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AIBU to be upset/hurt about this?

50 replies

jester68 · 24/01/2013 21:46

Hi all.

Will try to keep short but will most probably end up rambling on!

On the way back from doing school run this morning I bumped into a "friend"?

She said she had to go somewhere and could I pick up her children after school. Said it would only be for an hour or 2 (5pm at latest) and either she would pick them up or her ex would.

She seemed desperate so I said fine. Asked if any problems etc could she let me know. She has my mobile number/house number or could just send a message on face book if needs be.

Anyway I picked all the children up. 4.30 came and kids were all hungry. So I made up ham/cheese sandwiches for them all, grapes,cake. They all tucked in well.

5 came and went with no-one arriving. Their dad finally collected them at 6.25. This was after no communication about being late etc.

So off they went with their dad. Must admit I was annoyed that the arrangement we made was not stuck to and no-one even thought to let me know what was happening.

Carried on doing my usual evening routine of bathing the kids, supper, story and bed.

NOW have just gone onto face book and received a message from my so called friend. Says- "I am disgusted that you did not even bother to give the kids a proper cooked tea. After a hard day I now have had to come back and cook for them. Would have thought it would be common decency to feed children properly if you are looking after them"

No thank you. No sorry for picking them up late. Just abuse about not cooking them any food instead giving sandwiches.

Pissed off is an understatement but also feel hurt.

There was no agreement about cooking tea. I did provide food.
Kids all have hot school dinners so have had a hot meal today.
No complaints from the kids anyway.
They were bloody late picking them up with no contact at all.

AAAAHHHHH So AIBU to feel like a bloody mug????

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CheCazzo · 24/01/2013 21:48

Well you know what to say next time don't you. And defriend - why would you even want such a rude atrocious cunt on your FB?

Corygal · 24/01/2013 21:50

She's a silly cunt. Bin it.

fanoftheinvisibleman · 24/01/2013 21:50

I'm afraid she'd be informed she she was was a cheeky fecking bitch here! I'd not mourn the 'loss' of a friend like that she she could go on her merry way knowing exactly what I thought.

AnonAndOnAndOn · 24/01/2013 21:51

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LovesGSD · 24/01/2013 21:51

Wow can't believe the nerve of some people! how freaking rude, I'd be fuming tooAngryAngry if I were you.

EndoplasmicReticulum · 24/01/2013 21:51

I am very cross on your behalf. How rude is that?

Delete her from Facebook and don't look after the children again.

Has she ever looked after yours?

fackinell · 24/01/2013 21:52

WT actual F? She is totally out of order. If I were her I'd be delighted and turn up with a bottle of Wineand Thanks to go with an apology for my tardiness!! I'd PM her back an equally bitchy response and delete.

jester68 · 24/01/2013 21:52

Have de-friended her. Just peed off that she felt she had the right to rant at me when I was doing her a favour!

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takeaway2 · 24/01/2013 21:52

Unfriend but not before you put the record straight! Ungrateful! Angry

littlewhitebag · 24/01/2013 21:52

Cheeky cow. Never do her a favour ever again.

PatFenis · 24/01/2013 21:53

Just a nice big 'Fuck Off' would suffice I think ...oh and defriend obviously!

sixlostmonkeys · 24/01/2013 21:53

reply to her with - Wow! are you serious?? You were late picking them up and you didn't let me know one way or another that you would be late. I fed your children....YOUR children. I am not obliged to feed other people's children their warm meal. That is YOUR responsibility. Sorry I didn't provide a good enough service for you - so I guess this means you will never ask me for a FAVOUR again. Ever.

catgirl1976 · 24/01/2013 21:53

Yup

She's a loon

Cut ties. Bin from life

jester68 · 24/01/2013 21:53

She has had my eldest over for tea a couple of times. Not looked after them cause I had to go anywhere though

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MikeLitoris · 24/01/2013 21:53

You need to reply with a big fat FUCK YOU.

Wtf is wrong with people?

No way would I let anyone get away with sending me a message like that.

Have you replied?

fackinell · 24/01/2013 21:53

Good!! A de-friending speaks volumes. I'd block her for good measure. Angry

oldraver · 24/01/2013 21:53

What was your reply ?

catus · 24/01/2013 21:53

Do you really need to ask? Of course YANBU! She sounds awful, so ignore her in future.

KenLeeeeeee · 24/01/2013 21:54

I'm afraid I wouldn't hold back in telling her what a rude, spiteful, ungrateful piece of work she is and that you certainly won't be doing her any further favours in the way of free, short notice childcare.

Angelfootprints · 24/01/2013 21:54

How rude! One of the rudest things I have ever heard of.

I would be so tempted to write "Im disgusted you couldnt even be bothered to pick your own kids at the time stated, enquire about their welfare once or inform your own children of their mothers whereabouts"

Though a dignified silence is probably better.

jester68 · 24/01/2013 21:55

I suffer real bad with depression and panic attacks. She knows this. And now feel she has been telling everyone how "horrible I have been" and will have to face all that tomorrow Sad

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waltermittymissus · 24/01/2013 21:55

Please tell me you put her firmly in her place before unfriending?

FrustratedSycamoresRocks · 24/01/2013 21:56

Yabu to have a "friend" like this.
I'd tell her exactly how you were feeling at 6.30 when DCs still had not been collected, then delete. You don't need twats in your life who take the piss and then have a go.

jester68 · 24/01/2013 21:57

I told her that I had fed the kids what I had in the house as was not expecting to have to feed them tea at all.

Also said it was common decency to let someone know if you were going to be late picking up your own children.

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jester68 · 24/01/2013 21:58

Probably should have said a lot more but think it all took me by surprise. Did not know that people like this actually exist Angry

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