WIBU to ask table of men to watch their language?

[MummyDuckAndDuckling]

So out for a coffee with my mum, gran and 16 month old dd this afternoon. We sat down in front of a table of 4 men who's vocabulary seemed to only consist of the words fuck, shit and cunt. So after a few minutes, I turned round and asked if they would mind watching their language please. One man was very apologetic and proceeded to lower his voice when he next needed to say fuck, shit or cunt.

I guess I'm just wondering if you would do the same in this situation or was IBU to say anything?

The beauty is in the detail, good try though! The daughter in question was about the same age as me.

My child was there, yes.

Why don't you do a search for the thread?

Because I suspect that using fuck and swimming as keywords will give more search results that I can be bothered to wade through.

If you say there weren't any children there, then I believe you. As I said, I do agree with your point.

Fuck was never used.

Try "" and you might get on better.

I was taking my 3 little ones away on the train for the weekend. There was a drunken Geordie who was slapping his friends about while we were waiting to get on it and you can imagine my joy when he got on the same carriage as us. Luckily his friend had stripped off to a different one.

Anyway he was on his mobile phone and without exaggeration every second word that came out of his mouth was cunt or fuck. Now I admit I am a potty mouth but after ten minutes of this I'd had enough and he was so loud everyone could hear him. I went over to him and just asked him nicely but firmly to quit the obscenities as no one really wanted to hear it. He was rather young and I was surprised by his attitude as he immediately turned into an embarrassed teenager apologised and just sat in silence for the rest of the journey.

I've done it before....we were at the O2 and having an early dinner about 6.30pm with the kids and on the next table was a couple of young city traders with a collection of pretty girls.

They were using the f-word and c-word a lot as well as talking graphically about sex. I asked them to pipe down, they were embarassed and the girls mortified and all very apologetic. Sometimes people just forget were they are and need reminding

You were quite in order.

I too am always amazed at how difficult it is to simply walk along a town centre in broad daylight without having to listen to an array of loud swearing.
Only yesterday I was confronted with many men shouting about the f this, b that, c** this and so on and this was as I was walking through town shopping.

I agree with the OP and other posters wholeheartedly and I am glad that there are like minded people in the world.

I think loud swearing should always be challenged when there are children present.

Even without children present, loud swearing is bad manners.

OP YANBU and well done.

Perfectly reasonable - if you were in a bar then I'd have said to maybe mind your own or move but in a cafe???

YANBU given that it was a supermarket cafe.

But I do get a bit at parents who take their kids to pubs and then try and police other people's conversations.

Reasonable but could have gone very wrong, I would have just moved.

It was busy though, there wasn't many other places I could've sat with space for highchair