To be upset at being called a selfish cunt at a concert?

[TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon]

Just got back from a concert in town and although it was fantastic it was spoiled for us a bit. I'm sure IANBU, but perhaps need some perspective.

Friend and I had seats at the end of a row, in the back corner of the arena so looking diagonally towards the stage, next to us was a woman perhaps in her late 70s/early 80s which was a bit surprising, we'd expected more to be with our own age group but other than being mildly surprised we didn't give it a second thought.

Half way through the concert, friend and I are happily stood up dancing and cheering like the majority of people there and a woman leans over from a few seats above & behind us and yells "you do know you two are the only ones stood up in this section don't you, why don't you sit down so other people can see" in a very aggressive tone. We said we're sorry but this is a music concert, strange as it is that this particular section seems to be filled with boring old farts people not wanting to dance actually 95% of the arena are on their feet. She yelled again that this poor woman next to us couldn't see and we ended up having a row where we explained our reasons for standing and she called us various names and eventually left. We felt a bit uneasy then but not sure what to do, our enjoyment would be spoiled by having to stop dancing/waving/cheering but of course not wanting the lady next to us to have her night spoiled either. We offered her our aisle seat to sit in so she would be in front of us and our standing wouldn't get in her way but she turned it down so we tried to get over the row and enjoy ourselves.

Ten minutes later the other woman comes back, on her way to the toilet passed behind us and yelled "I hope you're having a good time you selfish pair of cunts!" before stomping off. We were and tbh a bit upset. Didn't retaliate, so hopefully retained the mythical moral high ground but still it took away from an otherwise good night.

What would you have done? We paid the same as everyone else, we went there looking forward to dancing and jumping about as is usual at concerts, almost everyone else was, if the older lady couldn't stand then there were disabled seats available but she had booked a standard seat. We did offer her ours but she turned it down and from what we could see everyone else could have stood up if they chose. We weren't allowed to move and stand anywhere else. AIBU?

[MrsDoomsPatterson]

Op doesn't like what she's hearing.

I used to go to lots of Paul Weller gigs standing up, now I pay for a seat and I want to sit there and be entertained. I'd be none too pleased if some dingbats started blocking my view & would tell them so. Plastic beaker of wine, seat, nice music, thank you very much.

[Wallison]

So you don't want to take up the offer of designated seating (choice of three areas) but instead take your chances with everyone else, but then complain when that chance includes people around you doing things that are not convenient for you?

[threesocksmorgan]

did the op ever come back?

[Veritate]

You must have noticed that you were the only people in your area dancing, so you were being pretty exhibitionist, weren't you? If you can see that you are blocking the view of people behind you then you really shouldn't carry on.

[BeanJuice]

Wallison why? how about those who want to stand and dance in an area where everyone else is sitting stay at home and dance in the living room?

[eslteacher]

YWBU. They were old, regardless of what was 'normal' behaviour at concerts it would have been polite to allow them to enjoy the concert, which presumably would have been difficult for them standing up.

They were unnecessarily rude in return, which was U too.

[duffybeatmetoit]

YABU because that's what you were.

[QuietNinjaTardis]

I'm a bit gob smacked at all the people who feel its ok to insult the op. really? Surely yabu covers it if that is your opinion? Fwiw I have no idea if op is being unreasonable or not. I've only been to 2 concerts ever and stood and danced a both but then everyone was up and dancing as well. If everyone was sitting down then I'd probably have restrained myself.

[MrsDoomsPatterson]

Quietninja, are you new to AIBU? This is how it rolls.

[mellen]

I think it is really rude to stand up in front of other people in the seated area. The problem is usually that you get a domino type effect and people end up standing to see when they would much rather be seated.

You spoilt the enjoyment of people who were using the seated area to sit down in, can you not see why they were annoyed?

[discorabbit]

no aibu was never intended to allow people to insult the op at every given opportunity.

just so happens to attract people to become vile and absuve ime

[JenaiMorris]

The op was happy to swap seats. The woman complaining was vile.

YANBU.

Oh and sometimes there are no standing tickets - for some reason venues in their wisdom seem to like seats these days.

[MrsDoomsPatterson]

Vile & abusive not on at all.

Just saying YABU; Unrealistic.

[Robinredboobs]

Had exactly the same experience at a rock concert. A group of four sitting further back decided to come and stand at the railings of the gallery. They blocked at least 3 rows of people from seeing anything and got shitty when someone asked them to move. It wasnt until the three affected rows ganged up and politely told them to sit the fuck down that they moved. Really selfish. Think about it OP.

[Wallison]

Sounds extremely rock'n'roll behaviour, robinred.

\m/

[choccyp1g]

You should only stand up if everyone BEHIND you is standing up. Otherwise you are blocking their view.

[EmpressOfThePuddle]

[Sneezingwakesthebaby]

YABU. Nothing more annoying than when you buy seating tickets so you can, you know, sit during the concert and some twat in front decides to dance the whole way through so you have to stand too. Almost on par with those shitty light up bunny ears they sometimes sell which on top of a tall lass with heels, makes it impossible for the people behind to see anything. Get standing next time if you want to stand!

[Wallison]

People try to say we're square
(Talkin bout my generation)
Just because we like our chairs
(Talkin bout my generation)
They dance and stand as though it's a riot
(Talkin bout my generation)
But rock and roll's about sitting quiet
(Talkin bout my generation)

[cocoachannel]

PrincessofChina, it is one thing not being able to see much from way back and another thing having a close up of a wiggling arse.

[andtheycalleditbunnylove]

if everyone else in your area was sitting, you were doing the wrong thing. you were selfish and anti-social. you deserved whatever you got. and now you want mners to support you. well, some might.

[EmpressOfThePuddle]

I'd stand if I had to. Though I'm going with MIL and I doubt she could stand for that length of time.
But that's not going to help if I'm behind some tall twat. At that point I think poking. becomes justified.

[PickledInAPearTree]

I took my mum to see andy Williams once. God that was brutal you daren't even BREATHE let alone dance!

[TheDarkSideOfTheSpoon]

Haven't read whole thread yet but I see I need to update.

It was ronan Keating, so middle of the road pop music, no 'standing' tickets available but if there had been we would have bought them. The thing is the only person we were potentially blocking was the lady we offered to swap seats with, and even so given the layout of the arena we weren't totally stopping her from seeing.

It was just odd how we seemed to be unlucky enough to be in the one small pocket of people not wanting to stand, the rest of the arena was all on its feet.

We've been to almost every ronan tour and its usually a crowd of 20/30 something's all bopping away, this was just an unexpected situation.

Thanks for your opinions, I really thought that by offering her the option of switching so we were all happy that would have been ok. It looks like most of you disagree, I hope we didnt spoil her night, though if it makes any difference being shouted at in that way pretty much ruined my night.