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AIBU?

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Original poster

to think my friend should have changed her childs nappy?

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JaambaJuice · 25/01/2013 22:49

Me and a friend went shopping today and decided to get the bus. Finished shopping and started queuing to get he return bus home, when her DS(2) poos in his nappy just as the bus gets there.

She says he'll be fine and we get on the bus. The journey can take anywhere between 30 - 50 minutes. This one took us around 40ish minutes.

We were only about a 5 minute walk from public toilets and the bus runs every 15 minutes anyway.

It couldn't have been comfortable for her son.

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ToomuchWaternotWine · 25/01/2013 23:44

Yes I think she should have changed him. She probably thinks so too now, and hopefully if a similar situation arises, she will. Live and learn. Poor wee chap.

Casmama · 25/01/2013 23:45

Sometimes I would say silly things like that as I wouldn't want to inconvenience a friend and then feel awful about it because I would then realise that my ds was in discomfort as a result.

I wouldn't change him on a bus though so maybe she said it with out thinking and then regretted it once on the bus but didn't feel she could change him then.

Original poster

JaambaJuice · 25/01/2013 23:46

I've never changed my baby on a bus.

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Booyhoo · 25/01/2013 23:47

so you know how it is with different children being er, different and different circumstances warranting different responses then?

the woman made a snap decision. maybe it was right for her child maybe it wasn't. I hate to think people are holding onto snippets of behaviours from my past in the back of their minds. if she's an overall good parent then really i would let this go. i mean, we aren't perfect. none of us.

BarredfromhavingStella · 25/01/2013 23:47

Ffs are you maybe a little bit short of intelligence???

I said put a different spin on it do you know what that means???? No? Ok let me explain, it means look at it from another perspective, if you are walking alon with your child in a pram & notice he/she has pooed would you wake it or would you leave it until said child woke? It's the same as saying is it ok to leave a child in a shitty nappy for half an hour-45 mins, it's not ideal but it is acceptable.

Now do you get it OP?

AgentZigzag · 25/01/2013 23:48

'The speed in which some drivers go and Milton Keynes being full of roundabouts no no no '

True

Thinking on one of the routes we've got round here which is so rough it bumps you off your seat for about 20 mins, you might have a point.

Having read the threads on the subject I would feel bad about doing it if there were people really nearby, but so long as the bus wasn't packed, I'd probably just do it as quickly as possible and either ignore the tuts/glares, or tut/glare back - depending on how up for it I was on the day

pigletmania · 25/01/2013 23:51

Agent . They are awful it's like riding a roller coaster and with a wriggly ds no. It's one of those things, it's not ideal but it's acceptable forthe one off

Casmama · 25/01/2013 23:51

Barred there is no need for your rudeness- you seem the most angry person on this thread.

Original poster

JaambaJuice · 25/01/2013 23:52

Barred why so angry?

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usualsuspect · 25/01/2013 23:53

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Greensleeves · 25/01/2013 23:53

Did you say anything to your friend at the time OP?

usualsuspect · 25/01/2013 23:54

I hate all this competitive parenting bollocks.

So you would have done things differently, good for you.

AgentZigzag · 25/01/2013 23:54

I'm far more angry than the OP Cas, I'm just good at keeping it in

AgentZigzag · 25/01/2013 23:55

Actually, I take that back.

Just read Barreds post

ceeveebee · 25/01/2013 23:58

I would have changes before getting on the bus.

Have never changed a nappy on a bus but have on a train once on way back from holiday, was a total poonami and DS refused to lie down, and ended up throwing DSs clothes away and wrapping him in a blanket or else would have missed our stop. That was fun.

usualsuspect · 26/01/2013 00:03

oops, that was a swift deletion.

Booyhoo · 26/01/2013 00:05

they're on the ball tonight usual!

Londonista · 26/01/2013 00:05

Usual, I'm with you. Hard enough dealing with in laws without judgmental friends starting a thread on Mumsnet about you. Must be nice to be a perfect mum OP.

AgentZigzag · 26/01/2013 00:05

Oh FFS, AIBU to be annoyed I can't remember what you said Usual?

Greensleeves · 26/01/2013 00:06

anyone smell peace and love?

usualsuspect · 26/01/2013 00:07

I'm not repeating it.

AgentZigzag · 26/01/2013 00:08

Don't be silly London, OP's not said she's a perfect parent, she's just asking whether what she thought would be what other people thought too.

Getting stuff in perspective is what MNs all about isn't it?

usualsuspect · 26/01/2013 00:08

Well, we all get it wrong sometimes. Not a big deal is it?

Londonista · 26/01/2013 00:10

My MIL told me today that my sons shoes are too small, and that I needed to put some mascara on. She may be a rude old witch, but at least she's not going blind.

AgentZigzag · 26/01/2013 00:10

Bit spooky to have the Eye Of MN upon you Usual, what you been up to?

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