WIBU to ask table of men to watch their language?

[MummyDuckAndDuckling]

So out for a coffee with my mum, gran and 16 month old dd this afternoon. We sat down in front of a table of 4 men who's vocabulary seemed to only consist of the words fuck, shit and cunt. So after a few minutes, I turned round and asked if they would mind watching their language please. One man was very apologetic and proceeded to lower his voice when he next needed to say fuck, shit or cunt.

I guess I'm just wondering if you would do the same in this situation or was IBU to say anything?

Depends where you were really.

Personally, I'd walk out and go to a more respectable joint.

YANBU I've politely asked the same thing when I've had young children with me.

Men, women and teenagers have always apologised.

Sometimes people just don't think...but that doesn't mean they're not decent people.

No where fancy! Just in the cafe of sainsburys after doing the weekly shop

YANBU, I've done it. If it's anywhere that children can reasonably be expected to be (like a supermarket cafe) then a gutter gob is totally unnecessary and unacceptable. I can swear like a trooper - but not around children. There's just no need.

You were being perfectly reasonable. I can't stand swearing in public like this - no need for it at all.

I too think you were being perfectly reasonable.

And I'd certainly go along with the 'If it's anywhere that children can reasonably be expected to' sentiment.

But then I would probably take it a bit further and ask MNetters to not swear in their thread titles as children (not just the toddlers who need full on attention) can reasonably be expected to be in the same place as their parents and will always look over their shoulder to see what they are doing.

I don't mean within a thread, just the title.

I am sure I am now going to learn why I ABU.

YANBU. I do this. Loud swearing is just another way of imposing yourself on people in public places

I'd have told them to watch their fucking language

I've done this with a group of slightly drunk lads on a train. They were very apologetic and seemingly slightly embarrassed

YANBU.

YWNBU!

DS (2) is like a parrot! I am now coming out with swear words like "oh fu..rbies at the gates of doom" (this morning after standing on a knight complete with sword) and similar.

I also caused my boss to look like when, thinking the office was empty, let rip with a stream of profanity after a tiny mistake - just because there were no little ears

It's appropriate behaviour in appropriate places!

Yanbu

good for you!

YANBU, especially as you were in a supermarket cafe.

You were not being unreasonable, but quite brave -- it could so easily have gone very wrong!

YANBU - I've heard all the swear words and the words themselves don't upset me but the aggression behind them does.

I know, I know! I have issues but I still get an uncomfortable feeling when I hear someone swearing. Similar to a flight or fight response.

YANBU.

Recently a group of adults came to sit at the next table at breakfast in a hotel restaurant. They started excitedly exchanging gory details of every child murder living history in front of my DC

They were a bit snarky when I politely asked them to stop. But I don't think I was being precious, not wanting my 5 year olds watching a demonstration with a butter knife of how a little girl was stabbed.

ST, some people just have no awareness of others at all and you were right to ask them to stop. We should stand up to it more in public as several posters have done and then maybe the rude and ignorant slice of society might start to realise that their behaviour is unacceptable. It's often the way though that the people who spew forth like this are also aggressive morons so it can be very intimidating.

I am one to swear in certain situations, but I think when there are children present, regardless of what age, language should be appropriate!

I let the first few words go but then couldn't help but say something.

To the poster who said about no swearing in thread titles, last time I was on a thread and someone had put f**k, she was asked why she blanked out the word as we are all adults. Can't win

YANBU - in fact I totally applaud you for doing it! I cannot stand bad language - I don't understand it's purpose or what it achieves, and I think it reflects so poorly on a person.

(Ready to get flamed for the above!!)

I don't know if I would be brave enough to ask others to refrain though - most people tend to find it totally Acceptable?!?!

I've done it in our local spoons at 1pm when in for lunch with dh and ds. Table of middle aged men who seem to sit supping pints all day, generally not causing any problems but one of them seemed incapable of speaking more than 2 words without a fuck or cunt slipping in .

He apologised and stopped, no problem.

Also asked a group of lads to tone it down in burger king one Sunday afternoon. They were talking in great detail about the previous night's conquests, stuff ds didn't need to hear.

Not sure what spoons is but Burger King is not the most salubrious establishment I wouldn't have thought and so you might get a few more loud and sweary types in there?

Oh I see, because it's a burger joint it's somehow to be expected that people aren't going to be able to form a sentence without using cunt, shit and fuck every second word?

I despair.

Regardless of where we are, unless I decided to take ds to a bare knuckle boxing match or to the footy (in fact even the fil has taken ds to matches and told people to watch their language in the family stand) or into the bar of a dodgy boozer, people are generally decent enough not to run their mouths off in establishments frequented by the younger generation. And if they forget they are, in my experience, quite open to a gentle reminder. That includes burger king and, shock horror, Wetherspoons.

Regardless of where you are, swearing is not acceptable, esp when children are present

I agree with your point, MrsKeithRichards, but seem to remember you swearing at another mother in front of her and your children after a disagreement at a swimming pool.

By that, I mean, I remember reading about it on an AIBU thread, not witnessing it.

Am I remembering wrongly?