only just came back! You made me laugh mrsdooms, not new at all but thought it 'twas a bit harsh to call op a cunt etc etc. maybe I'm getting soft in my old age.

[JenaiMorris]

Hahahaha pickled

[TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon]

Pickled

There were no standing seats :( I have given the arena feedback about this.

Thanks for your responses though.

[Pandemoniaa]

Well for starters, you can fuck off with the ageist comments. Since when did you become the arbiter of whether a concert is suitable for anyone older than you?

I also think YWBU if you had tickets in the seated area and then, without any consideration at all, ruined the view for someone who had presumably chosen tickets in that area because they didn't want (or perhaps couldn't) stand all evening. It wasn't pleasant to be called a selfish cunt but I rather suspect that your behaviour suggested you fitted that description.

[diddl]

Why would you expect standing seats & dancing at a RK concert??

[ginhag]

HOW do you dance to Ronan Keating???

or bear to listen to him for that matter