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To think it's rude not to text if you're running late?

37 replies

CailinDana · 24/01/2013 15:38

I am a bit of a stickler for punctuality so I might be overreacting a bit. PILs are coming over for the weekend and said they would be here at 3. It is now 3:35 and no sign and no text. They seem to think I just sit at home and wait for them to come, that it doesn't matter if they're half an hour/hour late turning up. Seeing as I'm at home it's not a massive deal - I'm not waiting out in the cold or anything, but surely it would be polite for them to just send a text saying "running late, be there at X"? AIBU?

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DrGoogleWillSeeYouNow · 24/01/2013 15:42

YANBU, it would be the polite thing to do.

Numberlock · 24/01/2013 15:46

Absolutely it's the right thing to do but I've had people turn up late for interviews who don't think it's necessary to keep me informed so nothing surprises me!

I hope they arrive safely.

CSIJanner · 24/01/2013 15:48

It depends. If they're driving and without hands free, then they can't. But yes - I tend to ask the OH to text on my behalf or try to send a text before setting off.

Do you think thy might be stuck in snow?

ENormaSnob · 24/01/2013 15:48

Yanbu

I despise lateness.

To me it says they feel their time is so much more important than yours Angry

HecateWhoopass · 24/01/2013 15:48

No unreasonable at all.

I can't abide lateness. And I think there's no excuse for not keeping someone updated.

Well, accident, injury and so on. But apart from that...

MrsTomHardy · 24/01/2013 15:50

I don't like lateness either...it's rude not to let you know that they're running late

Isildur · 24/01/2013 15:50

If they were arriving for dinner, half an hour might matter, but I would be more forgiving if they are coming for the weekend.

It doesn't seem as time-critical some how, and I'd expect a bit of leeway on both sides.

PippinWoo · 24/01/2013 15:51

I know what you mean. Not quite the same but kind of similar, my Ex-PIL were coming to stay and it was quite a long journey. They suggested they would text when they were coming off the motorway to give me 10-15mins notice they were arriving. I thought 'Great... I'll leave the washing hanging out in the kitchen as long as possible to try and get it dry and tidy it all away when they text'.

Of course they didn't text and simply arrived and I was really embarrased because it was soon after I met them I didn't know them very well. My MIL turned out to be a bit like that and seemed to take pleasure in implying I was crap at housework although obviously on this occasion she couldn't have engineered the situation. Still the texting thing annoyed me. I hate people saying they'll do something and then not doing it.

Numberlock · 24/01/2013 15:51

If they're driving and without hands free, then they can't

Well they can't both be driving can they?!

FrustratedSycamoresRocks · 24/01/2013 15:53

I'm sure you'll get a fabulous excuse story when the do turn up.

marjproops · 24/01/2013 17:34

YANBU.

theres no excuse these days, everyone has a mobile.

In the pre-mobile days, it was the phone box down the road or a house phone.

I have a friend, even if i say half hopur earlier she STILL turns up lte, no apology, no text.

its just rude and disrespectful.

marjproops · 24/01/2013 17:35

half HOUR earlier..not to self.....Marj, proofread before sending

marjproops · 24/01/2013 17:35

and again! losing my vowels today. soz.

ivykaty44 · 24/01/2013 17:36

what did people do before mobile phones..?

OwlLady · 24/01/2013 17:39

it doesn't bother me at all

Hullygully · 24/01/2013 17:39

perhaps they lost their gloves

OwlLady · 24/01/2013 17:40

if I am at home that is, I really don't see why it is such an issue - especially if someone is travelling to you, but you haven't been clear about how far they have to travel. They might live next door

OwlLady · 24/01/2013 17:40

they could have lost their phone

fairylightsinthesnow · 24/01/2013 17:52

it can mess up things like baby nap times. Mine used to wake if anyone came to the door (tiny house) and I would have it planned that I would wait til they came before putting them down. if they were late, it buggered things up, especially if I didn't know they were going to be late.

OwlLady · 24/01/2013 17:56

god really, are people that anal?

runawaysimba · 24/01/2013 18:09

Anal about someone being more than half an hour late with no indication of how much more late they may be? Yes, people are that anal.

rainbow2000 · 24/01/2013 18:19

Nothing more annoying, teh next time just dont do them something to eat and say we werent sure what time you were coming

fryingpantoface · 24/01/2013 18:21

I hate this! my mil was late often, every single time we were supposed to meet.

My mil wanted my son for the day a while back, asked for him. So I made plans for half ten, she was supposed to be here "no later than 10". At 10.20 I text and she replied saying she had slept in. I didn't let her have ds, i said i had plans i couldn't be late for. She was really upset, but she's never been late again.

I'd have gone out and waited for them to call

fryingpantoface · 24/01/2013 18:23

God that sounds heartless, but it was every time. Even if I gave her a time 30 mins before it was necessary, or she chose a time.

It just felt like my time wasn't worth as much as hers, however lovely she is

fryingpantoface · 24/01/2013 18:24

God that sounds heartless, but it was every time. Even if I gave her a time 30 mins before it was necessary, or she chose a time.

It just felt like my time wasn't worth as much as hers, however lovely she is

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